I was so busy last week dealing with various travel and family issues I didn’t notice this site had reached its two year anniversary. The first post was September 23rd 2010. Since that time I’ve published 738 posts, received 1,607 approved comments and 10,520 spam ones. In the first month of the sites life I had a grand total of 153 unique visitors drop by. By way of contrast, just in the last month I saw 100,000 unique visitors come by for around 200,000 visits. I find those numbers pretty astonishing, particularly given the random nonsense from my brain that gets posted here every day.
When I started the site I wasn’t exactly sure what I’d get out of it or how long it’d last. I really just wanted an outlet for a side of myself that got very limited expression in my daily life. But what has really inspired me to keep the posts flowing is the interaction I’ve had with all my great kinky readers. I’ve received a fantastic collection of comments and emails from sources such as femdom artists, pro-dommes, equipment makers, BDSM writers, fellow bloggers and loads of people out there just looking for some kinky fun in their lives. So a big thank you to all my readers and everyone who I’ve interacted with over the past couple of years. You’ve made creating this site a real pleasure.
I’ll leave you with a suitably appropriate image from Kami Tora. It was done originally for the one year anniversary of his fan site. Hopefully he won’t object to its re-use here.
Congratulations on your second anniversary!
Thanks! Appreciate it.
This is an excellent opportunity to do what I intended since I first came across your site over a year ago, and that is to congratulate you on producing such an entertaining and useful FemDom collection on such a wonderful topic! It surely represents a not inconsiderable amount of work, certainly in its earlier stages anyway. Your passion and reverence for Female Dominance is clear for all to witness.
A while back, you dwelt a bit on discovering and exploring the joy of FemDom later in life than you would have liked, but wondered nonetheless whether that very passion might stand in the way of finding a life partner and leading an otherwise “normal” life. In other words, would ignorance have ultimately been the better course (a fair summary, I think)?
My response is that ignorance on any topic is NEVER bliss. There are far too many ill-informed and ill-educated people out there as it is! From there flow prejudice, nastiness, resentment, unhappiness, etc… Anyway, like the atom bomb, one cannot forget knowledge once discovered (that said, there is no necessity for the vast and growing arsenals still in existence today, but that’s another subject!). Much better, and infinitely more harmless, is to acquire an extensive knowledge about, and experience of, FemDom!
Granted, FemDom in a loving relationship can, and never should be, its main component. Yet, it is a fact that if it is important to at least one partner, then it should not remain a taboo topic anymore than any other one. It must be addressed openly and, where there is true love for, and openness with, one another, I believe a mutually satisfactory and satisfying solution can be found. Sexual openness, crucially, has to exist, that’s for sure, but then why share one’s life with someone else if that central pillar of a relationship (even though it is certainly not the only essential pillar) does not stand rock solid? Of course, FemDom may well “reveal itself” for many couples only later in life, but sexual openness and broad compatibility, and deep trust, should be absolutely natural, certainly pre-requisites, for any two people in love. Then, even if one partner is not fully at one with the other on the topic, I firmly believe that a happy solution can be found. Anyway, I think it is definitely true that it is possible for a male to seduce the Domme in his Female partner, to some extent at least, if he is patient with her and she comes to realise the benefits for hers and their life together.
My wife and I have been together 27 years and have always been totally open sexually with each other, and very experimental, including exploring FemDom (even male-dom!) kink “in the bedroom” over the years. Yet, we only embarked on a serious FemDom relationship about six years ago. Too often, vanilla life unfortunately and inevitably frustrates us, but it is nonetheless now an unshakable and permanent part of our life, one that has added another rich layer to it. We could never go back to not sharing that very important FemDom component. As I say, vanilla life is the constant enemy, but the fact is that the love of my life (and me Hers) is also my Goddess and Owner, and I Her possession, slave and slut, and that She controls me sexually 100%. That fulfills us immensely.
A word of caution: you mentioned having children in your original piece. We never planned on having any but have three of them. We love and adore them, BUT it is nevertheless a simple and unavoidable fact that our inevitable (and unbegrudging!) devotion to them has curtailed significantly our freedom to explore and live the FemDom lifestyle. That said, our youngest is now nearly 15, and there is more light at the end of the proverbial tunnel!
Best wishes! William
Thanks William. I really appreciate your lengthy and thoughtful comment here. Glad you like the site and enjoy what I’ve put together here.
My comments around ‘ignorance is bliss’ were more musings over the possibilities and trade-offs than a definitive statement of opinion. I also prefer knowledge and options to ignorance. That’s pretty much my default position on anything, but I thought it was interesting to ponder the alternatives. Opportunity cost is a tricky thing, and it’s always hard to value the opportunities that aren’t taken in either direction.
I think it’s great you’ve managed to put together such a long lived and successful relationship with your wife. I think it’s a dream for a lot of guys to be in the position you’ve managed to create for yourself. My best wishes for both of you!
-paltego
Congratulations!!!!! You are one of the best!!!! We must meet again for coffee soon!!!
~ Vista
Thanks Vista. Appreciate the comment and the sentiment. Happy to grab coffee whenever you’re in Seattle with a little free time 🙂
-paltego
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY PALTEGO!
I’m new to your site, but I read it at least once or twice a week. I enjoy it. It’s fun!
Though my blog has only a modest number of readers, I must agree that the support and feedback I get from them is hugely gratifying. It’s really weird, the people you run in to on the internet, lol!
You’ve accomplished a LOT in 2 years! Good for you!
I hope you keep blogging for a long time to come.
Margo
Thanks Margo. I appreciate the good wishes. Certainly plan to keep blogging and I hope to keep you entertained for a good while yet!
-paltego