I’m continuing the financial domination theme by linking to this article by Mistress Blunt. It features a lengthy interview with her female financial submissive. That combination of a professional domme, a female submissive and a findomme kink is pretty rare.
I really enjoyed the way the interview unfolded, and their dynamic comes across as both very hot and cute. It really captures the appeal of financial domination, even for those not into it. However, the intensity of the play did make me a little uncomfortable, particularly given that it only started this year (based on comments in the interview). I’m guessing the submissive is a young professional, in a career with a high earnings growth potential. I really hope she doesn’t do anything to cause her future self to curse the foolishness of youth.
I was lucky enough to find myself in a similar position in my career when I moved to the US. In hindsight, there are a lot of things that make me want to reach back in time and slap some sense into the younger me, but fortunately money management isn’t one of them. I always split my finances into essential (food, rent, etc.), discretionary (luxuries, trips, etc.) and investment (saving for retirement). One thing I did right was to be strict about funding my kinky fun purely from the discretionary bucket. Obviously I was hugely privileged and lucky to be able to fund all three, but I’m very glad now that I kept that distinction. I don’t have a financial domination kink, but it would have been very easy to have gone wild splurging on multi-day multi-domme play and lengthy kinky foreign trips.
For me it’s important to always treat professional kinky interactions as a luxury item. That’s not to say kink itself is optional, but paying for it with a professional certainly is. I imagine that it becomes a lot harder to maintain that kind of distinction when your kinks are intimately bound up with money and how its distributed. I can only hope the finsub in question can picture a conversation with her future self and ensure she’s careful to make it a happy one.
This is the beautiful Mistress Blunt, in an image from her gallery page. She’s a NYC based pro-domme whose professional site can be found here and her twitter feed here.
Dear Paltego.
I can understand your anxieties about this relationship and I share them.
]I like the idea of the sub working for Miss Blunt and using her skills with out remuneration, to improve Ms Blunt’s finances. Thats not much different to offering to clean a Domme’s dungeon, however, turning over your salary over to someone (not your spouse of life-partner) is quite a different thing. I hope Ms Blunt exercises caution in what she does …
Ms Blunt does have an excellent reputation, so hopefully it’ll all work out well. It’d scare the hell out of me though, no matter how hot it might be!
-paltego
I’m someone who is both kind of judgemental about financial domination but who has also done it myself. I’ll admit that it can a turn-on, and I found that interview hot. I like that Mistress Blunt is separating herself from the “I’m going to ruin you” dommes. And yet the play she’s talking about is on the extreme end. With findom, the line between what might really happen and what’s fantasy gets kind of blurred. Will their relationship really progress in all the ways they discuss? Maybe, maybe not. Living on minimal funds without savings while giving your paycheck away, I’ll agree, is a risky lifestyle choice in a time of real economic peril.
I’m a bit like you in terms of only spending discretionary funds for any kind of domination. Yet financial domination plays with — and kind of instills — a real compulsion to bust through that. When the dynamic clicks in, it’s very different than sessioning by the hour with a pro domme. I was on a call once with a woman I’ve done financial domination with, and I made a comment about my budget, and she snapped, “You don’t get to budget with me,” which was hot. At the same time, she actually did respect the budget… not everyone out there would.
Interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing it.
I agree on the hotness of the idea, but couldn’t live with the reality of it myself. Your second paragraph is exactly what makes me very happy I don’t have a financial domination kink. It would seem like a very dangerous mix that’s hard to keep separate.
I guess it’s a bit like gambling. If the amount is small enough to not matter, there’s no thrill. Only when it gets to a point you actually care does it become interesting.
-paltego