Male arousal is a funny thing. I find it’s often treated as a binary state. Erect=Aroused. Flaccid=Unaroused. But the reality is a little more complex than that. It’s probably a safe bet to say that the gentleman in the shot below is fairly aroused. The positive state is hard to disguise or confuse. The converse situation is a little trickier to interpret. There are many times where my brain and body have been very excited, awash in adrenalin and endorphins, but my cock has decided retreat and concealment is the best course of action. There’s a level of pain that my brain and body finds appealing, which leads to arousal. A pinch to the nipples would be a good case in point. But there’s a further and more intense level of pain that my brain still enjoys, but by body (or at least its arousal and hydraulic system) gives up on. A severe caning is wonderful, but some important bits of my body don’t always seem to agree.
None of this would really matter if this state of affairs was widely understood. But it sometimes seems not to be. In non-kinky sex then it’s probably true that a flaccid man is an unexcited man. Or at least a man in need of little blue pills. But kinky sex requires an entirely different set of rules. Just because everything isn’t standing to attention all the time doesn’t necessarily mean the gentleman isn’t enjoying what’s happening to him.
I found this on the domme pics site.
No place I would rather be. This never fails to get my soldier to stand up and salute.
Yes, I thought you’d appreciate that shot. It is indeed a happy place to be!
Hi paltego,
What an excellent point you’ve made here. Flaccid doesn’t always mean unaroused. Especially if one is in deep space, tranced out. I’v noticed the opposite as well. Emotionally kind of disconnected yet still very erect.
Best,
scott
Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse
It’s a bit of a cliche to joke about the cock having a mind of it’s own, but like a lot of cliches, it’s grounded in some truth. Like you I can be very emotionally uninvolved and get visibly exited. Or alternatively, deeply emotionally connected and feeling incredibly spaced, but have no obvious arousal.
In some ways it seems to be learned behavior. In the post I commented about the line between intellectual and physical arousal, where intensity can repress the physical but enhance the intellectual. I think over time that line for me has moved, and what used to have a negative physical effect has sometimes become a positive one.
-paltego
Getting flogged, paddled, & my nips tortured usually keeps me semi-erect at best. The excitement lasts for hours after. And later I can get aroused & erect just thinking about the next session.
I think for me it comes down to the degree of torture. All those things can be both physical triggers when done to one level, and masochistically enjoyable but negative physically when done to the extreme.
And I definitely can get aroused and erect thinking about both previous and future sessions!
A severe caning is wonderful, but some important bits of my body don’t always seem to agree.
Or in my case, a pegging. Ass play can be very nice, but it often makes me lose my erection until it’s over.
Pegging is a mixed bag for me. The initial penetration can be painful and uncomfortable, which has a strong negative effect on my erection. But once I kind of relax into it, and the prostate starts getting involved in proceedings, then I find it really promotes an erection. For me it’s very much down to how gently the pegger takes it and what time I get to acclimatise to the activity.
-paltego
Depends on the size of the peg. 😉
The larger the diameter of the penetrating dildo the more difficulty I have in achieving a full erection.