A question for masochists and sadists whose play has been curtailed by the virus: What do you think this enforced absence and isolation has done to your desire to inflict or absorb pain? Does the lack of play have you craving intense beatings and no holds barred sadism? Or has the stress and strangeness of it all left you wanting intimacy and more gentle activities?
My impression from kinky social media is that the sadists amongst us (God bless them) are craving hard play. They have pent up energy to expend and can’t wait to unleash it. The general attitude of masochists is harder to read. I’m personally unsure where my headspace is at. I’d love to play again. I miss it desperately. I’m just not sure if I’m craving pain or not. The world is so weird, and my stress levels so distorted, I really have no idea how I’ll respond when I can session again. That’s a unique state of mind for me, but I guess we’re all living through a unique situation.
This is an old image from OWK. She clearly wasn’t in a conflicted state of mind about her sadistic tendencies. Hopefully he felt the same way from the masochistic perspective.
I’ve had a couple of sessions with Dommes I know well. If length of time for marks inflicted to disappear is a good measure of how much they missed sessioning (and I think it is), they had a lot of pent up energy and a stronger than usual desire to satisfy their sadistic urges.
Ha! Marks can be a pretty good intensity indicator. That pent up energy does seem to align with what I’ve seen and the emails I’ve swapped with some dommes.
Thanks for the comment.
-paltego
I’m not into heavy S&M, so I can not answer from that perspective. But, I did recently session for the first time since early January, so 6 months. I only session with one domme (and she knows that), so that was a factor as well. But, for the things I am into and are typical for our sessions, the tone / ambiance / outcome was definitely harder. And it was from both perspectives – both the sub and the domme. Our sessions are normally very high energy, dynamic and interactive – but this one was even a few notches above our normal session. It was time to play, we came ready to play, and we played our asses off. Absence and desire was very strong given the long time frame between sessions.
Glad to hear you have such a good intense session and you were both up for playing that way. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Definitely most dommes I’ve talked to (or read online) seem to be in that mode. I might session next month, so it’ll be interesting for me to see if I react in the same way.
Thanks for stopping by.
-paltego