Regular and observant readers may have spotted that I haven’t written about my own play sessions for a while. I haven’t been hiding anything. Since Lydia retired I haven’t played at all. It’s the longest I’ve gone without getting my kinky itch scratched for many years.
I suspect part of the reason for that is that I’m still partially in denial about Lydia. While I played with other dommes when I traveled, I only ever played with Lydia in my home town. She was always my reference point. Going through the process of finding someone else and seeing them regularly to build that new relationship will be a very clear statement about moving on. At some level I’m still trying to come to terms with that. On an intellectual level that seems pretty crazy, but I’m OK with being a little crazy.
Fortunately, this coming week gives me a chance to dip a toe back into kinky waters, as I’m going to be down in San Francisco. That means a chance to visit Domina Yuki and Domina Ai-Li. I’ve played many times in the past with these two talented dommes (for example see here, here and here) and I’m really looking forward to seeing them again. It’ll give me a chance to relax and play without having to deal with a lot of extra baggage. For doing my first couple of sessions since Lydia, this seemed a great way to go. Hopefully when I return I’ll have my kinky fires lit and will start exploring the Seattle scene more.
I should have the time to keep blogging when I’m on vacation, but posts may be a little more erratic than usual. Apologies in advance for that. In the meantime I’ll leave you with a shot of Domina Yuki and Ai-Li in action
Have a good time with loads of kinky fun in SF
Thanks! That’s certainly the plan š
Hope you have fun in SF! A little down time for regrouping isn’t a bad thing.
Didn’t Lydia suggest anyone to you as she was leaving? Perhaps she could have brought in another mistress for your final sessions as a kind of hand off? What do you think?
Thanks! Sure I’ll have a good time here in SF.
Lydia did suggest a few people that she thought would be a good fit for me. But, as I mentioned in one of the other comments, it has been more an issue of making the emotional/metal transition than anything else. It’s an interesting idea to do a ‘hand off’. Not sure if that would have worked or not. The final couple of sessions were kind of emotional so it might have been weird to have a stranger there. Also if it hadn’t have gelled with the other domme it might have been an awkward situation. Maybe with a few months to plan a change that might have worked, but with only a few weeks I think focusing on having a great final few sessions was the right approach.
-paltego
I was thinking the same thing. Lydia knows you quite well (I presume) and has an extensive network. Why not ask her for a few suggestions? That way you have a better chance to find someone how is a good fit for you.
It’s not so much a problem of finding someone. Lydia actually did give me a few suggestions about who she thought would be a good fit. We chatted a fair bit about other potential options. I’ve also played with a fair number of dommes in other cities, so I’m pretty familiar with the process of figuring out who might be a good play partner.
I think it has been more an issue of a mental block. I’ve repeatedly put off starting with someone new, although not for any particularly conscious reason. I suspect the subconscious reason is that playing with some else in Seattle means I’ve completely moved on from Lydia, and there’s still part of me in denial about that. Which as I said is a little crazy, but I’m OK with a little crazy. Life is what it is.
-paltego