The majority of blogs on my blogroll are femdom related, but I have a few that are more generally kink or sex related. One of these, Under His Hand by Kaya, is specifically about a male dominant relationship and typically doesn’t overlap with the typical material I post here. However, I enjoy reading it for the very open and honest way she discusses the ups and downs of her D/s relationship. The problems of fitting BDSM play around families and dealing with D/s dynamics outside a stereotypical dungeon space, are common problems for a lot of kinky people. And of course, a fun description of an intense BDSM scene is always entertaining, whichever gender is on the top!
I think one of her recent posts, called ‘If they only knew’, would resonate with a lot of kinky people. She describes visiting a tattoo parlor with her daughter, and the gentle teasing she receives as the straight-laced mom, hanging out with all the ‘freaks’ into piercings and tattoos. Little do they know about all the freaky stuff mom likes to do with needles and blood and pain….
Personally I find that there is something very pleasurable about keeping this kind of happy secret. I always enjoy quietly deflecting questions about what I was doing or where I was on a particular play night. Although I do sometimes run through some possible answers in my head:
“Oh, sorry I couldn’t meet you guys for drinks. I was being tied down by a beautiful woman who wanted to push a whole bunch of needles through my cock.”
or
“Sorry I’m late. I just spent the last couple of hours with an electrified plug up my ass and a plastic bag over my head. It made it a little tricky to get away.”
Maybe one day I’ll spring one of these answers on an unsuspecting friend. Although I think I’ll try and do it when we’re at a bar and they’ve just taken a mouthful of drink. That should maximize the entertainment value of the reaction.