Via the Detroit News comes this story of a domme called Temptress Nirvana facing prison time for blackmail. It’s hard to tell if this was a fin domme scene gone very badly wrong, a straight out extortion attempt or something in-between. The article seems to rely almost entirely on the police report, which is certainly damming, but hardly a trustworthy and unbiased source. The domme’s twitter feed looks like a lot of similar ones from other fin dommes. i.e. Lots of selfies, suggestions to send money and reports of cash gifts.
Whatever the details of this particular case, I can’t help thinking that this might be the kind of thing we see a lot more of in coming years. For one, it typically seems to involve horny older men with a humiliation and blackmail fetish talking to young and attractive but inexperienced women who want money. That seems like a combination primed for disaster. I’m sure there are some highly skilled and trustworth fin dommes out there but, like every area in life, the bad always outnumber the good.
The other things that makes me think this’ll be a repeating storyline is changing demographics. Fetishes are said to develop when people are children or adolescents. Most of today’s middle-aged men with money and blackmail fetishes will not have grown up with the internet. The generation that follows them will have. They’ll have experienced formative events involving social media, and I have to think that’ll play into what kinks are popular in the years to come. If doing online blackmail scenes becomes increasingly popular, then it’s inevitable there will be more spinning out control and ending up in court.
From a personal perspective, I don’t need help from someone like Temptress Nirvana to spend my money. Most of it has a very brief and passing relationship with my bank account at the best of times.
This is from the twitter feed of the domme in question.
Thanks for posting your article about “findom” gone badly wrong. I have been in a longtime relationship with a pro-domme. We have had a few discussions about the subject. She and her friends seem to feel it’s both dangerous, and morally highly questionable.
1. Blackmail is against the law. Once it’s discovered, the police and the local justice dept. will take over, and the case will take on a life of its own. This has the potential to destroy lives of both the pro-domme, the slave, his family, and maybe even the friends and relatives of the pro-domme.
2. If the slave’s partner gets a hint of even a trace of this activity where does it lead. Pretty easy to see disaster in that. Most critically, this means that the pro-domme/slave relationship is no longer about two consenting adults, but possibly about hurting others.
My domme, who is stunning I might add, has turned down maybe a half a dozen requests for “findom’ over the last year alone. She does very well without it and sleeps soundly. Thanks for listening.
Glad you enjoyed the post. It’s an interesting topic. Not a kink that personally resonates with me, but I find the psychology and the issues involved (as you describe) fascinating.
I’m guessing it would be possible to structure the scene as a consensual roleplay – much like you can pretend to abduct somebody but not be charged with kidnapping. But the edge seems very fine, and the chances of third parties interpreting it differently very high, which, as your domme suggests, makes it very dangerous. I wouldn’t want to bet on the law or a partner being tolerant or understanding.
Of course in this case, if the original article is to be believe, it seems less like a scene out of control and more like straightforward extortion. But the reporting in this cases can often be badly biased, so who knows.
Thanks for stopping by and for the thoughtful comment!
-paltego