Today is a significant date for me. It’s exactly 10 years to the day from my very first session with a pro-domme. Which means it’s exactly 10 years from my first shared kinky experience and my first physical exploration of BDSM.
I wrote about the causative event for this a few weeks back. Despite the fact I made a decision to see a pro-domme before Christmas 2009, the anal retentive researcher that shares my brain took several weeks to figure out exactly who that should be. The final recommendation from my internal librarian was Lady Lydia McLane. I think a big part of that was the easy contact form she had on her website that simply allowed me to tick activity boxes rather than writing scary words in an email. The fact she was a stunningly attractive redhead might also have played a small part in the process. It turned out to be an inspired choice. I couldn’t have asked for a better person to guide me on the start of my kinky journey.
Lady Lydia has been retired for some years now. Her playspace, where I experienced so many of my kinky firsts, was razed and turned into condos. Such is the story of Seattle over the last decade. However, it did seem appropriate that I celebrated my kinkyversary tonight with another amazing Seattle domme – Savannah Sly. I hadn’t particularly planned to session on this specific date, but it ended up feeling appropriate that I did so. Particularly because we were playing in the same neighborhood, and I parked in almost exactly the same spot I did back on January 28th 2010.
My first session consisted mostly of a simple caning. Tonight’s also featured the heavy use of a cane, but Savannah also added paddles, staples, needles, electricity and breathplay into the mix. My kinky appetites have expanded somewhat over the last decade. What hasn’t changed is the joy each session brings me and the gratitude I feel to the dommes involved. They’ve literally changed my life.
I’m sure I’ll have more thoughts on my kinky journey to share in subsequent posts. In the meantime I’ll leave you with a shot of Lady Lydia that captures the essence of her play. Astonishingly beautiful, intensely sadistic and so happy in the moment.
This is Lady Lydia shooting for kink.com with EuroSex back in 2007.
Paltego,
Congrats on 10 years! Your story for motivation and purpose was inspiring and rang true. I have been in the pro scene for 16 years, and my journey and experiences and benefits are similar to yours.
I would still like to have a looonnnnggg cup of coffee with you. I think we would connect on many levels, and I LOVE your perspective and sense of humor. ;o)
Celeste
Thanks! Glad you’ve had similarly positive experiences.
If I’m ever going to be in your part of the world then feel free to drop me a line. I always announce any trips I’m taking here, so happy to grab a coffee. You’re in NYC, right? Sure I’ll be over on that side of the country at some point this year.
-paltego
I liked this post. Kinkaversity is very meaningful to me. My first visit to a pro domme was on May 30, 2013. I saw Mistress Damiana Chi. On May 30, 2018, She collared me as Her slave.
bdsm is so fun, and the relationships and memories along the way are priceless.
Rich
Sorry, Kinkaversary.
Thanks! Always nice to recognize and remember important moments in life.
Also, congratulations on earning her collar. Mistress Damiana is a really great domme. I was actually just emailing her to set up a session when I’m next down in LA :-).
-paltego
Bit older than you are. Also traveled a different road. I’ve always known where I was heading. No doubt whatsoever. Please don’t mistake that for arrogance, the journey is different for all of us.
Despite that, it took me a long time. Not because I didn’t want to. To much [vanilla] fun. Some things never change. Can’t recall exactly when, but for me it was also about ten years ago, I first crossed over to the Dark Side. No regrets, just that ever since I’ve been “struggling” to balance the best of both worlds.
Last December you wrote a deeply personal post about how edging changed your life. Impressive read, even if at times I felt like a peeping Tom. Glad you found your calling. Also very happy you share your thoughts with others. Few of us do. You wrote something similar in the past.
Congratulations and for as long as you feel like it, keep on writing. But above all, enjoy the Dark Side. Hard to explain to outsiders, but without fun the Dark Side instantly implodes. Let’s keep that our little secret. Thanks for a great blog.
Thanks for the comment and sharing your thoughts.
Interesting that you continue to struggle to find the balance. For me the 10 years has been a fairly steady progression in just a single direction. Not saying I’ve grown to dislike vanilla as a flavor. It’s just dropped to always being my final choice :-).
That post last December was a tricky one. I think the reason I delayed sharing it for so long was because it was so personal. Definitely a risk of being TMI, so I do understand the ‘peeping Tom’ observation.
Glad you’ve enjoyed the blog. Always nice to hear that. I always read and enjoy your site and posts as well. There’s a general shortage of good femdom blogs, so let’s both try to keep the writing going for as long as we can :-).
-paltego