I think as blog post titles go, that’s got to rate as a pretty brave one. Half the world’s population and one of its most popular and controversial subjects, all covered in one post. Fortunately for any readers out there, I’m not going to venture many of my thoughts. Instead I’m going to link to a couple of articles I stumbled upon within a few hours of each other this evening. I should also point out this post is not related to female domination at all. If you’re looking for a post on that, then be patient and I’m sure one will be turning up very shortly. This is just me pointing towards a couple of articles on sex, women and pornography that I thought were intriguing to compare and contrast.
The first one is from the British paper the guardian, and is about women and pornography addiction. It annoyed the hell out of me. It’s a typical sex negative article, packed with underlying assumptions about pornography and the people who create and use it. The writer even manages to imply that masturbating to pornography is comparable to a heroin habit. Obviously any addictive behavior that negatively impacts your normal life is a bad things, but the clear agenda of this articles author tainted the entire piece.
The second one is from Miss Maggie Mayhem, a writer and porn performer, and describes how she found herself masturbating to Penn Jilette (of Penn and Teller fame). I was still grumpy from the porn addiction article when I read this, and it managed to cheer me up and put a big smile on my face. The positive, happy and unapologetic way she discussed her sexuality and pornography was a welcome breath of fresh air after the previous rubbish I’d read. It’s a long article, but well worth reading in my opinion.
I live so much of my virtual life on the Internet at sites that are kink and sex positive, that it’s sometimes easy to forget how many negative viewpoints are out there. The communities I inhabit consider a controversial topic to be if incorporating excrement into a scene is a safe or sane thing to do. Or what are sensible limits to adhere to when experimenting with breathplay. I try to imagine those topics being addressed in and coherent thoughtful manner by a mainstream publication and my brain starts threatening to explode. There’s a lot of ‘fertilizer feminism’ out there as Maggie amusingly puts it, and I’m grateful to her, and women like her, for speaking up with their alternative point of view.
And with that, I declare this minor deviation from the regular programming at an end. Normal femdom service will be resumed forthwith.