I’ve one final comment on the topic of ending a relationship with a pro-domme: If you’re of advancing years and/or have health issues, then I’d say always try and let a domme know if you decide to stop or take a break from regular sessions with her.
I say this because I’ve lost count of the number of worried tweets and comments I’ve seen from dommes with regulars who fitted this profile and who suddenly stopped showing up. As Simon commented previously on this exact topic, dommes when outside the dungeon and when they’re not hitting people with sticks, are typically very compassionate people. If you’ve any doubt about that I’d point you to this very moving post by Dana Kane.
If some random middle aged guy ghosts then they’ll put it down to one of those things. If an older regular suddenly vanishes then they’re likely to be a lot more concerned. You don’t want to leave them fearing the worst, no matter how good they might look in black.
I believe this is an image created by the photographer Lado Alexi.
Thank you for sharing the link to Dana’s grief, so very very moving. Really worth the read!
When I started writing the post I didn’t have that link in mind at all. I was part way through it when I started thinking “Didn’t I link to something relevant to this before?” That made me dig through my old posts, which got me to my original link in 2017: https://www.femdom-resource.com/2017/02/08/dana-kane/
Seemed very appropriate here.
Definitely very moving. Glad you felt the same way. I teared up a bit reading it again.
-paltego
This is a really interesting topic, and one that made me self assess.
After assessment, I strongly believe that if either of us was to ‘retire’ from sessioning, for what ever reason, we would advise and disclose to each other. I think it would be both a happy and sad moment, reflecting on our past, and remorseful that it is over. We communicate well, and we constantly tell each other how much we value each other.
Ultimately, how this transpires depends on how strong the chains are, and how much each other is valued from each others perspective. I got a good one! Its reciprocated both ways. It’s soooo good! Also, I truly believe, if she leaves the biz, I will likely stop too. There is NOBODY else that would even come close to her style and ways, and it just wouldn’t be the same. Its been 8 years in the works, and totally exclusive to her. I don’t even want to think about it!!!
Thanks for a great topic, and very thought provoking series of posts. It makes me value and appreciate her even more. You know?
Thanks for the thoughtful comment. Glad you like this series of posts. And happy to hear the effect they had! It’s always good to step back and appreciate what you’ve got 🙂
I can understand how you feel about stopping in the event your domme retired. When Lydia quit I needed a bunch of time to process it. I played a few times with different people over 2 or 3 years, but it took a good while before I felt like I could regularly session again with a single person. The fact it’s a professional relationship doesn’t mean there can’t be strong emotions and meaningful connections.
-paltego