After my previous post on what not to do in a session, I thought I’d follow it with a more positive one. Namely, if things do go wrong, what are some good approaches to fix the situation.
Before doing that, I’ll add two important qualifiers. Firstly, these aren’t my brilliant ideas. These are what I’ve observed creative and talented dommes do in my sessions with them. Secondly, I’m purely talking about mechanical issues here. When the battery dies, the body won’t bend or the rope just won’t cooperate. Not issues in the scene dynamic or emotions. Those are a far trickier set of problems that are above my paygrade.
Those qualifiers out the way, here’s three tricks I’ve seen successfully employed when a domme’s plan A has failed…
- Playfully blame the submissive and use that to pivot the activity. A tongue in cheek – “Well look what you’ve done now!” – remark when the clip leaps off for the third time can a great excuse to set-up a new activity. After all, if I can’t keep those clamps on my nipples, it’s only fair she kicks me in the balls a few times. Most people don’t like being blamed unfairly, but a playful funishment for something that’s obviously not the submissives fault can be a nice way to shift gears and get away from the problem.
- Shift into problem solving mode, making the submissive simply part of the puzzle to be cracked. The objectification part of this can be very hot. Suddenly there’s not a one-on-one dynamic. It’s just a domme figuring out how to make some recalcitrant equipment do the right thing. I’m no more or less important than the hard points, ropes or carabiners.
- Ditch the problematic activity, shift gears to something totally different and loudly announce that fact. Most submissives will be so excited at the prospect of the new thing, they’ll totally forget whatever wasn’t working. If a domme announces she’s going to stop trying to get her humbler to fit me and instead is going to sit on my face, I’m not going to be lying there, struggling for breath and thinking to myself – “I wish we were still fiddling around the wingnuts on that humber. That was so much more fun than this.”
Speaking of face sitting, here’s some courtesy of the Mistress Land site. I don’t know what activity they were doing 10 minutes prior to this, but I think it’s a safe bet that he’s no longer thinking about it.
I’m actually quite partial to “being blamed unfairly” in a playful context. I would indeed call it a funsihment! Strange that something I absolutely hate (being blamed unfairly) turns into something I crave in my femdom scenes. I’d also hate to be “commanded” to do an impossible task, unless it’s a scene where my commander is a dominant woman, and I’m her slave.
It’s an interesting distinction between what is frustrating in real life vs what works in a scene. How can one be so annoying and the other so much fun? I think there’s also a distinction between a scene played straight (in a roleplay) and a scene that’s done tongue in cheek. Probably worth a future post or two!
Thanks for stopping by to comment! Interesting topic.
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I love the suggestions. I know I have had moments when setting up a scene that something didn’t work out and had to find an alternative. It didn’t matter if it went a bit sideways as long as it ended well if I allowed it! So glad this site is still around.