Apologies for the gap in posting. I’m traveling and that’s been messing with my schedule.
If I’m honest, I’m feeling a little maudlin tonight. I normally enjoy dining in restaurants alone. Being brought food and wine while I read a book is my non-kinky happy place. Seeing groups or couples having fun never bothers me. What makes me sad is couples who have nothing to say to each other. There was a beautiful and elegant woman who sat across the room from me tonight and totally pinged my domme-dar. She was with an older man, who barely said a word to her through a 2hr+ meal. I’d like to think she was a sex worker making serious bank for the hours they were there. But probably not. Life’s far too short to spend time with people who don’t spark joy.
This is by the Scottish painter Jack Vettriano.
Again, totally agree. Was the man checking his phone? Were both people more consumed with social media – ie people not there – instead of the people right there in front of them?
I also see it in restaurants where whole families are each on their phones and no one is talking to each other. I think it’s not only disgraceful, but a waste of the precious time you have with your children before they leave for their own lives. Our family had a rule, no media at the table. Period.
I think it’s fostered a society where people don’t talk about ideas – what they think about something, what emotions were sparked by a movie or book they’ve read. What they think about the news…basically what they think about anything. I sometimes wonder if anyone out there is thinking at all, or are they just absorbing images on social media that are disposable, and immediately forgotten. I think it may explain the current political climate, where the image or sound bite is everything, and where complex ideas are “too hard”.
Oddly enough neither were really on their phone. Just didn’t seem to have much to say to each other.
The phone – particularly among younger groups – is definitely a common source of focus when people are out or dining together. Really kills conversation is nobody is really paying attention to each other.
-paltego