Lady Annisa has an interesting new post up that prompted a little reflection and thought on my part.
I enjoyed the post for a couple of reasons. Firstly, the temporary role reversal, with the medically inclined domme ending up in the local A&E unit is an unusual ending to a session! Obviously getting gashed on the scalp isn’t exactly amusing, but the picture she paints of the scene with the fresh faced registrar certainly is. Secondly, I also appreciated it as an illustration of just how into a scene a domme, and specifically a pro-domme, can get. Here’s someone so into playing with a particular submissive they don’t even notice a suture worthy head wound. It’s not until the blood starts splattering around that they figure out what’s going on.
There is a school of thought, often expressed by lifestyle female dominants, that a pro-domme can never be a real domme. She’s just doing a job. She’s being paid, so she’s not really in control. It’s all a bunch of smoke and mirrors, and really she’s bored/submissive/exploited/powerless.
Possessors of this kind of viewpoint always bemuses me, as it seems so incredibly simple minded. It’s as if they can’t deal with multiple simultaneous concepts. It can both be a job and enjoyable. A session can involve financial exchange without precluding power exchange. She can offer a service without automatically giving up control of the situation, or how, when and who can experience it. People can be friends and have intense meaningful interactions whilst still retaining a professional relationship.
Personally if I’m doing something I don’t enjoy, then any minor issue turns into a distraction I’ll make use of. Forget blood gushing head wounds. I’ll take a stubbed toe or a tight muscle as a reason to give-up and go do something else. In contrast when I’m immersed in a situation then a small bomb blast may go unnoticed. As Lady Annisa says…
That’s what happens when you’re enjoying yourself, you just don’t notice the pain or you process it differently
Clearly, while she might have been getting paid for her time, she was also very much enjoying herself.
For an image to illustrate this post my thoughts turned to medical play and then in turn to Kami Tora. He’s always a good source for images of sadistic medical torments.
YOur comments about relationships with life style or “pro dommes” are spot on. Really means you have to find the right girl (“dominatrix”) who’s mind set is similar to yours.
Compatibility is certainly critical, doesn’t matter if it’s a professional or not relationship. Nobody simply ‘go through the motions’ for purely financial gain is going to be successful long-term.
-paltego
I have nothing intelligent to say about this post, other than:
A scratch? Your arm’s off!
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I did wonder what percentage of people would spot the reference.
Came across this post by total accident and I’m quite tickled to find it’s about one of my posts but more specifically about how much a Pro-Domme can enjoy sessions. Some people will never be convinced of that fact, those people however asre usually ones who’ve never visited a Pro-Domme. A good session feeds the soul and is more fun than Monty Python…but only just!
Glad you happened to stumble across it, and thanks for leaving a comment to let me know. I always enjoy keeping up with your blog, and I thought it was a great post to comment on and point people at. I sometimes like to say that I’ve not a masochist, I just have a fetish for happy cheerful sadists.
A good session and fine comedy both leave me with a smile on my face and a warm fuzzy feeling inside, so they’ve definitely got that in common!
-paltego
When I was 14 and at a summer camp I got my first enemas exactly in this position by two very strict Nurses. One held my buttocks open and the other inserted the enema nozzle in my rectum and held it there while telling me to relax and be a “good boy”. I’ve always felt that the Nurses really enjoyed giving me that enema.