In the last few months there have been countless mainstream articles using the 50 Shades of Grey phenomena as a jumping off point to write about BDSM. I’ve commented on some of the poorer examples in the past. Today I’m happy to bring you one of the better ones. It’s by Vanessa Pinto and describes her experiences in a class on female domination run by Midori.
It’s a 3 day course and features lectures, a field trip and a lab session with a trainer bottom to practice on.
Something very primal came over me, and as I circled him like a bird of prey, I could see that he wasn’t as complacent as he once was. When I wound up to slap him in the face and saw the reaction that I yearned to see, one of peace mixed with excitement. I knew that he was mine to do with as I pleased.
It struck me that I’d absolutely love to be one of those trainer bottoms. And that’s not because I particularly like the idea of the play itself. I’m sure that an hour or two with a strange and novice domme is not going to compare to the regular sessions I enjoy with experts who have done it for years. I also don’t kink on semi-public play or exhibitionism. What makes the role so appealing is the chance to watch someone else discover the joy of BDSM. There’s a lot of discussion on femdom blogs about how the culture of kink puts potentially dominant women off. Just for once it’d be nice to see the other side, where a talented educator can help some women explore a repressed and potentially important part of their sexuality and personality. I think it’d be immensely fulfilling to be part of that process.
The image below features Midori and Mayan and is most definitely not taken from her introduction to female domination class. I’m fairly certain suspension scenes would be in the advanced school. This is from the movie Silken Sleeves by Maria Beatty.
I’ve been a trainer bottom a few times and it can be great, or it can be frustratings. Dommes may blossom if the trainer is talented and experienced, but if not, the novice dommes flounder away. As an experienced bottom, I want to take over to show them and teach them what to do, but that is tough to do, psychologically and physically (it’s hard to whip yourself or tie up yourself). A good trainer makes all the difference, as does the attitude and desire of the trainees. I love Midori and would love to be her trainer bottom, that’s for sure.
That’s interesting. Hadn’t really thought through that aspect of it. It’d be an oddly contrasting dynamic, wanting to be both submissive and to help out or make suggestions. A good trainer is obviously vital, as you suggest. I also guess that removing the fear of ‘doing something wrong’ and remaining positive however it unwinds would help.
Thanks for the comment and additional background information.
-paltego