Miss Margo added a comment on yesterday’s post that mentioned a Sissy Maid High Tea that she attended at a BDSM festival. Much to her surprise, she had a blast.
They were so attentive, and trying so hard to impress, and they had put so much effort into their grooming and roles…it was really very touching.
That comment made me think of the image below, which I stumbled across on tumblr a few days ago. I thought it was very sweet, which isn’t an adjective I typically find myself using about cross-dressing D/s shots.
I also got to thinking a little more about the idea of male submissives playing with gender roles. In yesterday’s post I suggested it was a popular theme in femdom, which I still think is true. But that that doesn’t necessarily mean the two things are causally connected. It could just be that men who are open to exploring emotionally and culturally fraught areas like male submission are also more open to exploring other sexually complex areas. After all, if you’ve just spent the weekend role-playing ‘Sir Reginald Thistleswaite meets the Amazonian Queen and is tortured by much Snu Snu’, then raiding your wife’s lingerie draw probably seems like a pretty minor deviation. A guy who spent the same weekend drinking beer and watching football with his buddies might not feel quite as open to it, no matter how secretly curious he might be.
paltego,
I don’t believe they’re causally related either even though it is quite popular in FD and FLR’s.
I’m sure that most submissive males can be just as attentive without any feminization to prod them along. For some though, it makes them even more attentive 🙂
Suzanne
i myself hat a time in my sexual development at an early age when i secretly tried the stockings and heels of my my mother. but it was only a phase – then i had a phase when i had a quite vanilla sexlife – and then came the time when i finally found out where i belong – on my fours in front of my Wife and Mistress. that was a long development and i “tasted” (sometimes only in my mind) several sexual lifestyles. so i was open to sexuality from the very beginning. in a way it was like a wine tasting – not necessarily in real, but in my mind i “tasted” homeseuxality, crossdressing, maledom etc. and at the moment i found out that FemDom is real, my heart was filled with warmth, power, proud and an overwhelming feeling of “being at home”. from that time i was lucky – i think FemDom was in my genes in a way.
I think a lot of guys go through the ‘try on stockings and heels’ stage when they’re teenagers (and therefore insanely horny). I know I did. I also suspect that the internet has meant that a lot more guys explore (tasting) alternative sexualities than in the past, even if it’s only via fantasy and porn. I think that’s a very healthy thing. How else can people figure out what is really right for them?
Glad to hear that you finally found your way to your true home.
-paltego
hello paltego – i think the same – i guess there are many people living vannilla though they have other needs. i am glad that i found home. it all began with the serial “the avengers” – so much Female Power and leather in it …
a the point where i am now – i try to push my limits to please my Mistress more. outside we live a normal life and no one knows about our FemDom relation. but inside She rules more and more … for my Mistress this ok – but i would wish we would live in a more open society so that i can commit myself also in public to my Mistress. but we are both in jobs where this would be rather dangerous.. besides that i am thinking about trying 24/7 just for a period to find out how it is.