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Index of Consensual Sexual Sadism

There’s a new way to measure just how sadistic you or your domme is: The  Index of Consensual Sexual Sadism. According to this article in the PsyPost it’s a tool designed to measure sadism in the context of consensual relationships, rather than the more pathological and destructive sadism inflicted non-consensually.

While teasing those two manifestations apart seems a worthy one, there is some bad news in the early findings…

One surprising finding was how consensual sexual sadism was related to marginally worse romantic relationship satisfaction,” Kinrade said. “This suggests that although these tendencies may be practiced consensually, they may nevertheless negatively impact satisfaction in romantic relationships or coincide with other behavioral tendencies that reduce romantic relationship satisfaction.

I don’t think they’ve enough data to say why that is, but I’d speculate that it could simply be due to the difficulty in finding compatible partners. Aligning kinks can be tricky. If your pool of suitable partners is smaller then that is likely to lead to less satisfaction, particularly if you’re not overtly selecting for that kink.

My biggest problem with the article is the picture they chose for the top. It looks less like a sadist in action and more like someone who has just been given a gag gift for a hen night. They need something a little more along the lines of this image.

This is Ashely Fires shooting with Jesse Carl for Divine Bitches back in 2011.

Pony and Rider

Continuing the vintage artwork theme here, but moving from dogs to ponies. This is by the German artist Richard Hegemann. According to this honesterotica article he was active in Berlin in the 1920’s through to the 40’s as a painter, sculpture and professor of art. From what I can find online, he created his kinky illustrations for himself and friends. I can’t imagine the authorities in 1930’s Germany would have been particularly accepting of this kind of art.

L´homme chien

We’re going back just over a century for today’s artwork. This is a book cover from 1906, illustrated by Raphael Kirchner. I couldn’t find much out about the book, other than what Mistress Ezada Sinn had to say in a blog post back in 2015. Apparently it was written by Pierre Dumarchey and republished under the title ‘La Comtesse au Fouet‘ with far less interesting cover art.

I love the character expressions here. With his mustache and hangdog expression he looks particularly dog like. She’s carrying a whip, but a rolled up newspaper might be more appropriate.

Fork, Shoe and Candle

This short but very sexy film by Contessa Klaudia Keys caught my eye today. It features all the implements of the title deployed to great effect on a bound man. I love the fact it manages to be minimal and very sensual all at the same time. You can find it on her instagram and (unfortunately) her Twitter.

Contessa Klaudia Keys is a Montreal based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here. The above image was sourced from her Bluesky account.

In the Park

Here’s one of the better examples of AI art I’ve seen recently. I actually didn’t think it was AI until I traced it back to the original source – this post by Dora TV.

The common problems of AI generated scenes – wonky backgrounds and oddly shaped fingers/toes – don’t appear to be present. It’s very coherent. The only thing that’s off is her handbag strap, which seems to vanish under her arm. The low part of the left lamppost also looks a bit odd, although that’s minor. Impressive stuff.

Financial Mismanagement

Reddit recently had an ‘Ask Me Anything’ thread featuring a woman whose husband secretly spent $200K on financial domination. I’ve no idea how they validate the authenticity of these kind of posts – Reddit is full of creative writing these days – but it is kind of interesting to pick through.

What struck me from the comments was how often the old cliche of kinks being tied to previous trauma came up. I thought we’d all moved past that a longtime ago. There may or may not be correlation in this case, but there are plenty of people making stupid decisions without kinks, and plenty of kinky people lacking any kind of traumatic background. Hopefully, there is a good therapist involved here to unpack the mess and help them figure it out.

It’s a lot of money to spend, but the financial domination part of it seems like a bit of a red herring. Any kind of regular engagement with professional sex workers is going to get expensive, whatever your kinky proclivities. An average in person session with a pro-domme these days is $800 or more. Do it once a month for 10 years and you’ll be closing in on $100K. I’ve never done the math on my outgoings, but it has got to easily be into 6 figures. Fortunately, I’m an overpaid tech type with no dependents to worry about. In the case of the couple in the AMA, it’s the cheating and dishonesty here that the real issue, not the type of kink.

This captioned image has been floating around on various femdom tumblrs. Not sure of the original source. It seemed appropriate here.

Categorization Complexity

Is it rude to turn art into porn? To take a shot originally intended as art and present it in a sexual context? To change the artists intentions? Assuming we can judge their intentions of course.

The most obvious cases of this are image captioning  – literally putting words into peoples mouths. A good number of these take regular non-pornographic imagery and re-cast them into a pornographic context. However, even posting an image to a themed tumblr or a blog like this changes the interpretation. I sometimes wonder about the rights and wrongs of that.

This image is of Anna Monroy di Giampilieri, shot by Slim Aarons in 1984. He was an American photographer, famous for his images of celebrities and what in those days was known as the jet set. It clearly was intended to capture the wealth, power and beauty of his subject. I think that also makes it work for the Femdom inclined, but wonder how the artist and subject would feel about that.