Category: Uncategorized

Well Dressed

One follow-up thought to the sissy themed post from earlier this week. And when I say thought, I mean a series of highly unscientific anecdotal observations from yours truly.

I think if you go back ten or more years and look at material created on the sissy theme, it tended to lean heavily into the extreme. Big wigs, heavy makeup, lots and lots of frilly pink, etc. That in turn tended to lean more into the humiliation elements of the kink. Looking good ran somewhat counter to that primary goal.

I’d suggest that has shifted in recent years. I see a lot more imagery posted on social media where the emphasis is on being well dressed, elegant and with expertly done make-up. There’s obviously still a heavy emphasis on femininity and roles like maid, waitress, escort, etc. The roleplay hasn’t changed but often the approach and style has.

As I said at the top of the post, this is based on nothing more than my random observations. I haven’t been doing a sissy survey or anything. But assuming it’s true, it’s interesting to wonder why it might be. Perhaps more people wanting to explore cross-dressing without being interested in humiliation? Is that in turn triggered by more transgender people being out and visible in society? I’ve no clue, but it’d make for a great research subject.

This image is from the Bluesky feed of Lady Justice. She’s an Edinburgh based pro-domme.

Sissy

Interesting twitter thread here on the subject of sissies from Mistress Mercer and Lady Vi. It’s a pushback on the negative press that type of play can often get. For those who understandably choose not to frequent twitter, I’ll reproduce a couple of the relevant tweets here…

My very first long-term ‘sissy’ partner PROMISED Me they “weren’t trans”, and it was just a weird sex humiliation thing.

She ended up transitioning within 6 months of being in a safe and loving environment where her gender expression and exploration was honored and appreciated.

You absolutely *do not fucking know* what someone is going through, and it’s extremely harmful to judge the way that they are coping, processing, relieving, or coming to terms with their own desires.
Mistress Mercer

It’s true. I took on a sissy years ago who wanted an extended “sissy maid” training session to prepare them for a play date they had (or something along those lines).

We only had one session and then they decided to divorce their wife and transition. People discount how profound it can be to feel safe, seen and accepted.
Lady Vi

I don’t have much to add to the topic, but it seemed like a perspective worth sharing. There must also be a large number of people who have explored this kink and – in an ideal world – would consider transitioning, but can’t bring themselves to take that step. We’re sadly not living in an open minded and accepting time.

Here’s a theme appropriate image sourced from Mistress Mercer’s twitter feed.

Mistress Mercer is a ‘Suffering & Sissification Specialist’ based out of Myrtle Beach, SC. You can find all her relevant links here.

Good Kicking

I’m sporting some lovely deep bruises on my chest and arms today. Savannah Sly was in town and last night she gave me a damn good kicking. Not to mention slapping, punching, gouging, pinching and general mashing. It left me a bruised but very happy bunny.

This photograph is not us and not from last night. It’s by Aaron Hawks from 2005. I picked it because I felt it captured a little bit of the energy of our play. Controlled deconstruction. Everything scattered but with purpose.

You can find Aaron Hawk’s professional web site here. He’s a professional photographer and artist based in my hometown of Seattle.

Gag Drool

Today’s post brings a new artist to the blog – prawncrawl. You can find them and more of their work via Bluesky.

If you’ve ever admired these open mouth style gags but not tried one, then I’d definitely recommend giving them a go. I find them wonderfully sexy things, both in art and in real life play. There’s something very invasive and therefore erotic about the domme being able to simply push their fingers (or other things) into your mouth whenever they choose to. It’s even more exciting when combined with the kind of bondage and sensory deprivation shown below.

See more great art like this on prawncrawl’s Bluesky feed.

Art, advertising or kink?

The streets of Soho (NYC edition) recently featured an unusual collaboration between fashion brand Alexander Wang and artist/domme Sabine Tautou. Designed to promote a new handbag, it featured a heavy mummification scene with a man bound to a lamppost. Yahoo news has some  background and TMZ has a  bunch of photographs. On the streets of SF during something like the Folsom Fair it’d be no big deal, but I imagine Soho commuters and shoppers might have been a touch taken aback.

Hopefully the man wasn’t enjoying it, because then it’s obviously art. Anyone passing by was getting a free cultural experience and should be grateful. On the other hand, if he was getting off on it, then that’s a kinky scene that is non consensually involving strangers. AKA a terrible thing to do. They didn’t ask to be subjected to such perversion. Of course, if he enjoyed some bits and not others, then it’s ethically more complicated. Does one cancel the other? Or is it both a cultural experience and a nonconsensual kinky scene simultaneously? Like Schrodinger’s cat, just with less cat and more duct tape.

Love Is

For some reason this drawing reminds me of the old ‘Love Is’ comic series from the 60’s and 70s. Not really sure why that is – the characters don’t look similar and the artistic style is different. I guess it just has a vibe of that era and is a very cute romantic scene.

I sourced this via tumblr. Reverse image search is garbage these days, so I’m afraid I don’t know the original artist. If you can help me attribute it correctly then please leave a comment.

Eric at 100

Eric Stanton was born 100 years ago as of September 30th. It seems amazing that one of the key BDSM and femdom artists of the 20th Century dates back to the roaring 20’s, but here we are. I’ve always loved his work. While clearly anchored in his era, it still remains fresh and exciting today.

I sourced the image below via this Comiclopedia article on him. It’s a fun self-portrait with a bound damsel reminiscent of John Willie’s work and a domme who clearly reflects Stanton’s own ideals and desires.

Multitudes

My last post touched on humiliation as a kink and elicited some interesting comments. It reminded me again that what looks like a single kink is always really many kinks hiding under a single title. It’s never a case of someone simply being into X. It’s always X done in a certain way for a particular reason.

Take watersports for example. If you’re not into it then piss is just piss. There’s only one way to not like it, but hundreds of different ways to be into it. Maybe it’s the animalistic primal nature of it. Or maybe it’s being objectified as a toilet. For one person it could be demeaning. For another it’s worship. Someone into wet messy piss play will have a very different scene to someone who dreams of being turned into a piece of toilet paper.

Humiliation is another example of a kink that’s simple on the outside, many things on the inside. A kinkster might enjoy a bullying dynamic that humiliation enhance. Alternatively, humiliation could be a cathartic release via an ego death. Maybe it’s about enhancing the domme by diminishing the submissive. Or maybe reliving an adolescent trauma that’s been eroticized over time. If you’re into objectification then humiliation might be all about reinforcing that reduction of self.

To horribly rework Tolstoy’s comment about marriages – every unhappy kinkster is alike, but each happy kinkster is happy in their own way.

My personal humiliation kink is very mild, but aligns a little with this kind of caption. It’s a positive and upbeat kind of humiliation.

This was a from a tumblr that had a bunch of similarly themed images. It’s sadly vanished, gone the way of many tumblrs. I wish I could find the creator again, as they authored a lot of well written femdom captions.