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Cosmo Moment

Cosmopolitan Magazine has an article out celebrating femdom and male submission as the ‘hot new thing.’ It always makes me happy to see positive femdom coverage in mainstream media. Destigmatizing it for women who might want to give it a try is great. At the same time, these kind of articles tend to have their fair share of eye rolling comments and this is no exception.

I was particularly amused by this part…

For many, there isn’t a traditionally sexual element — Sarah’s submissives, for example, have their genitals locked in chastity cages.

I mean I guess it’s not traditional to lock your dick up, but it’s sure as hell a sexual element. Chastity is all about sex, even if there’s no actual sex being had.

The other annoying part of the article is the references to the ‘default’ of male domination and this new ‘trend’ changing things up. When I think of actual BDSM and kinky content creators over the years, femdom has always been a huge part of it. The centralizing of men in the default dominant role in kink came from societies stereotypes, filtering from there into conventional porn, not the other way around. As one of the submissives interview in the article puts it…

maybe we’re all more open about where the baseline of kinky sexuality has always been

The artwork is by the great Eric Stanton. A man celebrating femdom decades before American society decided it was safe for women to be in charge of their own credit.

Moving from the bad place

Circe has provided some useful suggestions for encouraging people to move from the bad place (aka Twitter) to Bluesky. There’s a list for sex workers and one for clients. Worth sharing if you’re on social media.

I have to admit I find it frustrating when people complain a bunch about Trump, Musk and the current political climate, but then exclusively post on Musk’s Twitter. I get posting to both if your livelihood depends on Twitter views, but at least provide the same content on Bluesky.

I do still occasionally scan Twitter, given that a lot of dommes continue to use it exclusively. But I refuse to post, hit like or otherwise engage with it. I’ve struggled with my linking policy. I hate sending anyone there but I also hate not attributing content. My compromise is to try and find any alternative link I can provide, whether that’s Bluesky, Instagram, Reddit or whatever. Only if there’s literally no alternative will I link. If a content creator is exclusively sharing content there, I figure I either need to live with that link or not share the content.

Circe is a professional girlfriend based in London. You can find her Bluesky here and her professional site here. While she’s not a domme, I figure a lovely image of a gorgeous woman is never unwelcome. The visual stories she has on her site are unusual and beautiful. Well worth checking out.

The right amount of comfy

There’s something particularly hot about a small beaten up bed in a big cage like this. If a cell looks too comfy then it gives off the wrong vibe. But if it looks too minimal then it runs into my inner realist. I know my 50 year old back and knees couldn’t survive on a cold concrete floor with just a thin blanket for company. This kind of bed strikes just the right note of rickety uncomfortableness. Plus, those metal legs give nice attachment points for the chains.

I located this via tumblr. The domme is obviously named Healah Sin. However, her website is defunct and I can’t find any active social media presence. So I’m guessing she’s retired.

Happy 2026

Crazy to think we’ve reached 2026. That seems like the kind of date I’d see in a Sci-Fi novel not on a calendar. Shame it has turned out to be the dystopian kind of Sci-Fi.

Anyway, let’s not end this crazy year on a down note. Hope everyone has a great 2026, with as much kink as you body and spirit can safely handle. However you plan to celebrate the new year – whether it’s out to a party or, like this lady, spending a night in with a glass of wine and a good book – I wish you well. May the new year bring good things.

I found this on tumblr. Google once again failed me on reverse image searching, but I’m pretty sure that’s Mistress Charlotte Douleur. She’s a London based pro-domme.

Fake Cock

I don’t feature a lot of ruined orgasm material here. That’s not because I don’t think it’s hot. It’s actually a kink I love and have played with in sessions. The problem is that it works better as a video or animated gif, and I don’t want to put those bandwidth hogs on my frontpage.

However, I’m making an exception for this post. Partly because I think it’s fairly clear what’s going on here even with a still image. Mostly because I think it’s unusual, interesting and sexy. You can check out the full video clip via this Reddit post. It’s by Ruby Ripple and features her jerking off a parallel fake cock while the real one aimlessly spasms and jerks around alongside it. It reminds me of the fake hand experiment, just with less hammers and more jizz.

You can find more from Ruby via her Reddit posts and her Fans sites.

A good night’s sleep

I always appreciate a seriously kinky scene rendered in an unusual or unexpected style. This reminds me of the kind of illustration you’d find in an old children’s book. Something involving magical rings or secret doorways. It’s an Edwardian tale of a plucky girl, her emotionally distant Uncle, the stern but caring housekeeper and, of course, the special friend she keeps locked under her bed.

I’d love to know who created it, but Google seems to be determined to ruin their image search with AI. In quick succession it gave me 4 entirely different suggestions for the artist name, all of whom are well known artists but whose styles are absolutely nothing like this. It claimed it was the cover of a particular children’s book, which it’s not, and named the wrong illustrator for that book. At one point it even said the piece was called ‘The Cage’ but then changed it’s mind and said it was unknow. Just endless useless hallucinations.

If you can help me attribute it then please leave a comment. I’m suspicious it has been cropped or edited at some point to remove the name.

Naughty Boy

Continuing the festive themed femdom comics – here’s something from creator MyGumsAreBleeding. It’s not quite as cuddly as yesterday’s post, but it did make me smile. Santa is clearly a switch given this and the previous comic.

You can find more from the creator on Reddit, their Patreon and Instagram. I’ve particularly enjoyed his series ‘Summoning Grandmas’. Totally not femdom but fun. You can find the catchup series of posts for that here along with the latest part at the top.

Mistress Clause

Tis the season for kinky artists to give us Christmas themed smut. In this case it’s Jo (featured previously here) with a big old candy cane for Santa. I like the fact Santa has kept his festive socks on and Mistress Clause has some cookies close at hand. Presumably in order to keep her energy levels up.

You can find more from Jo on their Bluesky, Patreon and Reddit. Or just check out their collection of links here.

Edging

This comic – by Luck of the Draw – made be smile. However, at the risk of being pedantic about a comic, there is a significant flaw in the premise. As I covered in my last post, arranging to meet a pro-domme for the first time is not a trivial thing. Anyone shooting Dawn a 1 line email asking her to come by and edge them on Monday afternoon is going to be disappointed.

I guess the reverse situation would be worse. Imagine expecting a sultry domme with a party sized jar of lube and opening the door to a sweaty guy sporting a weed wacker. That’d be a libido killer. Unless of course, you’re into that kind of thing.

You can find more from Luck of the Draw at her Patreon, her Bluesky and over on Reddit.

Introductions

Playing with Domina Sophie Agenoux required me to do something I rarely do these days: Introduce myself.

When I visit a city I typically play with people I already know. For example, Tess and Troy in NYC and Domina Yuki in SF. Setting up a session there just requires an email exchange to figure out dates and times. For someone new there’s the dance of references, describing interests, figuring out the appropriate dynamic, getting location information, setting limits, etc.

I have to say that Domina Sophie’s process was one of the best I’ve been through. Not only was it well organized and efficient, her session form (sent after the initial reference process) was detailed and asked all the right questions. That was a relief because it sometimes can be a painful interaction. And I don’t mean that in the fun, ouchy way.

One type of problem that comes up is very open ended information gathering. You’re just expected to send an email giving all your session information. I can do this now because I’ve done it many times before. I know what is needed and the right level of detail. But as a newbie that kind of introduction terrified me. You don’t want to be the guy with the equivalent of ‘Hey, what’s up? You avail?’ But you also don’t want to be lumped into the group sending 15 pages of session fanfic written with one hand.

The other problem I’ve seen is when there are specific questions but they’re very opened ended with potentially complex answers. For example – ‘Describe your ideal session’. Or – ‘What does BDSM mean to you?’ I’m sure some people can dash off a sentence or for these kind of questions but, for an over-analyzer like myself, I can get stuck on them for hours. I’ve got 15 years and 300+ posts here on what BDSM means to me. That could be tricky to summarize.

I think one of the really smart things Domina Sophie did was to provide example answers alongside her session questions. For example, a question like ‘How do you want to be treated in a session?’ seems initially tricky to answer. But once you’re given some examples – servant, slave, toy, object, slut, patient – then it suddenly becomes a lot clearer exactly what kind of information is being elicited.

I think a good process not only help the submissive but it’s going to create more business for the domme. I remember how nervous I was when I reached out to a domme for the first time (Lady Lydia back in 2010). A big part of why I picked her out from a lot of Seattle dommes was how straightforward her booking process was. There were tick boxes to pick activities, a low/medium/high option for experience with each and a few simple questions that were easy to answer. If it’d been more complex I might never have taken that initial scary jump. What a tragedy that would have been. I might never have got to experience amazing dommes like Lydia or Domina Sophie.

This post is another perfect excuse to share one of the images from Domina Sophie’s Bluesky feed. You can find her professional site here.