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Tech Work To Sex Work

Continuing the theme of NYC domme’s, the image below is Mistress Serafina. She was recently featured in a Mashable article on Tech workers who transitioned into Sex Work. While everyone interviewed seems to be thriving in their new careers, the reasons they moved are sadly all too common for women in tech.

“I really did experience sexism at every turn in my [corporate] career,” shares NYC-based professional dominatrix, Mistress Serafina. “From my first interviews out of college, I was propositioned by my interviewers, then I was propositioned by the principal engineer at my first job. I was repeatedly looked over for opportunities, and told in my performance reviews that my tone was too fiery.”

For someone like myself, who has worked in tech for 20+ years, it’s a depressing story. The whole area needs a major cultural shift. More women in engineering and product development would help, but we’ll never get there is we keep driving talented people like Mistress Serafina out.

This image is from Mistress Serafina’s twitter feed. You can find her professional site here.

Power Broker

Talking of Mistress Iris (as I just was) she has apparently been listed on NY Magazine’s list of The Most Powerful New Yorkers You’ve Never Heard Of (scroll to the end). I say ‘apparently’ because it doesn’t provide a photograph or a link and Mistress Iris isn’t traditionally associated with NYC. She was originally LA based and now seems to mainly be in Europe (with regular trips to Tokyo, London, NYC, LA, etc.). However, I can’t think of another Mistress Iris who’d have the profile to be in this article and also considered as an NYC local. Although based on the title on the list, I guess not having heard of her would be kind of the point.

Wonderful though Mistress Iris is, it seems a shame they didn’t pick an equally high profile domme who has a stronger claim to NYC residency. After all, there is no shortage of them. It’s one of the great cities for kink. Off the top of my head I can think of Troy Orleans, Mistress Tess, Lucy Sweetkill, Mistress Blunt, Lady Harper Chase, Mistrix Sade and many, many more.

Here’s an image courtesy of Mistress Tess who has an amazing NYC studio space. Curse Covid for ruining my chance to enjoy a lengthy session in it earlier this year.

Room Service

One thing I should add to my previous post on Google – their stupidity only applies in you’re actually logged in to their service. Which, given the prevalence of things like android and gmail, is probably true for a lot of people. However, if you’re lucky enough not to have observed the regression in results, that might be why.

Anyway, moving on to a positive note, here’s some visual loveliness to start the week. This is the always amazing Mistress Iris, in an image she shared on Twitter. I’m personally sad I’ve not had chance to play with her since 2019. Based on her social media and her site, she seems to be enjoying a lot of kinky hijinks in some beautiful parts of the world.

Search Stupidity

Google continues to degrade as a useful service. To go with its endless ads and poor relevance we can now add an increasing puritanical streak. I covered similar problems with its image search all the way back in 2012. Now its web search has taken a similar turn.

If you search for a dominatrix in a city – for example the query {la dominatrix} – the default results are a whole heap of junk. I get zero useful pro-domme sites. Instead I get a bunch of books being sold, a few random magazine articles and some obscure music track that has that title.  The top link for {NYC dominatrix} is a New York Post story about domme who tried to poison someone. The rest are random social media nonsense and more garbage stories from sites like The Daily Mail. All of this is with Safe Search off.

Weirdly, to get good results, you need to turn off personalized search. On my web browser that’s buried under “Google Settings->More Settings->Personal Results->Show Personal Results”. In other words, a setting that almost nobody is going to find or change. I say it’s weird, because a correctly personalized results for me should be all pro-domme links! My browser history is full of visits to domme sites, their social media accounts and similarly kinky sources. Yet Google is either stupid enough to miss that or puritanical enough to think I shouldn’t be going there.

Although changing that Google setting fixes the issue, it’s probably best to vote with your clicks and just avoid the site entirely. That change is going to cost a lot of dommes a lot of money, flushing their SEO investment down the drain. The good news is that (so far) similar queries to Bing give me excellent results, no faffing about with settings needed. That’s already my go to search for my PC. I might have to update my other devices now.

Here’s one of the LA dommes whose site is normally in the top 10 results but is entirely absent with the default settings -the fabulous Inga Larsson.

Lines

Writing lines is a common punishment for naughty children and errant submissives the world over. It’s even used in the opening to one of the world’s most famous TV shows. I saw a twitter post recently where a submissive had done them in a pattern with a different color for every letter, which was pretty neat. However, a user under the handle Stone Mason has taken the idea to a whole new level with these hand engraved slates for Charlotte Douleur. I imagine a selection of lines in engraved stone tablets would make for a great dungeon decoration.

You can see some other images of the slates from the original twitter post.

Careful What You Wish For

The Guardian just carried a fine example of one of my favorite kinds of stories: Husband persuades a reluctant wife to open the marriage up to others via poly or swinging. Wife discovers she loves it and is desired by others. Husband discovers that middle aged average guys are not a hot property and now wants to walk the decision back. It’s a story as old as time.

I’ve lost track of how many variations of this plotline I’ve seen in agony columns and online forums. You’d think the frequency with which they appear would cause men to slow down, but apparently there is an inexhaustible supply of horny optimists out there.

It’s a great shame more guys aren’t into the cuckolding kink. If you can’t pull a new lover yourself, you might as well enjoy the fact your partner has. Life really should be better organized.

I believe this is originally from Divine Bitches.

Kinky Dating

The New York Times recently published an article on the Feeld dating app and its CEO Ms. Kirova. I’d not heard of it before, but apparently its becoming popular in kinky circles.

Feeld, which started as a dating app for couples and singles called 3nder in 2014, has, under Ms. Kirova’s leadership, positioned itself as a go-to for nonmonogamous, sex-positive and kinky people of all sexual orientations.

It’s also acquired a reputation as a space that fosters directness, something of a rarity in the dating-app world.

Its userbase is relatively small compared to the giants like Tinder and Grindr but, based on the article at least, it seems to be doing a passable job of encouraging clear communication while not turning into a cesspool of toxic content and sex crazed jerks. Although, sadly, there’s always going to be a non-trivial contingent of those in any online space (as the article highlights).  Be interested to hear if any of my readers have tried it.

Of course the time honored ways to meet a partner will never go entirely out of fashion. The beautiful image below is a wedding photograph for @nivalislava. According to the twitter thread I sourced it from they originally met at college. It’s fetish rather than femdom, but I love it just the same.

Bridge Variation

I’m not sure if this’d be a good or bad pose for my wonky lower back, but I’d  be willing to give it a shot. My yoga teacher has done a lot of bridge variations with me, but sadly none have featured genital bondage and electroshock therapy.

This was posted by the fabulous Elise Graves. Funnily enough, I remember doing a scene with her in Seattle a few years back where she grabbed my genitals and  pulled hard to ‘encourage’ me into a bridge pose. Clearly it’s a position she enjoys inflicting. I don’t remember getting quite the same back arch as @UtmostRestraint has managed here.

You can see a lot more from Elise on her Bondage Liberation Site.