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Chastity and Denial

Orlando has both an erotic and a thoughtful new post at his blog In Scarlet Ink.

The erotic bit comes (sorry) at the start as he describes getting to orgasm for the first time in two months.

“Murre just let me come, a few days ago, after two months or so of waiting.  And it was this earth-shattering moment.  She announced her intentions as I was waking up, and caressed me, and counted me down from seven (which seemed frighteningly abrupt), and I came for her.  It went on a long time, and I trembled, and she held me and it felt like she had taken me apart and put me back together….and then the long wait began again, fresh.

So, uh, yeah.  Ummm.  I like orgasm denial.”

Ummm, wow. Descriptions like that tempt me to break out the credit card and the tape measure.

Then, having grabbed your attention with that opening, he goes on to muse on the reasons why orgasm denial is largely a male fantasy. He’s got a number of interesting viewpoints which are well worth reading, and all of which probably tell some part of the story.

Personally I’d advance an argument that’s a slight twist on his point (I). Men (massive generalization on it’s way) tend to see orgasms as a bodily function like breathing, pissing or eating. From the moment a man hits adolescence he starts producing semen, and jerking off to expel it just becomes another necessary regular event. The body will even do it automatically at times with a nocturnal emission. This isn’t to say sex for men is a requirement like eating or drinking – see Emily Nagoski for interesting comments in that area – just that there is a perception that regular orgasm’s (however achieved) are a normal requirement of life.

If you’re wired to enjoy playing with power and control, then giving up control over something as fundamental as a ‘bodily function’ is obviously going to be a hot button. The artwork of Augustine is a good example of this kind of play, heavily populated as it is with lots of catheter, enema and tease/denial scenes. Women, even if they orgasm every day and three times on Sundays, may not perceive them in that very basic biological way.

Dewey Decimal Domination

I’m constantly amazed by the quantity and quality of the erotic artwork that comes out of Japan. Browsing any of the archive or chan sites will show a multitude of talented artists producing some really imaginative work. And sometimes it’ll be so imaginative, I’m left wondering exactly where the inspiration came from….

This image is taken from a collection of drawings entitled Bizarre Nightmare, by ‘Annmo Night’. It’s a beautifully drawn series, with lots of buxom women doing wonderfully sadistic things to weaker men. Most of the drawings are based on fairly conventional femdom themes, with added daliesque twists to represent the nightmare element. But this one is particularly puzzling. Who fantasizes about being attacked by books in a library? And what exactly is the role of the woman here? Is she controlling the books? Or are the books trained to attack men? Or are they all just swirling in a vortex beneath her? I can’t say that I find it erotic at all, but it’s certainly striking.

(Amusing side note on the title to this post. Having come up with what I thought was a fairly unique phrase, I googled it just to see how rare it really was. Not only has it been used before, it’s actually the title of a blog. The blog of a librarian and dominatrix no less, which sounds like my idea of heaven. Sadly it looks like it’s now dead after a very short life).

Well dressed domme

There’s a lot of fetish clothing cliches in this shot. The boots, the tight pants, the crop tucked under one arm, the authoritarian cap. But somehow it all just works. I think that’s mostly because she looks just so damn smart and composed. The fact she’s not staring into the camera with the quintessential dominatrix camera sneer is also a big plus.

Found originally on the Miss and Pet tumblr site.

Exchanging bodily fluids

The exchange of bodily fluids is one of the key parts of most pornography. But where in US and Europe it’s normally confined to the standard ‘money-shot’, the Japanese tend to get a lot more creative. In the femdom realm anything goes, from spit drinking, through the more graphic toilet functions (for example this kind of thing from the yapoo market series), all the way to the infamous school girl vomit videos (citation and reference definitely not needed).

Of course you can also find those kind of things in the Western market as well if you look hard enough, but it seems far more niche. With respect to Japan, I’m not sure if it’s a specific cultural hot button that gets fetishized, or the result of a generally more creative approach to porn, or just another unintended side effect of their curious censorship laws. But whatever the reason for it, I’m a fan when it results in photographs like this one.

Put your tongue out…

…and start hoping the cigarette she’s holding isn’t too hot.

On the plus side, acting as an ashtray and getting the occasional burn is probably better for your long-term health than a real smoking habit.

I’m not sure where I originally got this from. It has the look of an old cruella image, but I can’t see a watermark or attribution on it anywhere.