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So right, and yet so so wrong

I’ve been trying to avoid writing lots of posts on politics and the election. I have featured the occasional one or two, but I figure that people see enough elsewhere without it showing up here.

However, these comments today by Rush Limbaugh are too perfect and too applicable to this blog to ignore. In talking about Trump’s groping scandals and penchant for sexual assault, he said the following.

RUSH LIMBAUGH: You know what the magic word, the only thing that matters in American sexual mores today is? One thing. You can do anything, the left will promote and understand and tolerate anything, as long as there is one element. Do you know what it is? Consent. If there is consent on both or all three or all four, however many are involved in the sex act, it’s perfectly fine. Whatever it is. But if the left ever senses and smells that there’s no consent in part of the equation then here come the rape police. But consent is the magic key to the left.

This is so simultaneously correct and incorrect it seems to defy fundamental laws of physics. It’s a bit like the double slit experiment. Much as a photon can be both a wave and a particle, Rush can simultaneously highlight the importance of consent in sexual interaction while arguing against it. Although given a photon has zero resting mass, that’s an analogy that doesn’t stretch much further.

Presumably in his mind it’s better for a man to rape a woman in a good, healthy, as God intended, missionary position kind of way than for two (or three) dudes (or ladies) to fool around together consensually. I’ve no idea what kind of life experiences it takes to lead you to that kind of opinion, but I would be fascinated to know. It can’t be anything remotely normal or healthy. Somebody should also tell him that the ‘rape police’ are actually just the ‘police’.

I’ll leave you with an image I’m sure Rush would not approve of. Admittedly it does contain the morally approved count of 2 people of differing genders, but that doesn’t look like a conventional sex act. God created woman as a helper, not to ride man around like a beast. No matter how much fun it looks.

ride Based on this Italian Marie Claire article, I believe this image is from the site c.a.p. 74024.

Oh, and that double meaning in the post title? Totally intended.

The Lioness

I hadn’t intended to turn yesterday’s post on ‘woman staring into middle distance with man at her feet’ into a series, but then I spotted this image in my queue and couldn’t resist. The lady encouraging the man back into the pool is the great Catherine Deneuve, famous for her roles as (to quote wikipedia) aloof, mysterious beauties. This looks like a fashion magazine shot, but I’m not exactly sure for what. From zooming into the text it looks like it was photographed by Ellen Von Unwerth in NYC in 1999.

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Shoe shopping

I don’t normally go for the ‘woman stares off into middle distance with supercilious air while man grovels around near her feet doing something to her shoes / feet’ type of porn. That may sound like a weirdly specific fetish, but it actually seems to be a pretty common femdom image.

That said, there are always exceptions, and this is one of them. Not entirely sure why it’s an exception, but it does work for me. Possibly because it’s actually a mainstream shot for Sara Navarro shoes, rather than being a posed femdom porn shot. This was part of a show in Madrid presenting the new Sara Navarro collection for 2015. Apparently she’s the only design who “makes scented shoes for women, a sensorial experience unique in the world.” Shoes and scent is certainly a popular combination for some kinky people, although I’d guess most submissives prefer a more au naturel aroma.

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Little Moments

When I first encountered this I wasn’t sure if I was looking at femdom, a peice of performance art or acrobats practicing for an all new all nude Cirque du Soleil show. It turns out to be one photographs from a series called Little Moments by photographer AdeY. The images in the series are designed to…

…depict imbalances evident in contemporary society today by directly addressing issues of gender, normative behaviour and how society forces us to choose one direction or path. The subjects show our venerability, loneliness, strengths and expectations whilst highlighting the correlation between body and space.

You can see other images from the series here. Not the typical kind of shots I feature here, but I do think they’re interesting.

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Dark Circus

This interview with film director Julia Ostertag caught my eye today. She has a new movie coming out called Dark Circus, which features a lot of fetishistic and kinky themes. Judging from the trailer it looks to be the kind of twisted surreal art movie that I used to love as a student, but don’t seem to have the patience for these days. I mention it here for what the director said in the interview about filming one of the group scenes.

I really liked how there was one girl, a real poster beauty who I’d never seen before, and she said, “I’d really like to beat up a man, but not with a whip, with my bare fists. Would that be possible?” and I said, “Well, I’m sure we can find someone” And we did! There was someone, a sub, already tied to a chair wanting to be punished by his mistress and she joined them and hit him with her bare fists. You can see it in the ritual scene towards the end! I liked that energy!

My first thought was ‘What a lucky submissive’. My second thought was ‘I really hope the mistress supervised that.’ Punching someone correctly can be tricky. Get it wrong and it can be bad for both the puncher and the punchee. Although if I was the sub, I’d probably have taken the chance. Hopefully the poster beauty in question discovered her inner domme in the process.

punched In the context I discovered this image – a femdom blog surrounded by femdom porn – I original assumed it was particularly artistic shot of aftercare from a scene. In fact I now think it’s a shot from a TV series about boxing called Lights Out that originally aired on FX back in 2011.

Better than yoga?

Articles on BDSM and mindfulness have been popping up across the web in recent days. The first I spotted was at Time magazine, and since then I’ve seen similar articles at sites like Bustle, Instinct Magazine and Medical Daily. They were triggered by research published in the journal Psychology of Consciousness that claimed that BDSM could put people in a state of ‘flow’, where the rest of the world falls away and their concentration is heightened on the present moment.

It’s good to see positive BDSM stories on mainstream sites, and I doubt many people in the kinky world would dispute the idea of BDSM leading to altered mental states. Getting into subspace might not be the only reason people play, but it’s often an important one. That said, I do have problems with the study (as it’s described in the mainstream press)…

They only picked 7 couples, which is a tiny number to study. On top of that, the couples had a variety of relationship states (from long term to just met), introducing more variables into the tiny sample.
They randomly assigned top/bottom status. If everyone involved was a switch that might be OK, but if not, then it would seem very problematic. Ask me to top someone and you will not get mindfulness. You’ll get anxiety, stress and a partner stuck in a tangled web of granny knotted ropes. Switching for non-switches is not a good measure of normal BDSM play.
It doesn’t appear that they distinguished between top and bottom space. I’m not an expert on top space, but from what I’ve read it seems quite different to bottom space. Both have elements of being in the moment and the rest of the world falling away. However, top space seems to be about concentration and focus, a sense of mastery that aligns with the more traditional ideas of mindfulness and flow. Bottom space, for me at least, is not like that at all. It’s about not thinking clearly, surrendering to the moment and disassociating. I hear tops describe their state as having heightened intuition and understanding, where I can barely form words when deep in bottom space.

Hopefully the study will at least be a good starting point for further research. In the meantime, I’ll leave you with an image of a couple in their own particular state of flow. From the watermark I assume it was something to do with this event (I found it here).

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Out of practice

My recent trip to San Francisco was the first time I’d enjoyed any kinky play for almost 12 months. That’s something of a record. Admittedly, there was one other length and fairly memorable period that spanned from roughly age 15 to around my early 30’s, but in recent years kink was more of a weekly thing than a decennial thing.

Unsurprisingly, after all that time, I was a bit out of practice. The first session, which I blogged about previously, was easy. I just had to lie down and try not to yell too much while Domina Yuki and Mistress Magnum stuck suturing needles in me. It was intense, but any idiot can lie down. The second one, done a few days later with just Domina Yuki, was a bit more challenging. At one point she had me bound against a metal frame strung with rope webbing. Many tight small clips were painfully attached to my delicate parts and tied to the webbing, thus keeping me in place while she whipped my back. The me of a few years ago would have remembered that locking my knees and clenching up my muscles was a bad plan. The me of a few weeks ago wasn’t so smart. The result was a vasovagal response, where all my blood decided that the last place it should be was anywhere near my brain. Possibly it was getting its own back on the brain for putting it in this position. Luckily I did still have enough mental function left to let Yuki know, and after a glass of water and a minute or two to recover in a more relaxed position, we were good to restart.

I guess I need to get some more practice in. Although another solution might be to always play upside down. That should maximize the flow of blood to the brain.

inverted I originally found this somewhere on tumblr. It’s an edited image taken from a Vogue photoshoot.

Folsom Addendum

A final post on the Folsom Fair. Actually, more of an addendum to my first post than a new one. That post featured an image of Mistress Liliane Hunt and her posse. If you liked that shot, then you should check out her latest blog post. It gives a lot of background on her trip and the people with her, along with a lot more great photographs. She was even featured on this years poster, as an amazing looking fetishist Sarah Palin.

Rather than repeat another image of this year’s fair, here’s Mistress Hunt at the 2011 fair with her puppy. I love the look of joy on her face and his contented appearance. There’s a lovely energy to this.

Mistress Liliane Hunt with her puppy I found this image via this SFGate gallery.

Limits of consent

While writing yesterday’s post on the Folsom Street Fair, I came across this article on the issue of photographing participants in these kind of public events. I though the issues it raised and the article subsequent comments where interesting. The trigger for this was an Ask First campaign that wanted to raise awareness around consent. They used stickers to remind people to ask before touching or engaging with people. They also extended that to photographs. The first part sounds excellent to me, the last part I’m not so sure on.

Shared public spaces are for everyone to use. That means their for the kinky, the non-kinky and the occasionally curious. They shouldn’t be majority ruled or driven to the lowest common denominator of taste. As I’ve argued before, as long as the goal isn’t to piss people off, kinky people should be able to do their thing in public. However, at the same time, when the kinky people become the majority at somewhere like Folsom, they shouldn’t turn around and takes rights off others. It’s the photographers public space as much as theirs, and part of the social contract around public spaces is that you can be identified and photographed in them. That goes for the public, the police and the perverted. If being identified is such a big deal to you then either dress conventionally or wear some sort of mask or hood. You’re in a public space – that has consequences.

Of course if you want to combine photography with privacy, then the best way to go is the selfie. This lady seems to have mastered that pretty well, thanks to the help of a mirror and a handy doormat.

femdomselfie There’s no watermark on this, but my domme sense tells me that’s Empress Jennifer who has filmed for sites such as Men are Slaves and Asian Cruelty.