Pony puzzle

This is my last post on the pony boy theme. It’s also an image that slightly puzzles me. At a casual glance the style of the artwork looks like Shiniez. However, the lettering style and crude writing doesn’t seem like him. He also doesn’t tend to feature F/m dynamics. Every attribution I’ve seen for this image on random tumblrs claims that it’s his, yet I couldn’t locate it on his deviant art site. So either it’s someone copying his style, or an image of his that has been modified, or I’m mistaken and it’s really his work. If anyone can solve my puzzle, then feel free to leave a comment and help me out.

Ponyboy

Pony Ride

A pony ride on a sandy beach used to be a traditional part of the British summer holiday for children. I don’t think the ponies ever looked anything like this however, The beaches probably weren’t as nice either.

If you hunt around for images of femdom and ponyboys you’ll find a lot of silly posed shots. This vintage shot is particularly bad, but representative of the type. The image below was one of the few I found that looked like she was genuinely going for a ride rather than simply posing for the camera. I also have to admire her ponies dedication. That full face hood must be incredibly hot.

BeachPonyI’m afraid I haven’t a reference for the creator of this image. Please leave a comment if you can help me attribute it.

Cavalry Charge

I’m really not sure what this video is about. There are attractive ladies, pony boys, fetish gear, jousting and a beach. I like it. I just don’t know why it was created. Although maybe it isn’t necessary to have a reason to exist when that kind of subject matter is involved. We should be thankful that someone felt the need to record it.

I particularly liked the fact that it wasn’t filmed on a private beach. If you look in the background you can see random tourists sunbathing and looking on. I always find beaches pretty boring, but this group of people showing up would certainly liven the experience up.

Femdom beach jousting
My thanks to Mistress Sidonia for pointing me at this in a recent blog post.

Are you experienced

Stabbity has a good post up on the issue of experience and how important it, or the lack of it, actually is. Her opinion is that while experience can be valuable, it’s a minor issue compared to how you act. Empathy, consideration and self-awareness will get you  a long way. Act like an inconsiderate asshole and it doesn’t matter how many years you’ve notched up under the lash.

She also makes the point that seeing a pro-domme is a valid choice if it meets your needs. If you want the focus to be on fulfilling your fantasies rather than negotiating and potentially compromising on shared ones then be honest with yourself about that. Better to have a clear and unambiguous professional relationship than a coercive lifestyle one.

When it came to picking a picture to illustrate sex, kink and experience, one name sprung immediately to mind – the legendary Nina Hartley. This is from a shoot she did for Whipped Ass.

Nina Hartley

Cynthia Payne

I was sad to read of the death of Cynthia Payne, who died on November 15th aged 82. As this obituary makes clear she had a rich and complicated life, and was a famous advocate for sex work. Despite having a great name for a dominatrix, she wasn’t strictly that. Instead she worked as an escort, brothel manager, sex party organizer and general provider of both kinky and non-kinky experiences. Maybe it says something about the English that she started as a general sex worker, but became known for all the kinky activities she was asked to help organize.

Two different films were shot based on her life. The early years were portrayed in Wish You Were Here. However, the more relevant one for this blog is Personal Services. Directed by Terry Jones (of Monty Python fame) and starring Julie Walters (from films such as Educating Rita and Billy Elliot), it told the story of her later life and sex work. It’s pretty tame by today’s standards, but I think worth seeking out. I think this quote gives a flavor for the very British humor involved…

[Wing Commander Morten, dressed in a French maid’s uniform, is dragged along the corridor to the cells after a police raid on the brothel]

Morten: [yells] I am retired officer of the RAF, twice decorated. I flew two hundred and seven missions over occupied territory – in bra and panties!
Policeman: You’re a disgrace.
[the cell door slams shut]
Morten: [yells, with hands on hips] This is no way to treat a lady!

I don’t have a picture of that scene, but here’s another one from the movie featuring another particularly British kink.
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Coffee and cunnilingus

I think all four drawings here are cute, but I particularly like the first one. Some people like their coffee first thing in the morning. Personally I like it as a mid-afternoon pick-me-up. Whatever the time, I have to think that oral sex would be a ‘Nice’ bonus to add to it. Maybe Starbucks should put this drawing on all their cups for the new year?

Coffee and cunnilingusThere’s no artist signature on the image (or somebody has chopped it off) and I didn’t find anything useful via a reverse image search. If anyone can help me attribute it to the original creator then please leave a comment or drop me an email.

Observational bias

Jezebel has a fairly silly article on the increase in young tech workers visiting pro-dommes. Like a lot of similar articles it suffers from the problem of observational bias.

Pro-dommes are often the face of kink, as they’re easy to find and (in some cases) happy to advertise. Unfortunately they’re also expensive to visit. On the West coast that means $200 to $300 per hour, which is a lot for the average household. That means the clientele skews to the well off. And since well off men tend to be older, we end up with the cliche of the middle aged banker or lawyer who needs to blow off steam between doing million dollar deals. Now the booming tech economy in some parts of the US has landed a bunch of cash on a small number of software developers, and we get stories about them visiting pro-dommes. The key issue here isn’t kink or sexuality, it’s opportunity. I’m pretty certain if all pro-dommes universally reduced prices to $10 per hour, we’d be seeing articles on the incredibly variety of different people who visit them.

On the plus side, the article does give me an excuse to feature a photograph of one of the dommes interviewed – the lovely Mistress Morgana of San Francisco.

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Hedy Lamarr

Google used one of their doodles to pay a nice tribute to the actress Hedy Lamarr this week. She combined two very unusual careers – Hollywood leading lady and inventor. There have been many attractive femme fatales in movie history, but I’m unaware of any others who held a patent on frequency hopping wireless communication. That’s an idea that forms the basis for modern WiFi and cellphone signals.

As an actress one of her more famous roles was as the biblical Delilah in the 1949 movie. I’ve always thought that Delilah’s reputation for betrayal and deceit was somewhat undeserved. The biblical verses in question say that Samson loved her, but they don’t say how she felt about the issue. It would be one thing if she betrayed the love of her life, but maybe he was just an annoying jerk who wouldn’t take no for an answer. More importantly, every time he claimed to tell her the secret of his strength, she immediately betrayed him to the Philistines in a very obvious fashion. Yet despite three separate betrayals, Samson still went on to tell her the truth about his hair. The lesson from this shouldn’t be that Delilah was deceitful. It’s that Samson was a colossal moron.

Delilah

Straight City

I’ve commented before that Las Vegas is not a place I visit for kink. It always struck me as a place for mainstream thrills rather than alternative ones. What I hadn’t noticed until last weekend was just how straight it is.

I spent five days in ‘sin city’ and I saw literally hundreds of heterosexual couples holding hands while wandering down the Vegas strip. Lots of happy vacationing couples keeping close together and affirming their connection. In that same period I saw exactly zero homosexual couples holding hands. In hindsight, given the numbers involved, it seems really weird. Do very few gay people go to Vegas? Is the atmosphere that hostile to gay people? In Seattle I see same sex couples walking together every day of the week. Is Vegas such an aggressively straight touristy city that the pink dollar stays away?

CuteCoupleSadly I’ve no idea who took this shot. If anyone can help me with the attribution then please leave a comment.