Femdom Resource – Page 176 – The beauty of dominant women

Whistle while you work

I found this article on the playlists of pro-dommes interesting. Experience has taught me that music in a professional play space is as common to them as leather, ropes and incredibly detailed instructions about how to enter without scaring the neighbors.

In my personal life music and sexual play have a fairly orthogonal relationship. It’s fine if they intersect, but it’s not important if they don’t. In my professional experiences I think I can count on one hand the sessions I’ve done without a soundtrack. And they were probably because the stereo in the play space was broken. I guess the theory is that background music lowers social tension. There’s no silence to fill with forced conversation, but it’s still easy to talk over if necessary.

Dance and electronic music seems to be a common domme choice, which isn’t something I typically enjoy. Lydia likes opera and powerful classical pieces, which adds drama and a sense of theater to the occasion. The article mentions Depeche Mode as a common selection. Personally I think playing to Violator would be great, but I’ve never yet played with a domme who had than on her playlist. I’d love to do a session to Appetite for Destruction followed by Master of Puppets. I think their energy would work great for a good beating.

I believe this artwork is by Namio Harukawa.

The male pro-sub

A lot of people make money from offering personal BDSM services. Pro-dommes are the most conspicuous in that regard, but there are also a fair number of female pro-submissives out there. Professional male doms are rarer, but they do exist. What I hadn’t observed, until a couple of nights ago, was a professional male submissive. I always assumed that the market couldn’t support the concept, but Aiden the Houseboy-For-Hire is out there to prove me wrong.

His rates are incredibly reasonable and, judging by his twitter feed, he’s pretty well plugged into the professional scene. I don’t know him personally, but if you’re in the Seattle area and looking for some no strings attached commercial submission, then he might well be worth a shot. I’m not giving up my day job any time soon to follow his lead, but as a Seattle based male submissive, I do wish him all the luck in the world in his chosen profession.

This is not an image of Aiden in action. I’m afraid I don’t who this naked gentleman is, but he looks like he’s making himself useful.

Famous people doing stuff

Taylor Swift has a new music video out featuring lots of her famous friends. That means someone I’ve never listened to has created a video with a bunch of people I’ve never heard of. I feel like I’m one step away from yelling at kids to get off my lawn.

While I might not have my finger on the pulse of modern music, I can appreciate a video featuring lots of aggressive women in fetish gear beating people up and shooting things. That never gets old. The video is also a grab bag of film references, so it’s fun to play spot the homage. From a quick look there’s Sin City (referenced by the poster below), The Fifth Element, Tron, Kill Bill, Matrix, Watchmen and every Bond movie. It also puts me in mind of the girl gang from Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back, but that’s probably because they’re both a pastiche of the same thing rather than being a direct reference.

Cunning plan

If you hang around on internet forums long enough you’ll eventually come across someone posting a picture labelled with the phrase “Somehow, I don’t think you thought your cunning plan all the way through.” For example this, or this or this. I couldn’t help smiling and think of that expression when I came across this image. A lady should have a knight in shining armor, but possibly not when small boats are involved.

The image was created by the photographer Frieke Janssens.

A spring garden with Lydia

I should start this post with a warning: It features images from a piecing session I did with Lydia a few weeks ago. So if you wish to avoid image of naked needled me, then I’d suggestion not clicking any of the links below.

The negotiation for our play was – as usual – very short. I think I said “How about doing some piercing?” and she said “Sure.” That was job done. We’re not big on complicated scripts. I like being surprised and giving Lydia scope for her devilish imagination. A piercing session gives her that ample scope, as she has shown in the past (e.g. here, here and here). In this case she created a decorative piercing all across and down my back. She said the layout and design was inspired by the idea of a walk in a spring garden.

You can see the top part of the design in this shot here and from another angle here. Not content with decorating the top of my back she also planted some needles in my butt, seen in this long torso shot and this close-up. The round design on my butt cheeks is known as a button and is particularly painful. The shafts of the needles cross each other and trap flesh in between. This means any kind of movement pinches and squeezes nerves between needles and creates very intense sensations. Moving around wasn’t really on my agenda, but apparently it was on Lydia’s, as piercing was followed by hitting, and striking, and prodding. That tended to produce a few wiggles.

The marks left when everything had been removed were particularly impressive. I loved the patterns created in the skin. In total I think we used around 120 needles with a gauge varying between 25 down to 18. It wasn’t one of the most intense piercing sessions we’ve ever done from a pure pain perspective. However, it was one of the most meditative, focused and aesthetically pleasing.

Photograph of Lydia is by Mandy McGee photography.

Boxy but good

Attractive models being used to sell cars is pretty standard. However, with the exception of this memorable Fiat 500 ad, they rarely have a femdom vibe. This one is I think the exception. It’s for a new version of Volvo XC90, designed specifically for those who get chauffeured around. You can see a larger version of the image and an article on the car here.

The car nerd in me likes the clever design of the seats and the idea of being able to stretch out from the backseat. The submissive in me likes the idea of being a smartly dressed chauffeur ferrying around a rich and powerful icy blonde executive.

D is not an evolution of s

As I was writing yesterday’s post on La Domaine Esemar I had a nagging feeling it was a subject I’d covered before. Searching past posts didn’t find anything, but my bookmark list turned up this article from The Daily Beast. It’s an article I’d intended to post about but never got around to. It’s similar to the Cosmos article, giving background on the people and the Chateau, but provides a lot more detail and context. It’s certainly an interesting article, but there’s one really infuriating part in it.

This deep-seeded dedication to submission, and potential subsequent evolution into dominance, is one of the ways that La Domaine sets itself apart from the commercialized BDSM scene in New York City. People are encouraged to experience both sides, traditionally starting as a submissive and moving into a dominant role, to more fully understand the symbiotic nature of the lifestyle, whereas in other parts of the subculture people will adhere to one or the other for superficial reasons rather than trying, over time, to explore the inner-workings of their sexuality and come to a honest consensus about their true nature as a submissive or a dominant.

Firstly, dominance is not an evolution of submission. The two states are peers and partners. One is not a more advanced lifeform than the other. Secondly, the idea that it’s necessary to explore both sides to fully understand one’s true sexual nature is ludicrous. Are straight people superficial if they don’t first explore same sex relationships? Or have gay people not reached a honest consensus about themselves if they haven’t tried sleeping with someone of the opposite sex? If someone is curious or just uncertain then by all means explore. People’s desires can change and knowledge is a wonderful thing. D/s is not necessarily a binary choice, but some people know deep in their bones what works for them. The above quote smacks of ‘one true path’ bullshit and BDSM hierarchies, and that always drives me nuts.

The above image is Mistress Couple with a slave at La Domaine Esemar.

Cosmo Sex Shocker

There’s no shortage of articles mocking the sex advice articles from Cosmopolitan magazine. I’ve even been there and done that. However, while their track record may not be great, I was pleasantly surprised by this article on Mistress Couple and La Domaine Esemar. It’s well written, non-judgmental and surprisingly informative. Good job Cosmo.

The image below is taken from this blog post on the La Domaine Esemar site. That’s a washing prior to a weenie roasting.

Idiocy on idiocy

After writing yesterday’s post on the stupid British porn laws, I spotted this page by Megara Furie on the issue of minors accessing content. Apparently the issue is that the widely used Clips 4 Sale site accepts debit cards. Credit cards require proof of age, but anyone can get a prepaid debit card. That effectively means that no UK producer can use the number one clips site in the world. There are alternatives (for example Clips Fatale), but I suspect the other sites don’t see anywhere near the same volume of traffic.

I can see this is clearly a major problem. I’m sure that many minors are saving up their pocket money in order to sneakily acquire debit cards and then pay for pornography. There’s absolutely no way they’d be going off to the completely free and anonymous sites like redtube or xvideos or pornhub. Minors are also notoriously bad and nervous about using modern technology, so there’s no chance there’d be getting porn from one of the zillions of illegal but free torrent sites out there.

Quite frankly if anyone did find a minor paying for porn he (or she) should get an award for their honesty (after taking the porn away). I can only hope the idiots at ATVOD organization never stumble across any of the more potent Japanese femdom material. It might melt their tiny little brains. There’s all sorts of extreme whipping, breathplay and toilet scenes. None of which is now allowed in Britain. The image below is from the Rinryu site which (fair warning) containing heavy material featuring all three of those activities.

The law is an ass

I’ve covered the stupidity of the UK’s new anti-sex laws in past posts here, here and here. When you give unelected bodies censorious powers it’s only going to be matter of time before they use them. As this article makes clear, that time has now come. Two UK pro-dommes – Megara Furie and Mistress R’eal – have been found at fault and forced to withdraw content. When the laws were passed there were multiple articles highlighting how horribly biased they would be in penalizing independent female producers (for example this and this). No surprise then that the first people to be affected are two independent pro-dommes. The UK government is all in favor of successful small businesses, just as long as they’re not run by women producing consensual erotica for others to enjoy.

What I found particularly laughably in the article was that the goverment board also threw out the old chestnut about minors being able to access the material. Have these people never encountered tumblr? Obviously I don’t support kids seeing explicit material, but when it comes to censoring online sources, that horse has long since bolted. In fact not only bolted, but had a happy life frolicking in meadows, died of old age, been turned into glue and is now helping old ladies scrapbook photos of the grandchildren.

Sadly, based on the latest UK election results, it looks like the people who passed this law will be returning to power. Thus proving that while the good may die young, the evil get elected to power and fuck with the rest of us.

The above image is of Megara Furie, the Glasgow based pro-domme penalized under the new laws. If you’d like to session with her then her contact information can be found here.