Femdom Resource – Page 183 – The beauty of dominant women

The alpha submissive

Is there any hard data to backup the oft cited theory that most submissive people are powerful and successful alpha types in their public lives? This recent article by Susan Wright is the latest to trot this idea out, and it often gets referenced in mainstream discussions of D/s. Personally I’m skeptical.

The only data I usually see is anecdotal from pro-dommes, and that doesn’t strike me as a great source. Firstly, their sample set is massively skewed towards middle aged guys with jobs that provide them with hundreds of dollars of discretionary income. Secondly, they have a vested interest to portray their clients in a positive light. No smart business person says bad things about their product or customers. Even outside the professional realm I think there’s a tendency to react to the perceived mainstream perception of submission. Kinksters assume people will think submissives are weak, weird or wimpy, so emphasize the opposite.

So I ask the question: Does anyone know of an actual study on this? Or is it just one of those sex myths (like supposed sex trafficking at the World Cup or Super Bowl) that gets endlessly repeated despite a lack of actual evidence?

Great hair

Here’s a final hair and shaving related post to go with my two previous ones (here and here). In this case it’s a study in contrasts. Her beautiful long cascading hair and his stylish short haircut and shaven groin. I’m afraid I have no idea who the original creator of this image is.

I found this on the forBABALON tumblr.

Pain two ways

I had two women inflict pain on me today. I’m pretty sure the first didn’t intend to. She was my very sweet and careful dental hygienist who found it necessary to prod and scrape my teeth with sharp spiky things. The second women was Lydia, and she definitely intended to hurt me. I could tell by the way she laughed each time I groaned. However, I’ll always take caning, suffocating and nipple clamps over that vibrating pick they use to get tartar off teeth in the hard to reach places. That’s a bit much even for my masochistic nature.

The young lady below appears to be offering some sort of dental inspection. Although neither that chair nor the knife look to be standard equipment. I do hope he has good insurance to cover all eventualities.

I believe the above image is from Sado Beauties.

Short back and sides

After receiving some positive comments on my recent shaving post I thought it’d be worth doing a follow-up. It doesn’t appear to be a particularly common fetish, at least judging by the available images online. However, as you might expect, where there’s a sexual interest, there’s someone there to help address it. The images below are from Ms Tytania, a London based pro-domme. She runs an enforced shaving and grooming salon, which sounds ideal for all UK kinksters with a barber fetish.

I’ve only been shaved in sessions three times and, oddly enough, all three were in LA. I’m not sure if that’s a SoCal cultural thing around grooming or simply a coincidence. I’m always very clean but can get a little hirsute in the lower regions. The shavings themselves were fine. It was the prickling growth in the days afterwards that caught my attention. I could never quite decide if it was a happy reminder of recent fun or was simply itchy and annoying. I guess it was both.

A careful squeeze

There are two great expressions in this image from Divine Bitches. You can see tension in both faces, but in two different ways. It’s a nicely balanced moment, with just small variations in pressure able to tip it one way or another.

Barbershop Duo

This is my last fan art post for the moment. It’s also the strangest. The two characters below are humanoid personas developed by the Crypton Future Media corporation of Japan. The woman is Hatsune Miku and the man Kagamine Len. They’re both singers voiced by Vocaloid voice synthesizer technology developer by the Yamaha corporation, and have apparently performed on stage as animated projections. If you think that sounds like something from a William Gibson novel, you’re not alone in that.

Mitku is apparently ‘an android diva in the near-future world where songs are lost’ and her name is ‘easily the most recognizable of the vocaloids’. I’m not sure what inspired the artist to depict her shaving the genitals of another virtual persona character, but I’m glad he or she did. It doesn’t do much for me erotically but it’s the kind of oddball find that puts a smile on my face.

I believe the artist for this goes under the handle wokada. I found it on the Felm Cyber tumblr.

Murder Tie

I seem to be on a bit of a fan art kick. This is another fan drawing from a TV series I’ve not seen, and was inspired by a movie I have. In this case the TV series is Hannibal. The inspiration is the Hannibal Lecter character featured in the novels of Thomas Harris and the movies Manhunter and The Silence of the Lambs. I believe the two characters below are Hannibal himself and his psychiatrist in the TV show Bedelia_Du_Maurier.

There are actually three drawings in this series and you can see them all on the original tumblr post. The tie is apparently a reference to a costume element from the show.

Teen Wolf Fan Art

The artwork below is fan art for the MTV show Teen Wolf. The two characters are Derek Hale and Braeden. I remember seeing the original Michael J Fox movie when I was a kid, but until I started researching this image I’d no idea they’d turned it into a TV show. According to Wikipedia the creators of it were influenced by Joss Whedon’s Buffy, which can never be a bad thing. Sadly I doubt that explicit kinky bondage sex features in the show, but luckily we have creative fans to put that right.

Despite a lot of hunting around I’ve failed to track down the original artist. It’s unsigned and Google reverse image search just gives me a lot of tumblr reposts. As far as I can tell it first surfaced on this tumblr. If anyone can help me with attribution then please leave a comment.

The dividends of distraction

Scientists have found that being distracted helps people deal with pain. The only surprising thing to me is that they’re only just discovering this fact. Masochists could have told them this long ago.

The fact that pain is only experienced in the brain is the kind of thing movie super villains like to purr while they’re heating up the red hot coals for the hero. Yet it happens to be true. I’m frequently astonished how non-absolute pain can be. What seems horrible early in a play session can be easily tolerated later. Similarly a steady strong stimulus (say from an electro-stim device) can quickly become unnoticeable when overwhelmed by a suddenly intense sensation (like nipple clamps being ripped off). Lots of things can act as a distraction. In the original article they tried stress balls. I’ve also found that my screaming, ladies in tight outfits and sticking needles in delicate body parts (by aforementioned ladies) works equally well.

The image below shows a great set-up for the converse situation. It’s really hard to tolerate pain when you’re very focused on it, and this bondage set-up will enforce that. He can’t relax, zone out or shift focus. He has to try and maintain his balance will anticipating the blows. That creates an interesting but really intense head space.

This is from the Divine Bitches site.

Financial Domination (alternative version)

Courtesy of Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal here are some wise words on choosing role playing scenarios.

Personally I’ve never been much for financial responsibility, as my bank balance will attest. While the tradition approach to financial domination does nothing for me, a strict lady with a cane and good ideas for managing my 401K would be appealing. Fin dommes talk about wallet raping their pay piggies. I wonder if there’s a market for investment dommes who beat clients for not diversifying their pension portfolios?