Femdom Resource – Page 184 – The beauty of dominant women

Yumine Guo added to Femdom Artwork

It has been a while since I updated my Femdom Artwork pages. I’m very happy to break that lengthy hiatus with one of my favorite working artists – Yumine Guo. A lot of femdom artwork is very fetishistic and based on the male gaze. A lot like most femdom porn in fact. In contrast, I find Yumine’s work really captures the spirit of happy D/s play from both sides of the slash. There’s a sense of warmth and fun to it that’s often lacking in other femdom art.

The piece below was labeled ‘My boyfriend is so fucking cute…I just want to fuck him until he screams.’ You can see the original post here, and more at Yumine’s tumblr or blog.

We apologize for the interruption

Sorry about the lack of posts over the last few days. Inevitably I got sick after coming back from a trip. Flu season is bad enough, but flying in flu season is the kiss of death. Or at least the kiss of snuffly noses and annoying coughs.

I’m still in recovery mode, so while I go off to curl up under a blanket, let me leave you with some nice artwork. I’m not particularly a foot fetishist but I still thought this was kind of cute drawing. I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for it, so if you do then please let me know via a comment. I found it via the Elegant Femdom Art tumblr.

A triumph of stupidity

Governments doing stupid things is nothing new. Just in the last few days we’ve had the British PM suggest banning encryption on the internet (bye bye all electronic commerce!) and the US goverment put the idiotic Ted Cruz in charge Nasa and science programs. However, I think Russia has outdone them all with its latest law. Having already made a name for themselves with previous anti-LGBT laws, they’ve now banned transgender people from driving. In fact, when you dig past the headline, it’s not just transgender people. They’ve also banned sadomasochists, exhibitionists, fetishists and transvestites. If that kind of law ever became widespread I’d guess most of my readers would be walking to work. A completely crazy law and a continuation of a worrying trend for Russian citizens.

The image below is from the Russian Mistress site. I hope for the ladies sake that the local traffic police never see it. That certainly looks like sadistic behavior to me.

I found this via the Slaves of Elena tumblr.

Scream therapy

I’m safely back in Seattle after flying back late on Sunday night. I finished the trip with a bang, or possibly that should be a thwack, by playing with the beautiful Domina Ai-Li on Sunday afternoon. It was another really fun session. Playing fairly heavy on consecutive days creates some interesting dilemmas, as dommes do love to poke, prod and generally work over any bruises they spot from the previous day!

In my previous post I commented on the role the eyes can play in a scene. Today I’m going to go a couple of inches lower and talk about the throat. It’s not a body part that gets mentioned often, but I think it definitely played a role in my session with Ai-Li. I had a slightly sore throat when we started (probably as a result of too much drinking and talking in busy bars) and yelling and screaming in pain didn’t help matters. I have a tendency to do that when someone beats the inside of my thighs particularly hard. As a result I tried to bite back my yells to be kinder to my throat, and that in turn seemed to lower my pain tolerance. I think vocalizing is a way to release tension and push through tough situations. It lets me be free and simply express what I feel. Trying to hold it back makes it harder for me to take pain and therefore increases its apparent intensity. So I guess it you want to make it tougher for a submissive, tell him or her to shut the hell up.

Of course if you want to let someone scream but not scare the neighbors into calling the cops, a gag is always a good alternative. It doesn’t give you silence, but does muffle yells while still allowing a healthy moan.

I’m afraid I don’t know who the above domme is. If you do then feel free to enlighten me via the comments.

A visual connection

I was lucky enough to get to play with Domina Yuki today. She’s a very talented domme and as usual it was a great session with lots of groans, screams and whimpers. I can only hope the soundproofing in our playspace was good.

One thing I found particularly interesting was my emotional reaction to a whipping. I was lying face down on padded bench to receive it, looking to one side as she hit me with a heavy leather whip. To start with I was looking directly at her and the whipping felt incredibly intimate. Our only contact was the strands of the whip, and yet it felt like a caress. As others might feel about an intimate hug or a kiss, I felt about watching her swing this whip against me. It was almost a sexual experience.

After a number of strokes she moved around to my other side, where I couldn’t see her, and that changed the dynamic dramatically. Suddenly it was a challenge. I had to focus inside of myself and push through. The endorphins continued to flow but rather than being in an intimate situation I felt objectified. I could no longer project my feelings towards her and had to turn inward instead. I’m sure the strength of the blows were no different, yet they felt harder.

In hindsight the experience was a fascinating insight into the role of the brain in modifying pain and the way we can contextualize powerful sensations. It was almost a childlike reaction – sadistic peak-a-boo. Intellectually I always knew I was being hit by Mistress Yuki, but only when I could see her did it take on a different meaning.

We apologize for the interruption

Normally I try to keep this blog fairly isolated from the endless cycle of mainstream news stories. Today I’m going to make an exception. Normal service will be resumed shortly. In the meantime my thoughts are with the people who have lost loved ones in France.

This cartoon was originally attributed to Banksy but is actually the work of French artist Lucille Clerc.

That’s a wrap

If you’ve never played with this kind of plastic wrap mummification then I highly recommend it. The final result doesn’t look that sexy. In fact the subject ends up looking like a sausage in a shiny casing. However, on the plus side, it’s very quick and easy to create a tightly bound and immobilized submissive. From the dominant perspective this requires no mad ninja rope skills and it’s easy to cut access points in the plastic to get to all the interesting body parts. From the submissive perspective it creates a heavy bondage scenario that’s comfortable and makes it easy to slip into subspace.

The lady below appears to be using a rather narrow plastic wrap. I’d personally recommend using the kind of wrap used for pallet’s, as that’s strong and wide. Failing that just regular kitchen wrap also works. Just remember it’ll get pretty warm in there.

Ignored is bliss

Is there a specific fetish for being ignored during a sexual interaction? Given there’s a fetish for pretty much everything imaginable (rule 34), I have to assume there is. I guess it’s the flip-side to the cuckold scenario. There someone is ignored because of a more appealing sexual option. Here the gentleman appears to be being ignored because of a more appealing magazine. I’m not sure if this image is just crappy porn or some zen level kink.

I’m afraid I don’t know who originally created this image. I found it via the darkknitting tumblr.

More of a good thing

What’s the one thing you typically want after a vacation? In my case it’s normally another vacation. This year, courtesy of some friends heading to San Francisco, that’s exactly what I’m about to enjoy. After relaxing at home over Christmas and New Year I’m going to take a long weekend in the Bay Area. Of course this is only putting off the inevitable return to work, but putting off the inevitable is pretty much what life is all about.

Kinky shenanigans may well be on the agenda. Hopefully I’ll fit in some blogging around them. In the meantime, given that I’m feeling pretty happy about the idea of vacation², I’ll finish with a happy image. Regular readers may recognize Mistress T and Mistress Sidonia in this shot. I’m afraid I don’t know the name of the smiling gentleman in the hood.

I found this on the Happy BDSM tumblr.

Comment Problems

There seems to be something whacky happening with the comment system. Small comments seem to mostly be OK, but larger ones sometimes fail. Scott reported a problem in leaving a comment on the previous post and I can reproduce it. Unfortunately, while I can recreate the problem – a little exclamation mark sometimes pops up at the side and the comment doesn’t get submitted – I can’t figure out why it happens or what the fix is. If anyone else is having problem then please let me know by ~~leaving a comment~~ sending me an email.

While I go off to beat my head against the wall over the terrible wordpress documentation, let me leave you with this nicely posed image of a couple and some chains.

This image is by Miurihausen Photography aka Ventura Mendoza. I originally found it (in the usual annoying hacked up tumblr style with missing attribution) via this tumblr.