Femdom Resource – Page 184 – The beauty of dominant women

Your Friendly Neighborhood Spider-Man

I’ve got a big smile on my face tonight and a lot of marks on my torso. I played with Lydia earlier and she did some rather unusual bondage using thin twine. It was the kind of rough scratchy twine you might use for a craft project and she wrapped me up like a leg of lamb for Sunday dinner. It was an unusual sensation. Definitely not the kind of bondage you can relax into. Very pinchy, itchy and grippy. Uncomfortable with every moment, which was very much her plan.

I was tempted to take some photographs, but it wasn’t a particularly flattering look. I’m generally fairly slim, but I was definitely bulging and spilling out in odd ways between the tight thin strands. On the plus side, I was left with some very cool marks when the bondage came off. It was web like, and reminded me of a spiderman outfit, as I had all these dark lines radiating out across my chest and spaced down my arms.

This gentleman has a more traditional spiderman outfit. His bondage is also a little different to mine, but equally entertaining in its way. I’m afraid I’ve no idea where this is from.

A happy customer

I spotted this cheerful image on Ms Michelle Lacy’s twitter feed. Based on the ass writing, I’m going to guess the implements she’s brandishing are from the CANE-IAC store. I’ve not ordered from them myself, but she looks pretty happy with what they offer. While we can’t see his expression, I’d hope that a playful domme with a handful of slappy toys would be creating an equally big smile at the other end of her human billboard.

Ms Michelle Lacy is a South Florida based pro-domme. You can see more of her, along with her contact information, at her professional site.

Hanging and kissing

I’m not strictly sure what kind of scene is playing out in these two shots, but I do love the imagery. Combining bondage and tenderness always pushes my buttons. The rope marks on his torso in the second shot are particularly nice. They remind me of the marks I see in my own flesh after playing.

The photographer is Benedetto Dell’ariccia and you can see more of his work at his site.

I found these via the CaliforniaAnge tumblr.

A cappuccino with a kick

Getting charged a ridiculous amount for a poorly made coffee in one of the major American coffee chains can sometimes feel like a metaphorical kick in the nuts. A Japanese coffee house has taken that a step further with the option of a literal kick in the ass. On top of that they’ll throw in some publication humiliation and verbal abuse, all for the bargain price of $15. That’s expensive for coffee, but an absolute steal compared to what a pro-domme will charge.

I have to admit that the idea of young women dressing as maids is kind of creepy to me, but that’s very much a function of my cultural background. There’s no shortage of different fetishized outfits used in America to sell products (including coffee and chicken wings). Japan even has an option for those men desiring to wear the skirt rather than admire it, as there’s a cross-dressing equivalent of the maid cafe. It can only be a matter of time before someone combines the two and caters to the niche who’d like to get kicked in the ass by a cross dressing maid.

Lending a hand

If you’ve browsed femdom porn in the last few years you’ve probably encountered Coral Korrupt. A Fort Lauderdale based pro-domme, she’s shot clips for ClubDom and Femdom Empire. I’ve featured her in a couple of previous posts of my own (here and here).

Sadly she’s been diagnosed with a serious form of cancer which she’s currently battling. Her friend Lexi Sindel (also a well known femdom face) has established a GoFundMe fundraiser to help pay some of her bills. If you’ve ever appreciated her images or enjoyed her clips, this would be a perfect way to give something back. Alternatively, if you’ve just enjoyed a lot of different free femdom porn over the years, think of this as a way to give back to performers and restore some karmic balance.

Image is of Coral Korrupt from her website gallery. You can donate to her medical fund here.

Running the numbers

The study of sexual fantasies that I talked about in yesterday’s post contained some interesting percentages for D/s scenarios. It was simultaneously predictable and surprising.

The predictable bit was the breakdown across the genders. More men fantasize about dominating than being dominated (60% vs 53%). More women fantasize about being dominated than dominating someone else (65% vs 47%). One can argue about the reasons for that split, but it doesn’t surprise me. What did was the absolute value of the percentages. I wouldn’t have guessed that over 50% of men had fantasized about submitting and that almost 50% of women had fantasized about dominating. I’d have predicted much lower numbers.

Of course, as is always the case with these surveys, the devil is in the detail. There’s a big difference between a question framed as ‘Have you ever…” versus ‘Do you sometimes…’ The term dominated is also a very broad one. I suspect if I surveyed my male readers and asked them what being dominated meant, their minds would turn to leather, whips, chains, thigh high boots and Amazonian goddesses wielding enormous strap-ons. You know – all the usual everyday stuff. I don’t know what was in the minds of the 47% of women in this study who fantasized about dominating, but it probably didn’t match up too closely with that. Some of them might simply have meant cunnilingus that lasts as long as they want and great sex with them on top.

Image is from the Classy Femdom tumblr. I don’t have an original source.

What’s in a number?

There’s a new sex study popping up on a variety of news sites. It contains an analysis of sexual fantasies divided by gender, detailing what percentages fantasize about what activities. It’s always hard to know just how reliable or well researched these kind of surveys are, but given this one was by the University of Montreal and appeared in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, I’m going to give it the benefit of the doubt and assume it’s vaguely meaningful.

The Daily Dot article on it gets the underling message of it right. There’s really no such thing as ‘normal’ and no matter what you like, there’s doubtless a bunch of other people out there that share your fantasy. The Business Insider article is a little more judgmental and focuses more on the normal/unusual/rare categorizing. Those seem like unfortunate and inaccurate labels to me.

Let’s take for example the fantasy of being urinated on. I know that’s one that has appeal to at least some of my readers. It’s classed as unusual in the survey, with 10% of men and 3.5% of women claiming it. With around 300M people in the US, a naive extrapolation and some basic maths tells me that around 20M people in the US have fantasized about being peed on. That doesn’t sound all that rare or unusual to me.

Let’s put that number in context. That 20M is more than the population of New York, LA and Chicago combined (15M). It’s more than the average of 14M people who watched the 2014 World Series – the cliffhanging finale to America’s national pastime. It’s more than the highest rated sporting event last week (Monday night football at 18.8M) and the highest rate scripted show on cable (the Walking Dead at 14.5M). The biggest selling track of last year was Robin Thicke’s blurred Lines at 6.5M. So more people would rather get pissed on than buy a track from Robin Thicke. Remind me what’s unusual here again?

Some sexual activities are a little less common that others. Fucking automobiles for example. But if a fantasy is shared by the same number of people that attend Disneyland every year, I’m going to go ahead and say it can’t be called uncommon.

After using the example of watersports I really have to follow-up with a suitable image. This isn’t actually the act itself, but it’s pretty clearly a build up to a liquid lunch.

I believe this is another image from the Rinryu site (warning strong content including some scat).

Resplendent astride her captive

This image caught my eye recently, but for a while I couldn’t figure out why. It’s more porny than I typically like and, although I do think it’s kind of hot, it’s also too cliched to really push my buttons. It seemed familiar, and tonight it finally clicked what it reminded me of. It looks just like a gender reversed Swords and Sorcery fantasy novel cover.

The Gor novels are the classic example in the erotic domain, but there are countless other examples in the fantasy genre. Typically they feature some big beefcake with a sword and a comely slave girl at his feet. For example, this and this and this and this. In this case they’ve switched it around, with a dominant Gia DiMarco, who looks like she could give Conan a run for his money.

Site Updates

It has been a while since I updated any site pages other than the front page. Over the next few weeks I’ll try and put that right. Today I’ve started with the Femdom Image page. Dead and dormant sites have been removed. New sites have been added. The new additions include…

While it’s easy to find tumblr sites full of attractive female models in stereotypical fetish gear, it’s trickier to track down femdom sites that have a more submissive focus. I have a separate section for those, and I always struggle to find new entries for it. If anyone has any suggestions for sites of that nature that I haven’t already listed, then feel free to leave a comment with the link.

The image above was found on one of the newly added sites – Femdom Delights. I think this is the gorgeous Jessica Host shooting for TS Seduction, but I’m afraid I can’t track down the original scene to prove it for sure.

Bayonetta

Having touched on gaming in my previous post, that does give me an excuse to segue onto a game related topic. Specifically the game Bayonetta, which features a tall, aggressive leather clad female protagonist. It clearly draws on BDSM culture (as alluded to here by one of the designers), but I’d always dismissed it as an example of the typical adolescent dominatrix fantasy that crops up fairly often in video games. Maddy Myers, writing in Paste magazine, thinks otherwise. It’s an interesting article, and she clearly identifies with both the dominant role and the leading character.

We don’t just get invited to watch Bayonetta, we also inhabit her. When I play, Bayonetta is me, and the camera’s glances are just the “sub gaze”—the male submissive’s gaze. Bayonetta holds all the cards.
Maddy Myers in Paste

It’s rare to read such a thoughtful commentary on a video game. It’s even rarer to have a woman come out as a dominant in a non-professional BDSM setting. Pro-domme tell-all articles are a dime a dozen, but I can’t remember the last time I encountered a woman identifying that way in the context of her professional non-kinky life. You can read more from her at her site.

While I head off to Amazon to order a copy of the first version of the game, I’ll leave you with some Bayonetta cosplay by TraumaticCandy. The original character design is deliberately freakishly long-limbed, and this costume does an amazing job of capturing that.