Femdom Resource – Page 306 – The beauty of dominant women

For all sufferers of misandry

I came across this interesting post (via bondage blog) on the difference between BDSM and misogyny/misandry. It’s a controversial discussion area in some political circles (although probably not among readers of this blog) and I like the way the writer addressed it.

I just like being beaten by the person who loves me because it’s sexy, because power games are hot, and it’s not about sex, gender, race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or ANY of that shit, some of us just like being submissive in the bedroom and some of us just like being dominant. End of goddamn story.

It’s written by The Peacock Angel who describes herself as a “kinky atheist feminist submissive dyke… and a professional dominatrix.”

Happy Anticipation?

I always enjoy a happy looking natural domme. There’s nothing more exciting to me than a real sadist who gets off on what she’s doing. But I do hope in this image it’s a happiness born of anticipation, rather than an after the fact celebration. His ass looks like it’s had a nice warm-up, but it is far too unmarked and welt free to have fully experienced that cane she’s holding.

I found this on the SirCane tumblr site, which features caning and paddling in all gender combinations.

Ruined Orgasm Clips

I came across these on the cocosel tumblr site. They’re short clips from RobandJill.com, showing a nice mixture or teasing and ruined orgasms.

A standard clip of a woman masturbating a man has relatively little interest to me. It’s simply one of a million porn shots floating around out there. But by taking something away, having her stop at the critical point, it suddenly becomes very compelling.

There’s something very animalistic about the immediate lead up to orgasm for a man. Beyond a magic tipping point all the muscles just start doing their own thing, and everything automatically runs to a finish, with the higher brain functions just along for the ride. I think it’s this very primal response that makes a ruined orgasm so exciting. A little like breathplay, it’s messing with some very deep in-built mental wiring.

Whap!

I have a love hate relationship with CBT. Specifically I hate the B and love the C. The cock seems to have very proportional pain sensors, so it’s possible to build the sensations in a manageable way. In contrast the balls go through nothing…nothing…nothing….oh my god that hurts….please please stop.

This is a very compelling image. The latex catsuit is hot. The dynamic nature of the shot, with the descending crop, is great. And the bruised swollen balls, held in place by a humbler, are very attractive (in a strange BDSM sense). The only thing I don’t like is when I project myself into this situation. Because then I picture myself screaming like a stuck pig. And that’s minus several million points on the submissive scoring scale.

Too Fabulous?

Mistress Servalan recently posed a question I never expected to see from a pro-domme: Do I look too good in this shot?

The crux of the issue was truth in advertising. Should she pick the absolutely best shot of herself in the expectation it’ll attract more clients? Or should she pick more average shots in order to set realistic expectations for when people meet her in the less than perfect reality that exists outside the photographers studio?

The question itself struck me as a mildly interesting one. But I was even more interested it what it said about the person asking it. In a marketplace where stolen photographs and heavy photoshopping is common, here’s someone who is concerned she might appear dishonest by posting a genuine unedited photograph. That’s the kind of person I’d feel safe in entrusting with my physical welfare in intense situations (if only I lived somewhere vaguely close to Sidney, Australia).

Of course, after all this build up, I feel posting the image in question is only fair. My personal opinion is that yes, she does look absolutely fabulous, but it’s perfectly fair to post it on her site. Any idiot who’d walk away from a session with her is probably someone she can do without.

Hanging a left on geek street

Despite matching a number of the geek stereotypes (smart, bookish, analytical, software hacking guy) I typically don’t like the stereotypical geek TV shows. Things like Star Trek, Doctor Who, X-Files and the new Battlestar Galatica do absolutely nothing for me. However, there is one exception to this rule – Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I love this show with a passion that goes well beyond any rational measure and borders on the scarily obsessed (although not quite to the extent Simon Pegg portrays in the brilliant series Spaced). Powerful female characters, clever writing, multi-layered story arcs and tweedy British sex symbols – what’s not to like?

Of course my favorite character was always Willow, the quiet, shy, super smart, super nerdy red head, whose alter-egos always turned out to be über-dommes. The first of these was vampire Willow, shown in the first image below, who tried to both kill and make-out with her good counterpart. Then came dark Willow, shown in the second image, who pretty much tried to kill everybody.

If you’ve never seen the show, then it’s well worth queuing up on netflix. There are no sparkly vampires, and if you feel the need to intellectually justify watching a show about teenagers, then feel free to browse some of the academic papers writen on it.

The anonymous submissive

This is a continuation of the F/f theme from my previous post. However, where the previous image was all about the D/s connection, and the eyes of the submissive, this image is all about the objectification of the submissive. There’s no face, just a blank mask. She’s even been disconnected from her own body by the heavy wooden collar, which objectifies the area of torture even further.

I’m not sure if this is a candid behind the scenes shot, where the domme has gone to get water for both of them during a break. Or if this is an in-scene shot, showing the domme going to grab a refreshing drink of water while she enjoys watching the submissive squirm and suffer. Or perhaps the best option of all, it is a timout for the domme and camera crew, but nobody has bothered to tell the submissive that. She’s forced to maintain her posture and twitch with the current while listening to her mistress take five and chat with the crew.

Note: On an entirely unrelated topic, I’m on vacation for a few days in San Francisco. I’ll try and post regularly, but apologies in advance if updates are a little more erratic than usual.

This image has floated around several tumblr sites, but it’s obviously originally from the very accurately named wired pussy.

Submissive Eyes

In past posts I’ve featured images that highlighted the beautiful eyes of some dominant women (for example here, here and here). This particular image caught my attention because of the submissive’s eyes. Over years of viewing BDSM porn I’ve seen a lot of different expressions on the faces of submissives – pleading, anger, suffering, humiliation, boredom, etc. This is one of the rare images that for me captures a sense of subspace. Her expression is slightly glazed and her eyes are wide, but not in any kind of shock or surprise. She’s connecting with the dominant, staring back at her, but with no sense of challenge or defiance. Her expression seems to capture a moment of acceptance, a complete transfer of power to the dominant. From a personal perspective, those kind of moments are the most satisfying and emotionally moving of any session I do.

I found this image on the Kneel Beg Crawl tumblr site. It was originally shot by Ryan St. Germain (although I can’t find it on his site anywhere). I believe the dominant is Maitresse Madeline (but I’m not 100% sure).

New Femdom Images Page

As you can probably see from the top menu bar, I’ve created a new page entitled Femdom Images. This is a directory of blogs, chans and tumblr sites that host a large number of interesting femdom images. In many ways it’s just a translation of a lot of my bookmarks onto a public page. If you’re looking for some interesting femdom material, or just want a blast of kinky eye candy, then this page is hopefully a good one to start with.

I’m going to try and keep it updated regularly, so if you think I’ve missed a great site (almost certainly true) then feel free to leave me a comment here or on the page itself.

Housekeeping Issues

I spotted these two images on the Slaves of the Goddess tumblr site. They were in separate posts but they look like images taken from the same sequence from the under-feet.com site.

The first one struck me as kind of cute. She’s elegantly attired and is presumably returning after a day or night out with friends or possibly lovers. He’s eagerly awaiting her return at the door, knees getting sore on the hard floor and his jaw beginning to ache from holding the crop. There’s a nice owner/attentive pet vibe that comes off the image.

The second one, presumably taken a few minutes later, is not quite so cute. I’m assuming something in his housekeeping routine didn’t quite make the grade. I have heard that the old approach of ‘rub their nose in it’ isn’t a effective training technique for dogs. I’m guessing that’s a snippet of information that may have passed her by.