The dividends of distraction

Scientists have found that being distracted helps people deal with pain. The only surprising thing to me is that they’re only just discovering this fact. Masochists could have told them this long ago.

The fact that pain is only experienced in the brain is the kind of thing movie super villains like to purr while they’re heating up the red hot coals for the hero. Yet it happens to be true. I’m frequently astonished how non-absolute pain can be. What seems horrible early in a play session can be easily tolerated later. Similarly a steady strong stimulus (say from an electro-stim device) can quickly become unnoticeable when overwhelmed by a suddenly intense sensation (like nipple clamps being ripped off). Lots of things can act as a distraction. In the original article they tried stress balls. I’ve also found that my screaming, ladies in tight outfits and sticking needles in delicate body parts (by aforementioned ladies) works equally well.

The image below shows a great set-up for the converse situation. It’s really hard to tolerate pain when you’re very focused on it, and this bondage set-up will enforce that. He can’t relax, zone out or shift focus. He has to try and maintain his balance will anticipating the blows. That creates an interesting but really intense head space.

Intense SceneThis is from the Divine Bitches site.

Yumine Guo added to Femdom Artwork

It has been a while since I updated my Femdom Artwork pages. I’m very happy to break that lengthy hiatus with one of my favorite working artists – Yumine Guo. A lot of femdom artwork is very fetishistic and based on the male gaze. A lot like most femdom porn in fact. In contrast, I find Yumine’s work really captures the spirit of happy D/s play from both sides of the slash. There’s a sense of warmth and fun to it that’s often lacking in other femdom art.

The piece below was labeled ‘My boyfriend is so fucking cute…I just want to fuck him until he screams.’ You can see the original post here, and more at Yumine’s tumblr or blog.

Yumine Guo

We apologize for the interruption

Sorry about the lack of posts over the last few days. Inevitably I got sick after coming back from a trip. Flu season is bad enough, but flying in flu season is the kiss of death. Or at least the kiss of snuffly noses and annoying coughs.

I’m still in recovery mode, so while I go off to curl up under a blanket, let me leave you with some nice artwork. I’m not particularly a foot fetishist but I still thought this was kind of cute drawing. I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for it, so if you do then please let me know via a comment. I found it via the Elegant Femdom Art tumblr.

Artwork

That’s a wrap

If you’ve never played with this kind of plastic wrap mummification then I highly recommend it. The final result doesn’t look that sexy. In fact the subject ends up looking like a sausage in a shiny casing. However, on the plus side, it’s very quick and easy to create a tightly bound and immobilized submissive. From the dominant perspective this requires no mad ninja rope skills and it’s easy to cut access points in the plastic to get to all the interesting body parts. From the submissive perspective it creates a heavy bondage scenario that’s comfortable and makes it easy to slip into subspace.

The lady below appears to be using a rather narrow plastic wrap. I’d personally recommend using the kind of wrap used for pallet’s, as that’s strong and wide. Failing that just regular kitchen wrap also works. Just remember it’ll get pretty warm in there.

PlasticWrap

Happy Holidays

If you’re someone who celebrates Christmas then I hope you have a happy one. While many of my readers might qualify for the naughty list, I hope Santa is good to all of you.

If Christmas is not part of your traditions then I expect you’re probably fed up with all the themed blog posts on it that pop up at this time of year. I can only apologize for launching yet another one out onto the internet.

Christmas Fun

Calculating look

Here’s another image on a similar theme to yesterday’s post. There’s a bound and gagged man being observed by a thoughtful domme. However, where yesterday the dominant’s look was intense and focused, this is more thoughtful and considered. It seems like a moment between action. She’s just enjoying his predicament before ramping the intensity back up.

Calculating LookOnce again my Google image search-fu is failing, and I don’t have an original source for this. I’d be prepared to make a small wager it’s originally from a kink.com site, but I don’t have proof. I originally found it on the Classy Femdom tumblr.

Most men appreciate a few more inches

The French have apparently scientifically proven that men are attracted to women in high heels. This study wasn’t done by the Institute of the Incredibly Bleeding Obvious, but by the Universite de Bretagne-Sud for the journal “Archives of Sexual Behaviour”. They used female volunteers with a variety of heel heights to see how ‘helpful’ male strangers were in different situations.

One situation involved a woman asking passers-by: “Excuse me, sir. We are currently conducting a survey on gender equality. Would you agree to answer our questionnaire?” Flat heels got a 46.7% answer rate, medium heels a 63% rate and the highest heels a whopping 83% success rate from the men.

The overall results don’t surprise me at all, although I hope the experimental set-up was more thoughtful than that simply description suggests. The aspect of high heels that does always surprise me is how many men complain about their women wearing them. Specifically, how many complain about having to drive or take cabs because their partners don’t feel like walking miles through dark badly maintained urban streets on them. I think if you’re heading out for drinks and dinner, the least you can do is spring for a few dollars cab fare.

The most amusing example of this I saw was waiting in the taxi line at the Mandarin Oriental in Las Vegas. The couple in front of me were heading to the MGM Grand, which is a 10-15 minute walk in flats, and the man was complaining to the valet about the fact he had to take a cab because of his wife. She ripped off what looked like a very expensive high heeled shoe and brandished it in his face. Then, speaking loudly enough for the entire line to here, told him if he wanted to swap shoes with her she’d be happy to walk. Sadly she didn’t force him to take her heels, but he was quiet for the next few minutes until their cab arrived.

Lady in high heels with a naked bound manI found this on the Domination on My Terms tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution.

Rope and Cane

While I’m on the subject of caning, here’s an interesting shot featuring said implement. It’s kind of abstract and hot all at the same time. The heavy bondage combined with the cane stripes is pretty sexy. I think I’d enjoy being in that position. At the same time the simple geometric nature of the image, with segments of white flesh against the dark background, create a sense of disconnection from a real human scene. If you stare at it long enough it almost becomes an abstract piece of art.

Rope and Cane

I’m afraid I haven’t tracked down an original attribution for this. If anyone can help me with that then please let me know via the comments.

Turning the screw

After my previous post on Seedfeeder I though a follow-up with some artwork from Rodzo would be appropriate. Their work is stylistically similar, with minimal backgrounds, cleanly drawn figures and simple unfussy lines. They both remind me of illustrators of textbooks or instruction manuals. In Rodzo’s case that would almost certainly be a manual on face sitting and forced oral sex, as his themes are very consistent.

Despite years of looking at erotic images, I’m still intrigued by what pushes my buttons and why. The images below, particularly the first one, really caught my attention, but it’s not entirely clear to me what the trigger factor is. I think it’s the contrast between the serious and brutal metal bondage and her sweet expression. She looks almost demure, and oral sex is such a tender act, yet those clamps and her need to tighten them suggest a different type of interaction.

Rodzo artwork
Rodzo artworkI found these on the Equally Deep In Your Eyes tumblr.