Tag: CBT

Eagle eyed readers may have noticed the lack of a blogroll on the right. That got wiped out when I was screwing around with wordpress trying to fix a problem related to people leaving comments. Unfortunately the comment problem still isn’t properly fixed and the blogroll got hit by friendly fire in the process.

Luckily I’ve managed to find a cached copy of my frontpage with the old blogroll on one of the search engines, and therefore I at least now have the previous list of links. Next step is to go through it and rebuild the blogroll with the appropriate RSS feed links. It should be back by tomorrow. In the meantime if you leave comments, try and avoid words like femdom, kinky, dominatrix, etc. For some reason my wordpress software seems to have acquired a puritanical streak and doesn’t like ‘naughty’ words. Just the kind of thing you need for a blog like this one. I can only hope it doesn’t start doing the same thing to my posts, or this could rapidly become the most boring sex related blog ever.

In the meantime I’ll leave you with a shot of a gentleman having his balls squeezed. Dealing with obscure software issues can often feel like this. Only I don’t get the benefit of the nice lady to do the squeezing.

This image is from the Divine Bitches site. I found it via the Alternative Femdom tumblr.

Haunted houses have evolved since I was a child. I used to be frighted by plastic skeletons and huge rubber spiders. Events like the one run by kink.com at their armory headquarters now allow you to be be spooked by guys cutting their dick off and pretend prisoners wearing diapers and smearing fake shit on people.

The most extreme example I’ve read about is the one called McKamey Manor. The linked article describes it as something for masochists, but to this masochist it sounds horribly unappealing. Partly because I need a sense of connection and intimacy to go along with my pain. Partly because it doesn’t sound like the people running it have any kind of training in the extreme activities they undertake. Certainly doesn’t seem like RACK or SSC.

Sticking to the scary theme – how about this particular set-up? No ghouls or ghosts in sight, but it does give me a shiver. That thick tightly wound rope and big ring suggests that a significant load is expected to be applied. I’m not sure what load that attachment point has been tested up to, but it doesn’t quite as sturdy as a typical playspace hard point.

There’s no watermark on the image, but I’m pretty certain it’s a kink.com one.

A few days ago I had a good rant about the incredibly obnoxious expression of ‘selling their bodies’. Today I stumbled across this Bustle article by Casper Rose that touches on similar ground. I’m happy to say Casper’s article is far better written, reasoned and more personal. She highlights the hypocrisy of how society sub-divide different types of physical labor, as well as the complexity sex work introduces into her personal life. It’s an interesting and moving article.

For an image I’m going to feature somebody looking particularly proud of their days work. This is from the Kinky Domina.

Flicking is one of those things that seems like a pretty mild sensation but can actually build to something really intense.The trick is not to aim for a single strong flick, but use a repeated series of flicks to the same spot. The exact periodicity or rhythm doesn’t matter, you just want to get a small group of nerves constantly singing.

From a psychological perspective it’s a bit like an itch or someone constantly poking you. After a bit you just want to yell ‘Goddamn it! Stop that.’ From a physical perspective focusing in one spot can really exaggerate the sensation. I’m not sure what the underlying mechanism in the nervous system is, but it seems to be a cumulative one, where the pain gradually builds. This is particularly the case when the spot is a sensitive one to start with.

I’m afraid I don’t know the source of this image, although if I had to guess, I’d say it was one of the kink.com sites. I found it on the Please Take My Control tumblr.

Updated: Thanks to a very helpful comment from François I can confirm it’s a kink image, specifically from Men In Pain and features Miss Brooke and Andy Mann.