CBT – Page 9 – Femdom Resource

Ball, balls and ball

I can’t claim to be a huge an of this ladies outfit – it smacks too much of motorbike magazine cover girl for me – but I do like what she’s done with this suspension. He’s been tied into a tight ball, then she has tied his balls up, and then she’s hung a metal ball from his balls. It’s a ball trifecta.

I’m also thinking that the soles of his feet are going to be awfully vulnerable in this position, and she still has that cane lying on the floor. Bastinado on top of suspension and CBT would be wonderfully evil.

This is originally from the Men in Pain site. I found it on the written in the water tumblr.

The hidden hand

Any guesses what she’s doing with that left hand? Is it a pull, a squeeze or a pinch? Whatever she’s doing, it’s producing two very contrasting expressions.

I found this on the Diaries of a Submissive Husband tumblr. It’s originally from the Woman Worship site.

Claws concluded

To finish my little trio of posts on claws, here’s Goddess Kyaa having fun with them and a delicate part of the male anatomy. They certainly seem to be putting a big smile on her face.

Alternatively, if you like combining fashion and art with your kink, then these claws from Danielle Nicole Hills might be worth looking for. At $200 each ($900 for the set) they’re not exactly cheap, but they do look quite striking.

Spiky

I’m safely back in Seattle. A couple of games of Civ Revolution and many glasses of red wine kept me entertained while traversing the continent. Often on these kind of flights I’m nursing some bruises or tender spots from a session. Dommes seem to take an inordinate delight in making the hell of air travel even more uncomfortable for me. It’s almost as if they’re some kind of sadists. Fortunately, despite a couple of very enjoyable sessions with Miss Troy Orleans on the prior days, I didn’t have to contend with that particular issue this time.

I haven’t yet had time to track down some good post topics, so I’ll take the easy route and point at some interesting content elsewhere. D has a nice post up on using a dermaroller that caught my eye. I always enjoy discovering a new pervertible and this one looks like a lot of fun. Blending sensation play and pain is always a favorite of mine. The old school approach to this is the Wartenberg wheel, which might not be as intense or as versatile as a dermaroller, but does look beautiful. This is Mistress Varla using one in a K is for Kink shoot. I found it on Dishevelled Domina’s tumblr.

Heading home

Today is my last full day in NYC. I’ve got one more lunch lined up at a great restaurant, and then it’ll be 6 hours of reading books and starting at the back of an airplane seat. On the plus side, going home will hopefully allow me to get back to proper blogging rather than simply throwing up a few quick sentences and an entertaining image. And talking of which, here’s today’s dose of whatever caught my eye on tumblr. It shows a nice moment of tenderness together with an interesting alternative use for nipple clamps. I’m sure that right hand of hers is a guarantee of absolute attention from him.

I found this on the My Inner Domme tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution.

Squeeze!

I’m having too much fun in NYC to blog properly. I’ll therefore stick to simply posting images I like. This one has a nice trio of facial expressions. It features Lexi Sindel and Lea Lexis and is from Femdom Empire. Personally while I like the C part of CBT, I’m not big on the B. That long drawn out ache is tough to deal with. I’d guess this guy is going to be living with the results of that squeeze for a while.

I found this on the Alternative Femdom tumblr.

Lazy blogging

I have to admit that I’m not always the best organized blogger. Some people have multiple posts and drafts lined up in their queue ready to go at the push of a button. I typically have a bunch of thoughts, a few random images, and a glass of wine to work with. Sometimes they come together. Often they don’t. When I’m stuck and it’s late at night, I turn to some of my favorite tumblrs for inspiration. I figure if I can find a good image I’m 80% done already.

One of those ‘go to’ tumblrs is the Happy BDSM one. A feel-good photograph of a grin and some kink is always an easy one to blog about. I was therefore perturbed to browse it tonight and discover a whole bunch of my old posts popping up on it (all with the correct attribution). Did nobody tell these people that they’re where I go for images? It doesn’t work if it’s the other way around. It’ll end up as an infinite loop of reposting with zero added value, much like the Huffington Post. Somebody has to do some actual work here, and I’ll be damned if it’s going to be me.

Anyway, while the Happy BDSM folks sort themselves, out, I’ll leave you with the kind of image I was hoping to find and steal from them. This was actually from the Kaisub blog.

I feel that I should be able to track an original source for this image. It looks like something from a professional shoot, but nothing pops up on a Google reverse image search. The Japanese style genital blurring is also kind of odd for what looks like a Western image. Anyway, if anyone can help me attribute it, then please leave a comment.

Chestnuts roasting on a high power hair dryer

I thought I’d seen most forms of CBT, but this is a new one to me. I’m not sure if the silver foil is designed to spread the heat, concentrate the heat or simply ensure he bastes evenly in his own juices. Either way it looks like a particularly intense form of torture. On the plus side he might end up with some stylishly coiffured pubic hair.

This is originally from the OWK site. I found it on the Dominalova tumblr.

Sadism revisited

I feel the need to return to the topic of sadism and sadists. Some of the comments left on my post from a few days ago were thought provoking. In particular I was struck by how overloaded the term ‘sadist’ is.

Most labels we apply to people also carry a judgement about their behavior. Consent (or the lack of it) is seen as so important it’s often baked right into the label itself. For example, if I have consensual sex with a partner them I’m a lover, but non-consensual sex with anyone makes me a rapist. I can be a consensual flirt, but never a non-consensual one. That’s sexual harassment. I can be an employer of consenting workers, but only a slaver or trafficker of non-consensual ones. Actions themselves can be neutral, but the labels we use on people rarely are. A punch is neutral, but a boxer is not the same as a mugger.

Sadism is fairly unusual in that respect. It carries no information on consent. It’s accurate to describe a domme who enjoys S&M as a sadist. It’s also accurate to describe a horror movie psychopath in the same way. This strikes me as problematic when talking about kink in a mainstream context. As hmp accurately pointed out, non-kinky people really don’t get the idea of consensual sadism at a gut level. Having the same label used for very different behaviors is therefore particularly confusing. People are used to labels implying judgement about behavior, and given their gut feel about the infliction of pain, their default view of sadism will always be a bad one.

Masochism doesn’t have this problem. It’s a more passive label and consent is naturally implied. We really need another word for sadist that pairs more tightly with masochist. That way we could leave sadism as the general label for non-consent and save the new word for only when masochists are consensually on the receiving end. I’ve no idea what that word should be however. Any suggestions? Maybe I should get Dan Savage on the case. He’s done a pretty good job so far coining pegging, GGG and Santorum.

Given the subject matter it seems only fitting to finish with an image of a sadist in action. This is from the Divine Bitches site.

A delicate slap to the penis

This post was supposed to be a thoughtful follow-up to yesterdays one on the topic of negotiation. Unfortunately I got sucked into watching an old Columbo movie and ran out of time. If there’s one thing I like more than blogging, it’s well, many things actually. Sex. Bondage. Pain. Wine. Food. Books. Art. Fast cars. So really, among the many things I like more than blogging, one is classic Columbo movies. And that’s where my time went tonight.

I’ll therefore settle for a simple post with an interesting image. I love their expressions. I love the slapping action. But what’s with his blue shirt and her pink boots? It’s good that they’re not in stereotypical fetishwear, but is this the best alternative they could come up with?

The image is originally from the Men in Pain site. I found it on the Femdom Times site.