Cuckold – Page 3 – Femdom Resource

You might be a redneck if…

…you don’t enjoy cuckolding. At least that’s according to this article on it over at the Daily Beast (thanks to Suzanne for the link). It’s an interesting article, but based on what seems to be a flawed premise. Its primary contention is that cuckolding is S&M for smart people. A type of psychological torture that is ideal suited to kinky members of Mensa.

In this respect, cuckolding attracts “the very highly educated,” Paul says, adding that it’s “truly intellectual in its enterprise because it replaces sexual touch with humiliation and emotional pain, both of which are psychological. Most of what gives me physical pleasure has to go on in my brain. I’m totally being classist, but this isn’t like people in redneck bars asking each other, ‘You wanna fuck my wife?’ It’s much more complex. It’s pleasure on a different level.”
Dr Paul Pines

Given the focus on intelligence, it’s ironic that the article itself comes across as so dumb. For one thing the conflation of intelligence with emotional masochism seems incredibly simplistic. Yes, they’re both something to do with the brain. But so is pretty much anything we experience, including physical pain. Any kind of D/s is about power dynamics and relationships, which are an intellectual construct. I’m also not a fan of the presumably corollary, that if emotional masochism is for smart people then physical masochism must be better suited for the hairy knuckle crowd. As someone who enjoys a carefully delivered beating, me no happy bout that type of finkin.

I guess one argument they could be making is that you need to be smart to deal with the jealousy and emotional risks of cuckolding. That would presuppose that smart people are more emotionally mature. That supposition doesn’t correspond with anything I’ve observed in reality. I work in the software industry with a lot of scarily smart people. I have friends working in places like Google, Microsoft and Facebook on some of their most complex products. PhD’s are as common as expense cellphones, badly fitting T-shirts and intellectual arrogance. When I think about these people, emotional maturity is not a description that leaps to mind. Nor does it hop, saunter or nervously peer round the door into mind. These are the kind of people who can become emotionally unhinged arguing over indent styles. God knows what they’d make of someone treating their significant other as a shared resource and playing with her ACL’s (sorry, geek humor) *.

For an accompanying image I thought I’d go with something I found on the Felm Cyber tumblr. I like it for the distorted perspective, exaggerated bodies and weird decor. They give it a jangly off-kilter feel, which is a good match for the emotions involved. I’m afraid I couldn’t track down an artist attribution.

* Note that I’m not saying that smart people can’t be emotional mature. Or that computer geeks can’t be into cuckolding. Just that the correlation between PhD smart and the ability to deal with an emotionally fraught situation is very much unproven.

Fetish Density

There’s quite a lot of fetishes packed into this seemingly simply little picture. There’s bondage (he’s in stocks), forniphilia (treating him as a footstool), CFNM and obviously tease and denial. Cuckolding could also feature depending on the relationships between the three of them. Judging by the red marks on his body he has been beaten at some point in the recent past, so we can add general sadism into the mix as well. There’s even high heels for shoe fetishists, although that’s the bit of the picture I like least. Who’d wear ridiculous shoes like that in a garden setting?

By the well known fetishes per megapixel measure (invented 5 minutes ago by yours truly) that comes out as 20.2 palts (named after its brilliant and yet modest inventor). Lookout for this new standard spreading across internet porn sites near you. It’ll make it so much easier to find exactly the level of decadence and depravity you’re really after.

I found this on the Mistress Anastasia tumblr. It’s originally from Planet Femdom.

Giggity

Here’s a cuckold or tease and denial shot with a bit of a twist. It’s an all female couple enjoying themselves for a change, and rather than simply tie the slave to a chair, he has been both mummified and suspended.

In theory this has all the right elements to be a really hot shot. There’s no individually aspect I don’t like. Yet, it somehow it puts me in mind of Glen Quagmire from the show Family Guy. Weird, I know. I think it’s because it looks like the guy has been slowly lowered in over the otherwise occupied women. My internal mental movie has them blissfully making out, entirely unaware of anything out of the ordinary, while the naked mummified man slowly drops into frame. He’s happily swinging back and forth, enjoying the scene, until one of the women catches a faint ‘Giggity, Giggity‘ floating down from above. Screaming and beatings ensue.

I always figured Seth MacFarlane must either be a little kinky or have hired some kinky writers. BDSM seems to crop up fairly often in his cartoons. There’s the sheep that likes shearing a little too much, the aurally masochistic dog and the cow that has its own ballgag. Not to mention the time Stewie decides he’s a masochist and wants to be tortured by Lois, or when Lois and Peter try a little roleplaying and BDSM (maybe a short ad before those last three clips).

The image is courtesy of Mistress T. You can find a lot more of her on her commercial site, and read her thoughts in her blog (also available from my blogroll).

A fun afternoon (for 66.6% of people surveyed)

This image appeals to me for its ordinariness. There’s no leather, or bondage or fetish gear. There’s just a fairly standard looking room, a bed, a couple of people in street clothes and a naked guy. Passionate sweaty sex appears to be on the agenda. At least for two of the people involved.

I realize as I type this that only in my world could a shot of a woman smothering a naked guy in chastity, whilst kissing her stud boyfriend, be described as ‘ordinary’. But compared to a lot of the material I feature, it is very light on fetish elements. I like to imagine this is an unplanned afternoon burst of passion, a spontaneous fuck the cuckold wasn’t even expecting.

I also like the two different dynamics in play. She has her head back, kissing upwards to the stud. It’s a classic pose, suggestive of a far more passive and receptive female role. And yet she’s clearing dominating the cuckold, pushing down with her hand and smothering his face. I think that makes it almost more humiliating.

I’m not sure who the people are. The woman looks a little like Mistress T, who I know does a lot of cuckold shoots. However, that’s very much a wild guess on my part. I found it on Erotic Haecceities.

The key ingredient for a perfect evening

Images of women teasing men in chastity are fairly common in femdom porn. There are a lot of keys twirled around and dangled in front of humiliated male faces. Suspending the key from a necklace is also a common theme. That not only turns the key of control into a decorative piece of jewelry, but also suspends it in a location that highlights the sexuality and beauty of the woman. So, apart from the attractive smile, this first image is nothing particularly exciting.

However, as the second image shows, Mistress Sophie Dee likes to do a little more than simply tease with a key. It seems our hero is perfectly placed (in an ingenious set of stocks) to watch her enjoy a particularly intimate encounter with another man. The rest of the evening then unfolds pretty much as you might expect.

I have to admit this is one of the occasional situations where I think “That’s really hot.” And then a few seconds later I think “How screwed up is it that I think this is really hot?”

Not, I hasten to add, that I have a problem with that kind of screwed up. I’m a kinky omnivore, and I’m happy to enjoy whatever seems interesting and exciting to my strange brain. But it does fascinate and puzzle me how my neural pathways ended up wired this particular way.

This sequence of images comes from the Divine Bitches site and features Mistress Sophie Dee. There’s a short free video clip from the session at this page, along with the opportunity to purchase the entire picture set and full length video.

New Story Chapter

I’ve added Chapter 4 to my tale of cuckolding and torture ‘The Loving Wife‘. Where the previous chapter was heavy on the pain and torture, this flips it around and explores the cuckold side of the coin. Feel fee to direct any feedback, compliments or insults in my direction. There’s probably one more chapter to come in the story.

Given the cuckold focus, I thought a suitably captioned image would be an appropriate illustration for this post. I considered several from Servitor’s excellent collection, but ended up with this one from LittlemanRayburn’s galleries.

Captioned Images

There’s a curious niche porn genre where people take existing images and re-purpose them by applying captions. Essentially they subvert and twist the original erotic intent into something more suited to their particular kink. Themes that repeatedly seem to crop up are cuckolding, chastity, forced homosexuality and incest. The popularity of these themes in this particular niche makes sense to me in two ways. Firstly, they’re infrequently represented in mainstream porn (although I have seen more cuckolding titles cropping up recently). And secondly, they require deeper context beyond what body parts are inserted where. An image of two men and a naked woman is a common and unexceptional threesome scene. To make it into a cuckolding scene means supplying additional non-visual information about the relationships between the participants.

A lot of the time that captions are so clumsy and badly written the whole thing fails horribly. But I am intrigued when somebody succeeds in drastically twisting the original image intent. Here’s a pretty good example, which takes a standard glamor pose and manages to imply chastity, cuckolding and forced homosexuality all in a single image. I found this in LittlemanRayburn’s galleries on imagefap.

One blog that has pushed this idea even further is the ‘suck it for her’ tumblr site. As the name suggests this is all about forced (or encouraged) homosexuality, with a side-order of cuckolding. But instead of using more neutral glamor style shots, the author there starts with very explicit images of women giving blowjobs. And then subverts what would normally be seen as a submissive female role into a dominant one. A couple of typical examples from there would be this post and this post.

The problem with browsing these kind of images is that after a while you start mentally captioning any suitable image you stumble across. I found the amazingly beautiful image below on the ‘purple’ bit tumblr site. And then had to mentally slap myself when I realized I’d spent 5 minutes staring at it trying to craft a good chastity/cuckold caption. Hopefully it will only be a temporary affliction.