Tag: F

Both hands on the keyboard

Mistress T has written a good guide on how to email a pro-domme. These kind of posts are depressingly common online. I say ‘depressingly’ not because they’re bad, but because of the need to write them at all. Over the years I’ve seen numerous similar posts from other pro-dommes, which suggests the level of bad communication remains constant and high. I therefore feel compelled to point people at these posts when they pop-up on my radar.

I think a key point to keep in mind when writing these emails is the professional part of the job description, rather than the dominant bit. Imagine emailing a lawyer or a doctor. The goal is to convey the pertinent information in a concise and readable form. If you can get the professional bit taken care of in a efficient but friendly fashion, it leads to the far more interesting and in person dominant bit.

The only part of Mistress T’s write-up I’d qualify or comment on further is around the idea of sending a tribute or gift as part of the initial discussion. I personally have two approaches on this. If the domme is the kind who does a lot of different things – clips, modelling, custom videos, sessions, etc. – then I think that makes sense. She has lot of possible ways to invest her time and effort that you need to compete with. A gift give you an advantage in that prioritization decision. I think Mistress T herself falls into that category of professionals. On the other hand, if the domme has a more traditional and singular focus on in person sessions, then I’m not sure that’s necessary. I prefer in that case to tip on top of the regular session fee after we’ve played. That is still a gift, but it feels more like a more natural thank you for the time and effort you just invested in our time together.

I’ll finish with a nice shot of Mistress T looking professional in a femme fatale kind of way. She must have had ‘big gun’ as an item on her wish list…

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Doing it right

Excuse me while I indulge in another celebrity post. This time it’s Kendall Jenner in an outfit that makes for a nice contrast to Megyn’s one in yesterday’s post.

The fashion pages horribly overuse the term dominatrix when it comes to outfits. If any female celebrity steps out in any random black dress or sightly racy boots they call it dominatrix inspired (for example). However, I have to give Kendall Jenner credit here, this is a pretty good domme get-up. She would not look out of place in a dungeon attaching nipple clamps to horny sweaty men.

Of course that’s not say that you need to dress in leather or latex to have kinky fun or top someone. But I do think if newspapers are going to push the cliche of the dominatrix and her outfits, they should at least reserve it for people who have made some effort in that direction.

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Image is from this Daily Mail article.

Megyn

I’m generally not a fan of Megyn Kelly. She has had some good moments in the current election – like this highly entertaining one with Newt Gingrich – but in general she seems to only adopt a progressive viewpoint when it’s something that directly affects her. If it’s some other targeted group, then she hews to a far more right wing viewpoint.

That said, I really do like this shot of her. She has a very forceful look. I’m sure I shouldn’t be sexually fantasizing about a Fox News anchor, but I can’t help thinking of some great kinky fiction I could write about it.

I picture a naive liberal intern coming to work at Fox. He’s from a small town, nervous in the big city and awed by the people he meets. He can’t find a place to stay and so Megan takes pity on him and lends him a room in her palatial home. He’s a farm lad, useful with his hands, and offers to do a few chores around the place in return. It all starts out well enough, but Megan is becoming increasingly frustrated with the sexist and patronizing attitudes of her Fox co-workers. She starts to take it out on him, and the more she’s annoyed by Sean Hannity, the more she enjoys taking it out on our hero. As her career blooms, the cruelty increases and his life disintegrates. Ultimately she celebrates landing a new multi million dollar contract by imprisoning him in the basement and teaching him what trickle down economics is really about.

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Craftwork

Some people, after almost 12 months away from kinky interaction, might have started with some light play. Maybe a little spanking or tease and denial. I am not those people. My first session in SF was with two dommes – Domina Yuki and Mistress Magnum – and focused heavily on suturing. I hadn’t suggested that particularly technique but, given the option, was very happy to roll with it. You can see some of the results in this twitter post. The nipple suturing was particularly effective, both from the level of pain and from the increased sensitivity after the fact. A lot of yelling, grunting and growling was generated in the process. It was both fun and intense, which is a recipe for happiness in my world.

Here’s a shot of Mistress Magnum from her web site. She was in SF for a few days, and travels a fair amount, but is typically based in Montreal.

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These shoes were (definitely not) made for walking

Here’s a final shoe themed post to finish the recent trio. We had inappropriate shoes, slightly silly shoes and now we have these completely ridiculous shoes. I’m calling them shoes, but if you can’t actually walk in them, are they still shoes? When is something no longer a shoe and simply a piece of art displayed on someone’s feet?

Obvious as an aid to bipedal motion, these are a failure. But I’m not sure they’re much better for the average fetishist. You couldn’t lick them without losing an eye. Clearly they wouldn’t work for trampling, unless you wanted a trip to the emergency room. Maybe you could do ballbusting, but only very carefully and the domme would have to remain seated. That’s not exactly conducive to a good kicking action. Any ideas on what you could do with them? Other than poke fun in a blog post obviously.

spikyshoesI’ve no idea where these are from. If anyone can point me at the cobbler who came up with these, I’d be happy to attribute appropriately.

The Fall

My latest binge watch series on Netflix is The Fall starring Gillian Anderson and Jamie Dornan. In many ways it’s a conventional modern police procedural – serial killer (Dornan) tortures and murders women while brilliant cop (Anderson) leads a team trying to stop him. It certainly doesn’t lack for the common tropes of the genre. However, as this Atlantic article explains, it has some interesting things to say about feminism, female power and sexuality.

In some ways it reminds me of Prime Suspect, starring Helen Mirren, which I’ve written about previously. The difference is that Prime Suspect (a 90’s show) focused on Mirren dealing with the sexism and macho culture of the police. A lot of the drama derived from her trying to both catch the culprit while simultaneously dealing with her neanderthal colleagues. In contrast Anderson’s character operates in a far more modern police culture, where women can do a job without having to constantly prove themselves or face down sexist remarks. That leaves room to address more nuanced issues like consent, female sexuality and the Madonna/whore complex. It feels like progress that this kind of show can tackle these more nuanced issues, and not have to make the fact that a women is in a position of power the main dramatic element.

I was never a fan of the X-Files, and so never really got the cult that built up around Mulder and Scully. However, after watching this series, I can understand the appeal of Gillian Anderson. She’s a very talented actress, and it’s fun to watch her play a powerful, intelligent and sexually forceful character.

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Hot for teacher

Teachers and classrooms are a staple of porn. That’s not really surprising given it offers a setting for a strong authority figure and a transgressive age difference. Also most people can remember a time when their hormones were gushing and there was a particularly attractive teacher that caught their eye. It represents a formative time for sexuality and fantasies.

Of course where you find classrooms, you also find blackboards and teaching notes. Spotting what porn creators choose to put on their blackboards can often be entertaining. Somebody even created a blog specifically for this topic, which features a quite ridiculous level of analysis. Typically the blackboards are full of random nonsense that looks somewhat academic. The example below is one of the few cases where the blackboard actually relates to the porn scene in question. There’s a scared looking semi-naked man with a collar and leash. I’m not exactly sure what the writing is, but I’d guess it relates to the best way to torture said man. That’s my kind of lesson.

Teacher and blackboardThis is from the Team Rinryu site.

Women’s Moto Exhibit

Anyone who enjoyed the story and imagery from the last post on Beryl Swain may want to check out The Women’s Moto Exhibit site. It’s a collection of photographs and a traveling show that aims to:

…document the new wave of modern female motorcyclists. The goal is to reveal the brave, courageous and beautiful women that live to ride.

The creator is Portland based Lanakila MacNaughton. It seems like a fine project with some great images.

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