Tag: F

Back in Tinseltown

I’m in LA for a few days, which has allowed me to sneak in some kinky fun. Unusually, I resisted the urge to book a ton of sessions, but I did renew my acquaintance with the immensely talented Mistress Damiana Chi. We did a lot of bondage with some electrics, needles and general sadism layer on top. I also got to enjoy her fancy Fetters bondage chair in the Chi Temple, which worked really well for tease & denial play.

One interesting but surprising thing was the measurements my Oura ring took during the session. If you’ve not seen one of these wearables, it’s basically an unobtrusive way to measure heart rate, blood oxygen levels, sleep patterns, steps, etc. I assumed it’d show a pretty elevated heart rate throughout. Instead, after starting off at around my usual level, it dropped significantly for the first hour or so of the session! It then gradually climbed after than and peaked pretty high in the last 30 minutes or so when Mistress Damiana really upped the intensity.

That initial drop-off was very counter-intuitive, as I generally feel in a heightened and excited state throughout a session. In fact, it thought I was so relaxed, it asked if it should add a 45 minute nap to my activity log! I’m guessing this was linked to when we were setting the initial bondage up. Mistress Damiana had me on a suspended padded board, held in place with plastic wrap and then several layers of rope on top. That pushed me into subspace pretty quickly which presumably dropped my heart rate. That, combined with me being horizontal and immobile, must have made it think I was napping. There’s little danger of that happening when attractive ladies are attaching nipple clamps!

This image of Mistress Damiana Chiwas sourced via her twitter feed. You can find links to all her primary sites here.

Tease and Denial (Headlines)

If there’s one thing guaranteed to make me insta-click on a link it’s the name Aubrey Plaza next to the word Dominatrix. Unfortunately, the headline from Variety on Coppola’s new movie in which they feature is all tease and no delivery. According to the article she ‘dominates her way through a slew of men’, but that’s all you get. Guess I’ll just have to go see the movie.

Until then we will have to content ourselves with this shot from L’Officiel magazine from 2022. And maybe watching re-runs of the excellent Legion.

Mommy Issues

It’s Mother’s Day in the US. That can mean only one thing: My social media feeds full of people leaning heavily into the mommy domme kink. While everyone else is figuring out where to get flowers and what spots are still open for brunch, kinksters are figuring out how to make it freaky.

I’m certainly not opposed to this. It can be a hot dynamic. I just find it odd how quickly this particularly one has moved from very niche to kinky mainstream. A decade or so ago, it was something I rarely saw outside of the handful of dommes who specialized in it. Now it seems to have become just another kink that people will casually lean into. Was there always pent up interest that wasn’t being addressed? Or has the internet’s tendency to normalize things created interest that wasn’t there before?

Whatever the answer to that, it does give me an excuse to feature someone who always maximizes mommy, whatever day it is. That’s NYC pro-domme Mistress Blunt. This year she’s even given a class on it (available online).

You can find more from Mistress Blunt via her Twitter feed and links page.

Subby School

I’m a bit late with a link to this article on a School for Submissives in Atlanta. It was first published just over a year ago. However, I thought it was interesting and still worth sharing. While the naming suggests classes and lessons, it sounds more like a support and experience sharing group.

It’s not something I’d find myself drawn to – I prefer to research and analyze alone – but I can see the value of the idea. Particularly if you’re mostly playing with lifestyle folk rather than professionals. There’s no link to the group in the article, but if you’re in Atlanta and interested, it sounds like they have a fetlife presence.

Of course I couldn’t mention a school without shamelessly using the opportunity to feature an attractive school mistress. Not sure what subject she teaches, but I’m willing to get a failing grade in whatever it is.

I think the originally site this is from has sadly ceased to be.

Happy Birthday Mistress T

My social media feeds tell me it’s Mistress T’s birthday, so here’s wishing a happy day to one of the most significant and productive independent creators of femdom media.

If you’ve not read her autobiography – ‘There is more to the story‘ – then I’d recommend it. I reviewed it and posted about it a few years back. Her blog is sadly dormant these days, but it has a lot of good posts still archived there.

Here’s a lovely image of Mistress T. Looking through my archives, I seem to have featured her image a fair number of times in the past. For example, this, this, this and this. She’s created a lot of really great content.

Summoning the Maid

I spotted a tweet the other day that said chastity keys were unsightly when worn around the neck of a domme. Ideally they should be tossed into the back of an old kitchen drawer with all the other old keys and knick knacks you never use.

This lady doesn’t subscribe to that philosophy, given the obvious key she’s sporting here. Between that and her summoning bell, she’s clearly the household stuff under control.

I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for this. If you help out with who this is or where it’s from, please let me know via a comment.

Thanks to Michael I believe I can attribute this to Deni_C from the Power of Leather site. Worth checking out if – like me – it’s a new one to you.

Sociopaths

Interesting article here from the Guardian on Patric Gagne, a sociopath who has written a book on her condition and her life.

I think if you asked the general public what professions lend themselves to sociopaths then, alongside the obvious things like CEO and politician, there’d be a good chance of pro-domme coming up. After all, tying people up and hurting them does align with the cliched media portrayal of sociopaths as sadistic serial killers. Both tend to have secret dungeons and cages to lock people in.

However, if you read the article, I think it’s pretty clear a sociopath would be a terrible fit for a pro-domme. They’re typically impulsive, risk taking, lie easily and have very low empathy. Where a successful pro-domme needs to plan ahead, be risk aware and have a very high degree of empathy. A lot of what makes a great session with a domme goes on inside the submissive’s head. If the domme doesn’t understand that inner life then they’ll have great difficulty creating the desired experience. It’s easy to hurt someone, but hard to do it exactly the right way, both physically and mentally.

Of course, while you might not what to find yourself in a dungeon with a sociopath, the fictional versions can still be fun. This is Jodie Comer, who plays Villanelle in Killing Eve.

Anne Hathaway

Ms. Hathaway was the cover story for a recent edition of Vanity Fair. There was even a kinky slant, with some very fetishistic outfits. While I’m a fan of her work and have featured her in past posts, but I’m not entirely sure about this photoshoot. I know I risk Servitor never speaking to me again,  but it does seem to waste her talents with odd shots like this one. How do you combine someone as iconic as Anne Hathaway with latex fashion and not produce an amazing photoshoot?

In better news, she’s also the face of new Versace Icons campaign. I think this shot and the other’s from that campaign are a lot more complementary and capture the fashion fetish aesthetic better.

Potent Female

One final post on the theme of British museums and collections. This time it’s from the Tate Modern that’s running an exhibition entitled Women in Revolt! It covers Art and Activism from 1970 to 1990 and based on the reviews, seems well worth a visit.

Unfortunately, the part most relevant for this blog has already been and gone. Earlier this month they ran a panel titled ‘Let’s talk about the Erotic Self‘, covering topics like ‘power dynamics, authorship, and the commodification of pleasure.’

The image was the cover image for the panel. It’s by Jill Westwood and titled ‘Potent Female.’ According to this Guardian article it was based on the famous painting by Whistler of his mother.

Westwood had first started making wearable latex sculptures as an art student and later explored the transgressive power of “dom” personas and London’s rubber fetish scene. This photo mimics the pose of James McNeill Whistler’s painting Whistler’s Mother, and was staged at home, which was “a shared short-life housing co-op with other artists”, she explains.

Epididymal Hypertension

You might not recognize the post title but, if you’re a male sub, you’ve probably suffered from it at some time. The colloquial name for the condition is ‘blue balls‘. I’d always assumed it was more of a mental state than a physical one, but amazingly there are actual medical articles on it. For example, here and here. Intriguingly the latter of those references an equivalent ‘blue vulva’  or ‘blue bean’ condition for women.

Happily it’s a condition that can’t cause you any harm. No matter how frustrated you might be. The recommended treatment is masturbation or, if circumstances preclude that, then cold showers and good clean thoughts. How very Victorian. If all that fails and you’re still feeling a little tense, then maybe a stern mature lady to beat the impure thoughts out of you?

I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for this image. If you can help with that, then please leave a comment.

Updated: Thanks to the ever resourceful Bacchus over at Eros Blog I can now attribute this to the Perfect Villainess site and their model Marlene.