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It’s a cliche and I don’t care

Regular readers will know that I try and avoid images that hew to closely to the traditional femdom cliches. There’s no shortage of other blogs or tumblr sites out there with more traditional shots of attractive women in tight latex staring down the camera lens. But in this case I really have to make an exception. My God, I could stare at this image for hours.

In my twisted imagination I can picture her conducting a vicious, sadistic and incredibly hot medical scene. There would be needles and tubes and knives. And she’d be ever so calm, cool and caring. She just needs to tighten the straps before this next procedure….

I found this on the Balls Crushing tumblr site. Despite the name it actually carries a whole mix of BDSM and related porn, not just femdom material.

GGG

Dan Savage writes a sex-advice column in the Seattle paper The Stranger. If you’ve never read it, I’d recommend browsing the archives. You might not agree with everything he says, but I find it a fascinating insight into the variety of human sexuality. My “favorite” sequence of letters and responses can be seen in the last section of this column and then, a week later, this column. The first letter is about forced cum eating, a not unusual femdom theme, and isn’t too strange by the standards of the column. However, the solution proposed in the second letter is, let’s say, a little more exceptional. Never get ice in your drink at their house is all I can suggest.

Dan has coined a number of well known expressions over the years, including Pegging and Santorum. However, it was his acronym GGG, (“Good, giving and game”) that came to my mind when reading this amusing article entitled “How I Learned To Get Screwed And Like It“.

So I found myself proposing to my (amazing) girlfriend of two (amazing) years that we try a little butt sex. The way I explained it, it was just another way to appreciate her and build trust. (Which is true, it just looks really creepy on paper.) She was hesitant, so I doubled down and put my own ass on the line. If she could take it, so could I.

After a romantic evening of Futurama, Wine, and a True Grit bootleg, she deflowered me. And I’ll never be the same again. I’m not going to get into any gory details, that’s what Twitter is for.

I think his attitude is pretty much the definition of GGG. And I can only hope the girlfriend in question had a smile as wide as the one below as she popped his cherry.

I found this on the Bend Over Boyfriend tumblr site, although it’s originally from Strap-on Dreamer. I came across the Pluck Magazine article thanks to this post by Mistress Crimson.

Deadly Little Miho

In my last post I mentioned I wasn’t a big comic book fan. As far as the traditional superhero comics go, this is a true statement. I was never a fan of their infinite episodic nature, the endlessly complicated back stories and their clunky expository dialogue style. However, in recent years I have started purchasing the hardback collected editions of some of the more interesting and self-contained comics (or graphic novels). Titles such as Sandman, Hellboy, The Last Man and Fables manage to combine striking artwork with interesting and complex storytelling.

By far my favorite purchase to date has been the Frank Miller library edition of Sin City. The story is ridiculous, the violence excessive and the morality dubious. But I love it. The artwork is both distinctive and beautiful, and the dialog has the staccato brutality of James Ellroy crossed with the romance of Raymond Chandler.

There’s certainly no shortage of characters with a fetish or BDSM slant. But my personal pick would have to be Miho, the sadistic Japanese assassin. Silent, lethal and unstoppable, she toys with each man she fights, before finishing him off in spectacularly violent fashion. She may not be a domme in the commercial sense, but she’s undoubtedly a beautiful dominant woman.

The first image below is taken from the film version, starring Devon Aoki as Miho. The second image is Frank Miller’s drawing of her from the cover of the Family Values story.

Please stand by…we’re experiencing technical difficulties…

The more eagle eyed of my regular readers may have spotted a lack of blogroll to the right. Unfortunately, after many months of successful and trouble free web serving, my hosting company appears to have encountered some gremlins. And then fed them after dark. And got them wet. I can only hope their data center isn’t currently hosting an extravagant musical number as I type.

To populate the blogroll I need to be able to pull in RSS feeds to read their latest posts. And right now the hosting service won’t let me make any outgoing connections. Hence, no blogroll. It’ll return just as soon as we figure out what’s going on.

In the meantime here’s a little glimpse of heaven by way of apology. It’s the very beautiful Justine Joli, photographed by Steve Diet Goedde.

Updated : Looks like the gremlins have been zapped and the service has returned to life. Normal blogroll service has been resumed and we apologize for the interruption.

Old School

This is a pretty traditional piece of dominatrix artwork. Tight leather, bulging breasts, a piercing stare and a riding crop. Normally I try and avoid the femdom cliches, but something about this image appealed to me. Maybe it’s her calm and very matter of fact expression. The composition is clever as well. It’s incredibly simple, but the black and white background gives the impression of a doorway or opening, which adds a nice sense of depth to the figure.

The artist is Michael Bair. I came across this on the femdom artist site.

New blogs

I’ve added four new blogs to my blogroll over on the right.

Mrs Kelly’s Playhouse is written by Scott and Emma, and describes their female led marriage. It covers a wide variety of kinky topics, including BDSM, cuckolding, chastity and the all issues that come with integrating them into a full time lifestyle relationship.

The Glow Inside has been created by Steve Mayhew and contains an eclectic mix of artwork, fiction, links and his musings on kinky activities and relationship issues. He also described this blog as ‘looks the goods’, which I’m not completely clear on, but I’m going to take as complimentary.

From Mundane to Mistress is written from the perspective of Mistress L, who has transitioned from being a BDSM photographer to an active participant in the kink scene. I found her posts on her hunt for a new submissive to be particularly interesting. From my perspective as a submissive/masochistic single male it often feels like there are a hundred submissive men for every dominant woman, and that a mistress shouldn’t be able to swing a whip without hitting a dozen eligible slaves. It’s therefore illuminating to see some of the issues from the other end of the leash (so to speak).

Finally, last but definitely not least is A Life as Her ‘Wife’. This is a relatively new blog describing the lifestyle relationship of Paul and Carol, and is heavy on themes of cuckolding, cross-dressing, chastity and service submission.

This funky piece of pop art comes from Niagra Detroit. I discovered it via The Glow Inside blog.

Site Updates

I’ve made a number of updates to the site.

Over on the Femdom Image page I’ve added five new links: dommepics, Awesome Femdom, Erotic Haecceities, Her Dominion and Chastity Tigger. I also deleted a couple of sites that appeared to be dead.

On the Femdom Fiction page I added two new links. One to to Understories, a collection of BDSM themed stories, and one to the descriptively named Erotic Mind-Control Story Archive.

Finally, I’ve added a link to Mistress Milliscent’s blog over to the right on my pro-domme blogroll. She’s from the same part of the world I’m in (Seattle area), and writes on a wide variety of topics, not just the standard kink themes common on other pro-domme blogs.

Image is originally from Noemis World, but found on the humbly titled Awesome Femdom tumblr site. If you’re into feet or foot worship then you might like this particular tumblr, as its femdom material is heavily skewed in that direction.

Updated Femdom Image Page

I’ve added four new entries to the femdom image page, as well as doing a little bit of shuffling of entry order. Two of the new entries are blogs: Femdom Empire and Yes Mistress! The other two are tumblr sites that I’ve been browsing recently: Celibate Husband and Onania Org/asm.

Image is from the Yes Mistress! site and from its watermark was created by the Revanche de la femme corset company.

Kiss Kiss Slap Whap

While I’d describe myself as both a submissive and a masochist, I’d always put my masochism before my submission. The D/s and power exchange components are a critical part of a scene for me, but it’s the pain that brings those elements into focus. I’m certainly not a service submissive. If you want something cleaned or tidied then I’ll be happy to hire you a housekeeper. I have better (for me) things to do.

As such, I’ve never made body worship a critical part of scenes I’ve done. This isn’t to say I don’t enjoy kissing a dominant woman’s feet, or ass, or indeed any part of her body that I’m allowed to touch. It can be a very pleasant experience, and one that helps achieve a certain initial head space. But it always struck me as a kind of BDSM foreplay. Nice to do if the domme wants to take the scene in that direction, but really just a happy bonus to the main event.

However, when playing with Domina Yuki last week, I discovered a quite new aspect of worship that made me view it in a very different light. We’d been doing some fairly intense pain play, whipping my back and then heavily torturing my nipples. As a result of this I was fairly deep in subspace, and feeling that wash of positive emotions I often get towards a dominant in that situation – gratitude, affection, caring, closeness, protection, etc. In the past this has often led me to thank the dominant, typically immediately after she’s done something particularly vicious to me. This has not been a rote thank-you, demanded as part of the scene, but an instinctive one, originating from my desire to acknowledge the emotions I’m feeling.

In this particular scenario, while experiencing these similar emotions, Mistress Yuki demanded that I kiss her ass. Suddenly, an act that was previously playful and erotic, had been transformed into something that was far more powerful. It created a physical manifestation of what I was feeling, and gave me an outlet for my emotions. Nothing at that moment was more important than those kisses and what they represented. She managed to create a perfect moment, intimacy mixed with submission, eroticism mixed with catharsis. I kissed and was profoundly grateful to do so.

Too Fabulous?

Mistress Servalan recently posed a question I never expected to see from a pro-domme: Do I look too good in this shot?

The crux of the issue was truth in advertising. Should she pick the absolutely best shot of herself in the expectation it’ll attract more clients? Or should she pick more average shots in order to set realistic expectations for when people meet her in the less than perfect reality that exists outside the photographers studio?

The question itself struck me as a mildly interesting one. But I was even more interested it what it said about the person asking it. In a marketplace where stolen photographs and heavy photoshopping is common, here’s someone who is concerned she might appear dishonest by posting a genuine unedited photograph. That’s the kind of person I’d feel safe in entrusting with my physical welfare in intense situations (if only I lived somewhere vaguely close to Sidney, Australia).

Of course, after all this build up, I feel posting the image in question is only fair. My personal opinion is that yes, she does look absolutely fabulous, but it’s perfectly fair to post it on her site. Any idiot who’d walk away from a session with her is probably someone she can do without.