The beauty of dominant women
Here’s my final foot themed image in this particular sequence of posts. I think I’m running out of kinky variations for people and feet. Fortunately, we’re ending on a twofer. This has trampling combined with foot worship. We’ve got a toe sucker and a human pedestal, not to mention the charming lady with the lovely smile. Hopefully there’s a little something for everyone in that.
This is from the Young Goddess site which is sadly no more.
I’ve an open question to any dommes out there reading this: Do you enjoy having your feet licked, sucked and kissed? It’s pretty clear a lot of foot fetish guys enjoy doing this, but I’m never sure about it from the women’s perspective. I get foot massage as pleasant thing to receive (provided it’s done properly), but how about the traditional ‘worship’ that pops up in so much femdom porn? It doesn’t do much for me personally, but I’m curious how other people, particularly dommes see it.
From a purely submissive perspective it seems to be very much a male thing. Foot/shoe kissing as a sign of subservience and humility pops up in other varieties of kinky porn, as does things like boot blacking, but I can’t ever remember seeing shots of male or female doms having foot worship sessions with female subs.
I’m not sure exactly what the gentleman here is doing with his mouth, but he at least seems to be raising a smile. Tongue tickling her toes perhaps?
Sorry about the lack of posts over the last few days. Inevitably I got sick after coming back from a trip. Flu season is bad enough, but flying in flu season is the kiss of death. Or at least the kiss of snuffly noses and annoying coughs.
I’m still in recovery mode, so while I go off to curl up under a blanket, let me leave you with some nice artwork. I’m not particularly a foot fetishist but I still thought this was kind of cute drawing. I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for it, so if you do then please let me know via a comment. I found it via the Elegant Femdom Art tumblr.
I don’t feature a lot of foot worship shots. It’s not a fetish of mine so it tends to get neglected. I also try and aim for stuff that appeals to both sides of the D/s coin, and most femdom foot worship shots seem very male biased.
I like this one however. Firstly, she has a cool outfit. Secondly, she has a nice smile and seems to be having fun with it. Third and finally, she has a pretty good grip on his ear. The instant she gets bored with the situation, I think he’ll be moving upwards pretty quickly. That is if he wants to remain attached to that ear lobe.
This image is from the Women Worship site.
Fetishists don’t get a lot of love. That seems an odd thing to say when the internet is awash in fetish imagery, but I think it’s true. When it comes to kinksters rather than pornographers, it’s a lot more about interpersonal dynamics, shared activities and top/bottom space. That’s true for most kinky blogs, including this one. Sadomasochism and D/s almost always require a complex and negotiated relationship with another person. In contrast fetishism can often come across as selfish, a focus on a thing rather than a person. That objectifying focus is, after all, the definition of fetishism.
I was therefore happy to read Liliane Hunt’s recent post in praise of foot fetishism. I can’t say feet do much for me, but I appreciate her pleasure in it, and her perspective as the fetishistic target. A pleasure shared is a pleasure more than doubled in my experience.
This image originally caught my eye for its composition and symmetry, but what I really like is his cheeky outstretched tongue. There’s a nice interplay between her haughty pose and his playful attitude.
The image is entitled ‘On Top‘ and is by the photographer Anastasiy Mikhaylov.
Women shopping for shoes in Walmart should watch out. If a gentleman claims to be a podiatry student or a producer of America’s funniest home videos then it’s possible he’s not being entirely truthful. If he starts sucking your toes, he’s almost certainly not who he claims to be.
Scott Adams once wrote that he assumed all shoe salesmen are secret foot fetishists, because they’d obviously agree to do the job for less money than a non-fetishist. Presumably the two geniuses in the above articles couldn’t pass the interview for that job, and had to resort to more underhand methods.
I’m afraid I don’t know who photographed this happy lady and her foot admirer. I’m personally not particularly into feet, but I do like her smile. I found it on the Alternative Femdom tumblr.
My post ‘Worthless worms : Hot or not?‘ attracted a lot of thoughtful commentary. It’s clearly a topic that provokes strong opinions from both sides of D/s slash. This post is intended to address a few follow-up points that struck me after writing it and reading the responses.
In the original post I used degradation, humiliation and objectification interchangeably. That was careless as they’re related but different concepts. If I had a virtual whiteboard I’d be standing at it now drawing partially overlapping circles. The worthless worm trope is primarily about the sense of self and personal identity. It’s very directed degradation (you pathetic sniveling coward, you’re not fit to lick my boots, etc.). Humiliation is more situational. Anyone can be humiliated in the right circumstances, no matter how self-assured and confident they might generally be. Objectification is about removing humanity and personality. It’s not about being worthless, but identifying worth through function and utility. A lot of people get off on a mixture of these kinks, but when writing about a possible F/m mismatch, I was primarily thinking of the first. I rarely observe female dominants write or blog about degradation, but objectification and, to a lesser extent, humiliation, does crop up in positive contexts.
Ferns astutely observed that this is a style of play that often conflates the person with the kink. Presenting themselves primarily through their fetish is a common problem for guys who’ve spent too long surfing femdom porn. I think it’s particularly likely to happen with this kink, because it’s primarily about the perception of the person and their value. i.e. Exactly the things that are emphasized, normally in a positive fashion, when building a new relationship. I guess the (badly broken) thought process is ‘Why bother to put myself forward as a valuable person to know, when I ultimately want to be treated as if I’m not?’
It’s also true that cliches of commercial femdom don’t help anyone into this style of play. For men it gets them lumped into the same bucket as the jerk offs writing emails about how they’re not fit to lick the dirt from the boots of any female dominant blogger they encounter. For many dominant women it’s a stereotype they’re trying to push against, and writing about it is only likely to lead to more emails from the aforementioned jerks offs.
All that said, I do standby my entirely anecdotal observation that there’s a mismatch here in F/m that doesn’t exist in M/f. As someone who doesn’t have this kink, I’m selfishly kind of glad about that. Many of the F/m tumblrs that focus on degradation and humiliation tend to veer all to easily into misogyny. I’m happy that it’s incredibly rare to encounter misandry in femdom blogs or forums. If you are a submissive guy who occasionally enjoys a bit of pathetic sniveling, then the best advice would be to make sure you compartmentalize it and treat it strictly as a kink like any other. While there might be male dominants who’ll respond to a new submissive describing themselves as a worthless slut in need of training, your odds of success with that opening line and a female dominant will be very close to zero.
Trampling beneath a dominant woman’s feet often seems to be a theme of the ‘worthless submissive’ style of play. This is from the appropriately named Woman Worship site. I particularly liked her choice of reading matter.
Danielle Lindemann’s book Dominatrix contains an amusing description of a guy with a fetish for bondage in carpets…
I approach the bar and put my foot on what I assume is a step, when I hear a faint “Oof!” The man is laid out in front of the bar, fully submerged in the rug, his face peering out of a roughly cut hole. I step off and apologize, but I am immediately “corrected” by a nearby domme.
“That’s okay, sweetie—he likes it!” She proceeds to kick the carpet repeatedly and with great force in her platform boots, while the other people at the bar look on with a mixture of nonchalance and delight. The man in the rug beams the whole time. I return to the table where I’ve been sitting.
“I just accidentally stepped on a guy rolled in a rug,” I tell the group of people who’ve brought me to the party.
“Carpet Guy’s here?” one responds.
I was entertained by this scene when I first read it, but never thought I’d have chance to quote it. As fetishes go it sounded like a fairy unusual one. Then I ran across the image below. I think it’s targeted more to foot fetishists, but there’s clearly a rolled up carpet being used as a method of restraint. Either carpet guy is now doing fetish modelling or it’s not as unique an interest as I first thought.
The image is originally from the Foot on Face site. I found it via the Femdom Chronicles tumblr.
After my posts earlier this week (here and here) on PDS (Public Display of D/S) I thought I was done with the topic. Then I stumbled on the image below and felt like riffing on it a little more.
Personally I don’t kink on humiliation and I have a very low embarrassment threshold. I can get embarrassed just watching television on my own. Some people hide behind the couch when watching horror movies. I do it when watching comedies like Fraiser or Seinfeld. All this means that I’m not big on being leashed and led through the local shopping mall in a pink tutu.
On a more general philosophical note, I’m also not a fan of dragging innocent bystanders into a scene they’ve not consented to. However, when it comes to public spaces a little bit of my libertarian side does tend to leak out. A shared space means it should be for everyone. The fact I may not appreciate a couple making out, or practicing their fetch/sit/stay commands, doesn’t mean they should automatically be prevented from doing so. It’s their space as much as it is mine. After all, if it was left to me, I’d ban Ugg boots and Cargo pants from public display. Aesthetically I think I’d be right, but it’s hard to argue from a provable harm point of view.
For me the deciding factor for a lot of these ambiguous situation lies in intent. If you’re trying to piss people off and get off on their shock factor, then that’s obnoxious and out of line. But if you’re genuinely immersed in your thing, and trying to do it in the least confrontational way, then you should get a lot of leeway.
All of which brings me to the picture below, which I thought was very sweet. It made me smile. For all my fear of embarrassment, I’d be very happy to be this gentleman. And anybody complaining about it could go and kiss some other part of my anatomy.
I found this on the appropriately named Kiss the Feet tumblr.
The sole of the foot is a wonderful body part to torture. It’s very sensitive, which is surprising given how much daily wear and tear it undergoes. Everything from tickling through to caning works well. Even the threat of punishment to it can be a powerful head-trip. I remember a scene where Lydia was scrubbing parts of my body down with antiseptic prior to doing some piercing. I was relaxing in the bondage she’d already put in place, thinking as she cleaned each spot – “Nipples, kind of expected that. Cock, OK. Upper leg, that’s unusual. Bottom of my feet! Oh shit….” Fortunately she never did get around to sticking needles into the soles, and she later confessed she was just doing it to scare me a little!
This photograph strikes me a quite a clever one. It works both from the fetishistic point of view and from the masochistic one. It also creates a nice contrast between the vulnerability of their respective feet. His are upturned, naked, defenseless. Hers are spiky, hard, wrapped in leather, forcing down. The more normally she stands the more it hurts him.
I found in on the 24-7-Sub tumblr. I believe it’s originally by the French photographer Jean Fabien. You can see it in this gallery on his site.