Spanking confessions

There’s a recently published article on Salon about a spanking aficionado coming to terms with and confessing his kink. It’s written from the point of view of a male top and, apart from the inappropriate stock photograph at the top, it’s a good insight into the kind of self-analysis and relationship risks a lot of kinky people have to enter into.

Male submissives often complain, with some justification, about the cultural unacceptability of their kinks. This article is a good reminder that dominants of both genders have their own set of problems to face. Particularly those that enjoy potentially painful activities. Telling someone you like to be hurt in certain specific ways risks them thinking you’re weird. Telling someone you like to hurt people risks them thinking you’re both weird and dangerous, no matter how much you emphasize the consensual nature of the act. Just a quick glance at the article comments will confirm the reactions that this confession can provoke from non-kinky people.

Spanked with a hairbrush

This image is taken from the Endart site, which is no longer maintained. I found it on the Who’s Sorry Now (aka spanked 2 tears) tumblr.

Beach beating

This is, I absolutely swear, my last beach based post for a while. Normally service will be resumed in the next day or so, and I’m sure everyone is breathing a big sigh of relief over that.

I’m finishing the sequence with one of the better femdom beach images I’ve seen. Both ladies in question are dressed appropriately and appear to be enjoying themselves. As for the male – hot sun, sharp sand and rapidly swung switches must make for a particularly painful experience.

Beach Domination

I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for this image.

Pool furniture

Apologies for the slightly repetitive summer vacation theme here. I’m sharing a house with vanilla friends and don’t get a lot of private time to browse, write and post. It’s therefore much easier to keep riffing on a single theme.

The first image below looks fairly innocuous until you examine it closely. The second image makes it a lot clearer what’s going on. Personally I love face sitting, smothering and breathplay, but combining them with a swimming pool certainly ups the ante. Often it’s possible to sneak a little air in smothering scenes. There’s no danger of that happening here, unless your submissive happens to be packing a set of gills.

Pool breathplay scene
Pool breathplay scene
These are originally from the Men are Slaves site. I found them on the Femdom Times site.

Appropriate beach fashion

The problem of sand getting into inappropriate crevices is a well known issue with beaches. No matter how appropriately you dress, irritating gritty feelings in awkward spots are almost unavoidable. I therefore dread to think how this gentlemen must have felt at the end of the day. Tightly wrapped plastic tape and a gas mask are about as far from ideal beachwear as you can get. The ladies choices are not a lot better. In fact, if you had to come up with the worst possible things to wear on a hot sandy beach, it would probably look something like this. I guess for him at least, that might have been the idea.

Fetish beach fashion
Fetish beach fashion
The image sequence is from the Kinky Mistresses site. You can see another shot of the session in question here.

A new experience

In my recent trip to San Francisco I enjoyed an entirely new experience – attending a BDSM workshop. I was there courtesy of Domina Yuki and Domina Ai-Li. Having sessioned with them both on prior days, they invited me along to a piercing workshop as their demo bottom. I’d never done any kind of play at parties or open events so, always curious to try new things, I jumped at this opportunity.

It was held at a large modern dungeon with plenty of space for people to setup their individual scenes. While I was there I spotted 6 or 7 groups doing scenes, with maybe 15 to 20 people in attendance. The three of us grabbed a spot in a corner and I got naked while Yuki and Ai-Li plotted their plan of action.

The first they wanted to try was a needle zipper. They’d seen one done before by the person running the workshop and wanted to pick his brains on the right way to do it. All three of us were experienced in both piercing and zippers but none of us had tried them in combination before. So, after a few pointers from the workshop coordinator, they broke the needles out and starting threading them into place on my torso.

It was an interesting experience doing a scene as part of a workshop rather than a dedicated session. It felt a little like a craft project. There was a lot of discussion along the lines of “Hmm, that doesn’t look right. I’m going to redo that bit” and “How are you doing the knots?” and “Shall we pull it this way or more over here?” I simultaneously felt like part of the project team and also the object of the project. Which was a good feeling for me. Collaborative yet objectifying. You can see the results of their work on my torso in the following images: Top View, Side View and Up View.

When it came time to pull the zipper I heard the workshop coordinator advertising the fact and a small crowd gathered where we were. This upped the strangeness factor significantly. I was naked in front of a bunch of strangers. I’d never been on the end of a needle zipper before. And the two tops involved had never done one before. I wasn’t particularly stressed or worried, but it was kind of weird. My main concern was that I might scream like a baby when they pulled the cords.

Luckily everything went smoothly. We even captured a video of it, which can be seen here. At the start you can hear Yuki and Ai-Li debating exactly how to pull the cords. Then there’s some ooh’s and ahh’s from both me and the crowd, following by applause from the crowd and laughter from me right at the end. It wasn’t particularly painful (compared to say staple zippering), but it is quite an intense sensation as the skin is pulled and twisted by the needles. You can see the end result post pull in this image (warning – some small blood trickles).

After the zipper we moved onto a slightly more playful idea – a butt corset. The idea here to pull my two butt cheeks together with needles and elastic cord in the style of a corset. I’ve had a corset done to my back before, but never anything quite this far down. I think the end result worked out pretty well, as shown in the images here, here and here.

Overall it was a great experience and one I’d be happy to repeat. Despite the available evidence to the contrary I’m not an exhibitionist, and don’t particularly get anything from the idea of semi-public scenes. However, the scientist in me loves the idea of experimenting, trying new things out and sharing ideas. I’m also strongly attracted to the idea of being useful and contributing something. A workshop like this pushes both my masochistic and service buttons. Not to mention the fact that it’s a lot of fun to hang out with two such talented and friendly dommes as Mistress Yuki and Mistress Ai-Li.

Domina Yuki and Domina Ai-Li

After a post featuring lots of links to images of a naked me, I feel I should finish with something a little more visually appealing. This is Mistress Yuki and Mistress Ai-Li taken with an unidentified slave.

Sad and bemused

What made me sad was coming back from vacation, turning on my home computer, and discovering all the browser tabs left open from my vacation planning process. All the flight tracking pages, the restaurant reviews, the hotel booking information and the maps to dungeon locations. That last one is probably pretty specific to my vacation planning, but you get the general idea. It’s like a little window in time back to the day before I traveled, when everything was exciting and waiting to unfold. Now there’s just a pile of dirty laundry and a groove worn in my credit card’s magnetic strip.

As you can probably guess from that introduction, I’m back in Seattle. The vacation was great but work now awaits. I’ve got some interesting photographs to share, as well as a couple of short videos. They’ll appear in posts later this week, when I’ve had chance to sort through them.

In the meantime, I’ll temporarily change direction, and point to a short news story that bemused me on the plane on the way home. US public officials often get criticized (quite rightly) for saying stupid things. The British are apparently seeing this as a competition and appear determined to out-stupid them. In this case by suggesting that conventional internet pornography sites are a key routes to child abuse images. And that the solution for this is for search engines to force users to register as 18 before allowing them to adjust their search settings from ‘disney’ mode to ‘normal internet’. It’s quite hard to sum up just how much stupidity gets crammed into this single article. The British official manages to get the problem wrong, the solution wrong and screw over normal internet users all at the same time.

What blows my mind is that the moron in question – John Carr – is a government adviser. He’s not some idiot politician elected to a safe seat. This is someone paid by the quality of their advice. It’s how he earns his living. Truly amazing.

No doubt Divine Bitches would be a site high on his list of ‘gateway’ sites. However, I’m not lose to much sleep over linking to both it and excellent images like this one.

Two laughing dommes

I found this image via the Felm Cyber tumblr.

Incoming!

A humbler is a pretty evil device in its own right. Getting kicked in the balls while wearing one adds a whole new level of devilishness. Although it looks like at least one person there is really enjoying the set-up.

Kicked in the humbler

I found this on the Femdom Archive tumblr. Annoyingly I can’t locate an original source. The smiling blonde does look familiar, but I just can’t place her face.

Updated: Lady Annisa left a comment suggesting this is Mistress Alexandra of London. I can’t find the image on her site, but I believe that’s the correct attribution. She certainly has a number of CBT films featuring a humbler in her clips store.

At least she has a smile on her face

It’s not completely clear what’s happening in this shot, but an educated guess would say it involves the gentleman’s ass. Presumably either something going in to it or something hitting it. Whatever the scenario, I do enjoy the contrasting expressions. There are a couple of very good grins to go along with his expressive grimace.

Smiling mistress

I found this on the Lash Kisser tumblr. I think it’s originally from the CFNM site.

Leaving their mark

Moving on from yesterday’s action shot, here’s one showing the after effects of some corporal punishment. At least I hope for his sake it’s the after effects. Stopping to pose for a photograph and then starting all over again would just be cruel.

That’s Cybill Troy and Mina Meow (aka Thorne) showing off their skill with what I assume is a single tail.

Cybill Troy and Mina Thorne with marked slave

I originally found this on Mina Thorne’s tumblr, although it started as a post on Cybill Troy’s. I think it’s originally from a scene shot for Femdom Empire.

The good old days

After mentioning the bad femdom porn of yesteryear in my previous post, it seemed a shame not to share some. This struck me as a particularly brilliant example. It’s so bad I think it actually becomes good again, by virtue of making me laugh.

The lady on the left is brandishing her flogger like it’s a long dead skunk that she wants to keep as far from her as possible. The lady on the right is falling out of her strange outfit, while expressing a strong revulsion to the idea of actually hitting the gentleman’s bottom. And for a man about to be trained by two wicked bitches in leather, he looks remarkably cheerful. He’s no doubt justifiably confident that he’s unlikely to need his safeword in the scene. What I find particularly amazing is that judging by the titling, this was the lead image for the magazine or the photo-spread. They must have looked at all the other shots and gone – “That’s it! That’s the one to lead with! This really sets the scene for the air of powerful dominance and complex sensuality that we’re trying to put across here.”

There’s a lot of justifiable complaining about bad femdom porn. I can’t deny that there’s a lot of it out there. But in an hour on tumblr you can find more good BDSM porn today than you could have found in a month of hunting in the 90’s. And I dread to think what it must have been like for kinksters prior to the spread of the internet.

Booted Discipline

I found this in a collection of vintage shots at Femdom Times.