Tag: Fm

Golden Retriever vs Border Collie

After my last post on FLR dynamics I stumbled across this recent Twitter video by Sarah Calanthe. It caught me eye because, while the analogy she used was pretty different to Mommy vs Rockstar, the underlying idea seemed fairly similar.

Her analogy drew on dogs. Specifically, Golden Retrievers vs Border Collies. The former are happy, dopey and content to hang out with their owners. They’re motivated by treats and attention. In contrast, Border Collies are smart, energetic and highly task focused. They want things to do and will seek out new challenges if they don’t get given them. In the context of my prior post, Retrievers are obviously children and Border Collies are personal assistants.

It was kind of odd to immediately stumble across a video that aligned so closely to my post. Particular given mine was based on a blog post I read 10+ years ago.

Personally, I’m in the Border Collie camp. I’m not a fan of micromanagement, but do enjoy problem solving and arranging things. Just don’t ask me to herd sheep.

This is by the artist Soushiyo. They have a Patreon here and a web comic series here.

Mommy vs Rockstar

I was thinking more about service dynamics (following my last post) and then this Bluesky thread on the challenges of an FLR. That in turn reminded me of a description of FLR dynamics I read years ago and that stuck with me.

The theory was that you could categorize these relationships into two categories – Mommy/Child and Rockstar/PA. The Mommy dynamic is a micromanaging one, focused on giving the submissive detailed step by step actions to complete. The submissive is supposed to do exactly what he’s told and not take the initiative. In contrast, the Rockstar dynamic is focused on end results. The submissive is supposed to act like a personal assistant, smoothing out the bumps of life. The domme doesn’t want to be hassled with details. If they want French food for dinner, the submissive figures out the restaurant, the reservation, the transport, etc.

I liked this categorization. It’s obviously broad and not all FLR dynamics / relationships will fall strictly into one camp or the other, but I thought it had the ring of truth. It’s also interesting to note that they place the workload in two different places. For the first one, the workload is on the domme to micromanage the submissive. For the second, the workload is on the submissive to deliver solutions and remove obstacles in the dommes life.

Reading that Bluesky thread it made me wonder if part of the problem is a mismatch between these two dynamics. If the submissive is expecting a micromanaging mommy and the domme wants an intuitive personal assistant, things are bound to go awry.

This is an old captioned tumblr image. It’s obviously leaning into the micromanaging mommy dynamic.

Service

I’m digging back into the old tumblr archives for this shot. Not exactly sure what the original context for it was, but I like the vibe.

When I was younger most of my fantasies were achievable kinks that I wanted to do but lacked the opportunity. Now I’m older, and have had some of those opportunities open up, most of my remaining fantasies are probably best left that way. They’re either too extreme or too mundane. The idea of being in service as a butler probably falls into the latter category. It’s hot in theory but likely boring in practice.

A Gift

Here’s some visual loveliness for the weekend. A beautifully composed and sensual image.

Spit is another of those kinks that works in a multitude of ways. Being spat on can be humiliating and degrading. But do it this way and suddenly it’s a reward. A gift from the domme.

Sadly I don’t have a source for this. Google’s reverse image search AI makes all sorts of dumb suggestions, none of which look right. If you can help me attribute then please leave a comment.

Back in the Archives

I’ve been browsing images from old tumblrs recently. Back before they shot themselves in the foot (and head) by shutting down adult sites I ripped a bunch of them to my local storage. There’s no comment or links obviously, but I do have a lot of the images.

Browsing them again, what’s really my caught my eye is the refreshing lack of AI content. Not all the content is great, but it’s at least created by artists and features real people.

My original reason for grabbing the images – other than my instinctive digital pack rat behavior – was the belief that tumblr was going to be PG-13 from then on.  That’s turned out to be only partially true. However, the unexpected benefit has been a big image cache taken before AI slopped everywhere. They’re my version of low background steel. That certainly wasn’t what I was expecting when I originally grabbed them.

As I’ve said before, I’m not religiously against AI. It can be used in interesting ways. But it’s way too easy to spam out endless images that are the visual equivalent of fast food. All gristle, fat and emulsifiers.

This is one of the images from the archive. Not sure of the original source. The hanging weights are a particularly eye catching part of the setup.

Sissy

Interesting twitter thread here on the subject of sissies from Mistress Mercer and Lady Vi. It’s a pushback on the negative press that type of play can often get. For those who understandably choose not to frequent twitter, I’ll reproduce a couple of the relevant tweets here…

My very first long-term ‘sissy’ partner PROMISED Me they “weren’t trans”, and it was just a weird sex humiliation thing.

She ended up transitioning within 6 months of being in a safe and loving environment where her gender expression and exploration was honored and appreciated.

You absolutely *do not fucking know* what someone is going through, and it’s extremely harmful to judge the way that they are coping, processing, relieving, or coming to terms with their own desires.
Mistress Mercer

It’s true. I took on a sissy years ago who wanted an extended “sissy maid” training session to prepare them for a play date they had (or something along those lines).

We only had one session and then they decided to divorce their wife and transition. People discount how profound it can be to feel safe, seen and accepted.
Lady Vi

I don’t have much to add to the topic, but it seemed like a perspective worth sharing. There must also be a large number of people who have explored this kink and – in an ideal world – would consider transitioning, but can’t bring themselves to take that step. We’re sadly not living in an open minded and accepting time.

Here’s a theme appropriate image sourced from Mistress Mercer’s twitter feed.

Mistress Mercer is a ‘Suffering & Sissification Specialist’ based out of Myrtle Beach, SC. You can find all her relevant links here.

Good Kicking

I’m sporting some lovely deep bruises on my chest and arms today. Savannah Sly was in town and last night she gave me a damn good kicking. Not to mention slapping, punching, gouging, pinching and general mashing. It left me a bruised but very happy bunny.

This photograph is not us and not from last night. It’s by Aaron Hawks from 2005. I picked it because I felt it captured a little bit of the energy of our play. Controlled deconstruction. Everything scattered but with purpose.

You can find Aaron Hawk’s professional web site here. He’s a professional photographer and artist based in my hometown of Seattle.