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Fetish or Fashion Revisited #2

Congratulations everyone who guessed that the previous post was from a fashion source. Specifically, it was from this fashion editorial in Paper magazine.

Commenters Wolf and Simon correctly identified the slightly bored looking chap as a giveaway. Attractive models starting vacantly into the distance are a common element of fashion shots for some reason. Prefectdt also pointed out the setting was pretty fancy for a fetish shot. That’s very true, although I have occasionally seen European dommes shoot in fancy hotel rooms.

Here’s your next image to guess. Fashion or Fetish?

Fetish or Fashion Revisited

Back in 2023 I did a short series entitled ‘Fetish or Fashion.’ The idea was to feature images from those two sources and allow readers to guess which was which. I had several positive comments on the idea, so I figured it might be time to revisit it with a series of new posts.

Here’s the first image in this new series. Is this from a fashion media source? Or a kinky one? I’ll post the answer along with the next image tomorrow.

Zentai and Metal

This photograph comes courtesy of Elise Graves over at Bondage Liberation. It’s a very hot combination of metal bondage and a zentai body suit. There’s some leather mittens and a head harness as well, just for extra kinky fun. The pose and the suit is suggestive of an insect – all limbs and thorax.

Zentai is one of those things that’s not really a kink of mine, but I would like to play with it at some future point. Based on my past experience, it’s a lot easier to handle then full face hoods, but still gives a sense of objectification and depersonalization. Not to mention the funky aesthetics of the look.

You can see the original size version of this, plus 3 other photographs from the same scene, over at Elise’s Bluesky post.

Solemates

Foot fetish aficionados might want to check out a new book – Solemates by Adam Zmith. It a short tour of the history of foot fetishism, how it has been represented in culture and why it appeals to people, both straight and queer. Available at the usual online spots and specialists.

The artwork below is by Uruguayan artist Leus and features one of the world’s most famous foot fetishists – Quentin Tarantino. A man so dedicated to the kink he wrote and cast himself in the famous scene with Salma Hayek depicted below.

Happy New Year!

Wishing all my reader an amazing and kinky 2025. If you’re the kind of person to make resolutions for the New Year, then I hope they prove productive and achievable.

Personally, I’m hoping to travel and play more this year. I made that pledge last year and was partially successful. I did get down to LA and SF, and I did get to play once again with the fabulous Domina Yuki. However, I didn’t get back to Chicago or NYC and, if I’m honest, I still didn’t session as much as I’d aimed to. So, still more work to do there.

It’d be fun to pick a new activity to try, but I think that depends so much on who I play with. Certain scenes lend themselves to certain dommes. Maybe I can just aim to try at least one new thing and figure out what that should be when I figure out a session schedule. Puppy play maybe? That’d be a new one.

I’m afraid I’ve been unable to track down the source for this.

On the Edge

In a further sign of kink slipping further into the mainstream, Glamour magazine has an article on Edging. It’s actually pretty good, covering the basics and giving handy tips.

The only thing I’d quibble with is their assertion that edging leads to stronger orgasms. Maybe that’s true for women, which is presumably Glamour’s primary audience. For men however, I think it’s the shift away from orgasm that makes it interesting. We’re conditioned into expecting sex to have a clearly defined build-up to an orgasmic stopping point. Stretching that out and leaning into arousal without orgasm makes for a very different experience. I love combining a steady endorphin buzz with the sense of denial and frustration. It’s a headspace that I can happily live in for days without orgasm.

This is by the artist Mare. You can find their Patreon here.

The Nutcracker

Christmas is almost upon us. That means it’s time for bloggers everywhere to drag out their best Santa themed kinky pictures. I’m not sure where I found this one, but I have a sneaking suspicion it’s an old Playboy cartoon. I think it’d make more sense if the toys Santa was delivering were of the adult variety.

NYC actually used to have a dungeon called the Nutcracker – sadly long gone now.

If you celebrate Christmas then I hope you have a good one. If you don’t then I wish you a generally happy holiday season. Personally, the only gift I’m hoping for is a healthy holiday with no weird flu or covid bugs to ruin my time off.

Traditional Roles

Continuing the theme of kinks of the year: Vice has an article based on Pornhub’s end of year summary. Unlike the Clips 4 Sales report, chastity and cuckolding are nowhere to be seen. Instead it’s the usual porn categories you’d expect. This part of the Vice article did make me laugh…

Stepmom is on there because the weird trend of people wanting to have sex with people related to them by marriage has not subsided just yet, but according to the rankings, it is down two spots from last year. Let’s hope it keeps plunging until we scrub our pornography of any kind of familial relation.

Not sure that marital relationship kink is the real target here. Stepmom is only there because credit card processors force creators to use that as a substitute for the more boundary pushing ‘mom’. No doubt the squeamish article writer would be even more perturbed by that fact.

The other thing that caught me eye was the fact people are searching for ‘tradwife’ content. This is based on the trend of women pretending to be very traditional 50’s housewives in social media videos. I say pretending because it all seems highly performative and somewhat fetishistic. It’s roleplaying by people who are either already wealthy or are making money as influencers. You know, just like typical 50’s housewives did.

I’m not sure what tradwife porn would look like. Missionary position in a dark room? That’s after spending all day making your own lube from scratch of course.

Of course, I’m not against a little traditional roleplay now and again. It’s just a lot more fun to switch it up a bit.

This is from the ‘In a Parallel Universe’ series by Eli Rezkallah.

That Time Again

It’s that time of year again. The lights are on the trees, Celine is blasting in the stores and clip sites are coming out with their end of year kinky reports. It’s a time honored tactic for attracting clicks and associated articles, and I’m happy to join that party.

The Clips 4 Sale site has announced their fetish of the year and it’s Chastity. That’s kind of funny for a clips site that’s all about getting off. The runners up are Gooning and Cuckolding. There’s a certain theme developing with those three – tease, denial, voyeurism and control. I wonder what that says about the state of the world?

This shot is from Mrs Steelwerks.

Two Sessions with Domina Yuki

As I covered in previous posts, I was down in San Francisco before Thanksgiving and had the opportunity to play with Domina Yuki once again. In past years a week’s vacation would have been an excuse to cram in multiple sessions with multiple different dommes. These days I tend to be more restrained (ahem), playing with people I already know and have history with. Given I first played with Domina Yuki back in 2011, we’ve no shortage of history.

This time we coordinated a couple of sessions, with a rest day in-between. I find that approach works well, as it gives chance to reestablish a connection and make any adjustments between sessions that might be desired. I also love the rest day, as it combines the buzz from the first session with the anticipation of the second.

Domina Yuki was kind enough to snap some pictures, which I thought I’d share links to here.

This set-up has me on the floor, chained to a padded board, with my legs suspended from a pulley system. It’s a position that gives the submissive a lovely view of the domme towering over him. Unfortunately, it also places the soles of the submissive’s feet in a very vulnerable position, which Domina Yuki was quick to take advantage of. I’m not sure what was worse – the tickling she administered or these spiky clamps!

This scene has me in a different type of suspension, with belts around my legs and waist being used used to hold me off the floor. It’s a clever set-up, as its fairly quick to establish but still gives that unique sensation you get from hanging from a hardpoint in the ceiling. It also leaves you very vulnerable and open to whatever the domme might choose to do.

The featured shot below shows a sequence we did on a padded table. Domina Yuki built a lot of layers of sensation here, featuring leather mittens, plastic wrap, chains, needles and a ball crusher. Out of shot there’s also a head stabilizing device, held in place with leather straps. You can see a top down view here. The plastic wrap and the chains are a nice combination. You get tightness and immobility from the first, drama and fun clinking noises from the second. While the needles in the cock look dramatic, it’s the nipple clamps that really hurt here.

Finally, here’s a shot of a bondage scene in a chair. There’s more plastic wrap involved, along with a leather posture collar, blindfold and long bondage gloves. I always love to be sat on in these situations. It’s both sensual and objectifying. Of course, there’s a price to be paid for the sexy bits. That price is the ouchy bits. Which are still sexy in their own special way.

My thanks to Domina Yuki for creating these fabulous sessions and taking the time to record them for posterity. Writing this post triggered many memories of our past play and left with me with a warm happy glow.