Tag: Fm

Careful Cutters

A study of surgeons in Canada and Sweden has produced the unsurprising result that your outcome is likely to be significantly better with a female surgeon.

…records suggest that female surgeons tend to operate more slowly and may achieve better results by taking their time in the operating theatre

I say it’s unsurprising because that’s my general impression across a range of professions. Women tend to listen more and be more thoughtful in their approach. Less of a gung-ho attitude. Given the option, I’d always prefer to have a woman sticking sharp things in me, whether it’s in the operating theatre or the dungeon.

Here’s one of those thoughtful doctors in action – the famous Miss Kim Rub. She appears to be in the process of attaching wings to a gentleman. No doubt he’ll be soaring through the air very shortly. This is from Miss Kim’s twitter feed.

Kinky Comedy

Fans of kink and comedy may want to look out for writer, comedian and findom Lane Kwederis. She’s just put on a sold out Edinburgh Fringe show entitled ‘Sex Job’ based on her findom sex work. The reviews I’ve found (for example here,  here and here ) all seem very positive.

Sadly the Edinburgh run has just come to an end but, given its success, I’m sure she’ll be staging it again. Check out her Twitter feed for future information. That’s where I found this shot of her handing out flyers for the show with the help of a handy submissive.

Everything in its Place

This is by the Spanish artist Javier Mayoral aka PulpBrother. It’s popped up in an unattributed and edited form on my femdom feeds recently, probably because of the perfect Twitter trifecta of sex, humor and cats. Reverse image searching gave me an attribution and some background details found here and here.

You can purchase his work at this site. It’s not all kink and femdom related, but a good number of his paintings certainly lean in that direction.

Sweaty

Fan of sticky people may appreciate this article full of sweaty facts from the Guardian. It contains interesting droplets like artificial sweat exists (for product testing) and that fear sweat is a different chemical composition to the hot variety. That last one probably isn’t too surprising to anyone who has done intense BDSM scenes. The ice cold fear sweat that seems to magically spring from your skin under stress feels very different to what happens during a workout.

I’m kind of surprised the article didn’t mention sweat fetishes. If the number of domme’s baring their armpits or selling their socks on my Twitter feed is any kind of gauge, there’s clearly a non-trivial number of people with that particular kink out there.

This image is originally from the Russian Mistress site, with added captioning from the always entertaining Servitor.

Dipping Her Wand

Starting the week with something for fans of extreme femdom crossed with just a touch of whimsy. That’s probably not a huge group, but I’m sure there are some who’ll fit that description in my readership.

This is by the artist KouYou. It’s not often you see a domme outfit that’d be at home in a Harry Potter Cosplay convention. Even rarer that such an outfit would be paired with an amputation and sounding fetish scene. As a fan of extreme contrasts, I like the mix of tenderness and cruelty, but I’ll admit it’s an unusual combination of ideas.

I sourced the image from this tweet.

The Ultimate Milking Machines

One final milking machine themed post. I couldn’t do a sequence of posts on that topic and not feature something from Sardax’s classic themed series. I’ve chosen one of my favorites below but you can find the full set of 6 on his blog.

I’m obviously not alone in my appreciation for this set. As he writes in a post featuring a follow-up series on the same theme, the original post is consistently his most popular one. Let’s hope Jordan Peterson never stumbles across it. He might start tweeting that it’s illustrative of the dangers of the UK’s Nationalized Health Service.

More Pet Play

Continuing the theme from my last post, here’s a more extreme form of pet play. It’s from a tweet by a Japanese artist – ひややっこ：穀物の雨が降る、土砂降りの雨が

I like a lot of the cute details in this image, like the short arm stilts, the big toe bondage and the remote zapper it looks like she’s carrying. It’s very sexy objectification and dehumanization.

Modern Marriage

The Guardian has a short but fun article on the sex life of a married pro-domme and her not particularly kinky husband. As you might expect the gap between internet fantasy and reality is a large one. They come across as a sweet couple.

While it’s nice to see a positive story about a sex worker and her happy home life, it does highlight an ongoing problem for the femdom community. Pro-dommes are the very public face of femdom, but many of them may choose to not make it part of their personal lives. That reinforces the idea that femdom is really all about male desires and for women it’s purely a performative act. That’s not the fault of pro-dommes, but it does lead to a skewed perception. I’ve enjoyed the Guardian’s series on couple’s sex lives, but it’s a shame the first femdom mentioned plays yet further into that perception. Fingers crossed there’ll be a regular non-professional domme featured at some point.

This very sexy artwork is by artist Soushiyo. Can find more of their work via their Twitter feed and their comic series Familiar.

Fixing Things

After my previous post on what not to do in a session, I thought I’d follow it with a more positive one. Namely, if things do go wrong, what are some good approaches to fix the situation.

Before doing that, I’ll add two important qualifiers. Firstly, these aren’t my brilliant ideas. These are what I’ve observed creative and talented dommes do in my sessions with them. Secondly, I’m purely talking about mechanical issues here. When the battery dies, the body won’t bend or the rope just won’t cooperate. Not issues in the scene dynamic or emotions. Those are a far trickier set of problems that are above my paygrade.

Those qualifiers out the way, here’s three tricks I’ve seen successfully employed when a domme’s plan A has failed…

  1. Playfully blame the submissive and use that to pivot the activity. A tongue in cheek – “Well look what you’ve done now!” – remark when the clip leaps off for the third time can a great excuse to set-up a new activity. After all, if I can’t keep those clamps on my nipples, it’s only fair she kicks me in the balls a few times. Most people don’t like being blamed unfairly, but a playful funishment for something that’s obviously not the submissives fault can be a nice way to shift gears and get away from the problem.
  2. Shift into problem solving mode, making the submissive simply part of the puzzle to be cracked. The objectification part of this can be very hot. Suddenly there’s not a one-on-one dynamic. It’s just a domme figuring out how to make some recalcitrant equipment do the right thing. I’m no more or less important than the hard points, ropes or carabiners.
  3. Ditch the problematic activity, shift gears to something totally different and loudly announce that fact. Most submissives will be so excited at the prospect of the new thing, they’ll totally forget whatever wasn’t working. If a domme announces she’s going to stop trying to get her humbler to fit me and instead is going to sit on my face, I’m not going to be lying there, struggling for breath and thinking to myself – “I wish we were still fiddling around the wingnuts on that humber. That was so much more fun than this.”

Speaking of face sitting, here’s some courtesy of the Mistress Land site. I don’t know what activity they were doing 10 minutes prior to this, but I think it’s a safe bet that he’s no longer thinking about it.