Tag: Fm

Sex & Rage

Dazed has a story guaranteed to catch my eye: Sex and rage: A night in the ring at a lesbian wrestling party. Despite the clickbait title, it’s a pretty interesting event – kinky wrestling for lesbians and bisexuals without the male gaze.

The wrestlers that have been invited to join her in the ring are all sex workers, who regularly perform kink wrestling for male audiences. But this night was different: a chance for lesbian and bisexual women (trans-inclusive) to experience kink wrestling without performing for the male gaze. As Sabrina Jade aptly put it: “Queer people find it hard to experiment if some guy is breathing down their neck.”

I like the fact that even in this kind of event, they apparently still have heels. Some wrestling laws are immutable. According to the article, Goth Delilah leans into that role. She’s a London based domme and wrestler. While I’d guess a lot of my readers won’t be the target audience for a Sex & Rage event, a one on one session with Goth Delilah is always an option.

This shot is taken from Delilah’s Twitter feed.

Reaching In and Around

I hadn’t intended to turn this into a blog of newly discovered artists and artwork, but that has kind of been the theme recently. A lot of new people popping up in my feeds and inbox. In this case the image is from Dutch artist SleinadFlar. His work is a mix of kinks and fetishes, some femdom and some more general BDSM. I particularly liked this one for the contrast between her very composed and elegant appearance and his obvious vulnerability.

You can find more from Flar, including information on commissions, over at his DeviantArt site.

Office Pet

Continuing the theme of introducing new (to this site) artists, here’s something by Dirty Sparrow. I don’t think she has a primary website but you can find her and her work over on Twitter.

This example is particularly cute and fun. I love her rapaciousness and his shy but totally into it expression. I like to think it’s a bossy project manager with her favorite developer. He does great work, but needs firm guidance lest his attention stray.

Sourced via this tweet.

Guild of Dommes

Discussion about a guild or governing board for pro-dommes crops up every year or two. The latest example I’ve spotted was this thread triggered by Charlotte Douleur. If you’re new to professional domination or haven’t thought about it too much, then the idea might have some initial appeal. After all, BDSM scenes have inherent risks, there are significant sums of cash involved and relative strangers are meeting in isolated spaces. Why not have some sort of certification or oversight? However, the idea quickly falls apart when you think about it.

Who would appoint and manage the membership? How would they enforce anything? What would the rules on activities and behavior be? Whose standards are the right ones? How would you stop bad actors (asshole clients) stirring trouble with bogus complaints? How would you even investigate a complaint?

More opportunities for education and classes is obviously good and advocacy groups – like the kind Savannah Sly directs – are awesome. But I personally can’t see how an old school guild would ever work out.

In many ways, from the client perspective, the internet has already improved matters tremendously. As Sardax described in this post, in the old days you really took a chance based on nothing more than a few words in an ad. Now you can follow a domme’s social media feed, see what events she attends, get a sense of her interests, go along to domme led classes (see prior post), etc. etc. In major cities it’s pretty easy to find a pro-domme with a lot of experience and a high reputation. No guild certification needed.

Mentioning Charlotte Douleur does at least give me an excuse for featuring another of her lovely images. This was sourced via her twitter feed.

Previously posts featuring great bondage shots from Mistress Douleur can be found here and here. She’s London based and someone who falls very much into that category of experienced dommes with a strong reputation.

Professor of Pegging

If you’re NYC based and interested in kink workshops then you might want to check out the Taillor Collective. There’s a good article on them in The Cut which goes into particular detail on their pegging workshop.  It looks like they also run Femdom parties if you’re less into lessons and more into playing.

This isn’t an image from one of their parties. It’s a somewhat random strap-on shot I found via a tumblr.  No idea of the source but I like the apparent candid nature of it.