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Site Updates

I spent a little time this weekend cleaning up links and adding new ones. In no particular order, some of the changes included…

Adding Domina Liza’s blog to the pro-domme section of my blogroll. It’s a new blog but I’m confident it’ll be an interesting one. She already has a post up about the bed of nails I referenced in an earlier post of my own.

Adding Princess Annie Domine‘s blog to the femdom section of my blogroll. It’s also relatively new, but I’m hoping her writing on how she finds her way into the real life D/s world will be of interest to both dominants and submissives.

Adding links to the Submissive Guide and Clarisse Thorn’s blog to the BDSM articles page. Both have a lot of good background reading if you’ve never encountered them before.

Adding some links to James Pendergrass’s fiction to the Femdom Fiction page. Check out his free fiction at SM Tales if you’re looking for some new femdom stories.

Adding the following tumblr sites to my Femdom Image page: Alternative Femdom, CBSteve, Littleman Rayburn’s Captions, Rue Montorgueil, Women Power and Worshiping Women.

Hopefully there’ll be a little something for everyone to enjoy in those new links. The image for this post comes from one of the new tumblrs, Alternative Femdom. I’m not sure of its original source, or exactly what the context is, but I do enjoy their two expressions. And, as they say, you can solve anything with duct tape.

Smiles

A few days ago I published a strap-on post entitled smirks. This one follows a similar theme, but is much more about smiles than smirks. The difference is a subtle one. Smirking is self-satisfaction, where smiling is much more about engagement with others.

Despite that distinction, both posts make me feel happy inside. That’s kind of an odd reaction to porn. Typically the intended response is one of arousal. These two shots definitely push my buttons in that regard, but that minor sensation of arousal is subordinate to the overall impression of shared enjoyment. Normally in porn the viewer looks to project himself into the scene. In this case they look like they’re having so much fun, it almost feels rude to do that. I just want them to enjoy themselves.

Images are from Strapon Dreamer.

Prickly

Here’s an interesting implement of torture. Looks like a wartenberg wheel on steroids. I’d guess it’s some sort of kitchen or craft utensil that has been cunningly repurposed. I like the use of the humbler to keep him in place, along with her hand resting gently on his back.

I found this on the Willie2Serve tumblr site. It’s originally from the Russian Mistress site.

Short and sweet

Stupid Comcast knocked out my internet access for most of the night. It has returned as I’m about to head to bed, so I’m just going to throw up a little D/s eye candy in this short post. Enjoy!

This is from the Alias Slave tumblr.

Rapt in rope

I spent several hours tonight entrapped by a rather large amount of rope. Somewhere between a 100 and 150 feet of it by Lydia’s estimate. I’m not sure we’ve ever used that much before, except perhaps in a couple of suspension scenes. In this case I was flat on my back, with a rope harness around the torso acting as an anchor point for all the other strands that captured my limbs. There were also electrics, clamps and chopsticks involved at various times. Oh, and classical music. Normally that wouldn’t be torture in itself, but when you’ve got a microphone and a sound activated electrical device hooked up to your genitals, well lets just say you don’t want too many rolling drums or crashing cymbals.

We didn’t snap any photographs, but I thought the one below seemed appropriate for a couple of reasons. Firstly, there was a head harness involved, although in my case it was a single strand as a knot gag and then a pair of strands as an inverted Y across my nose. Secondly, nipple caressing was also featured. Unfortunately, it was the other way around, and done immediately after the removal of four really vicious little clamps. That means every touch, no matter how gentle, was agony. It takes a particularly cunning sadist to twist something that should be pleasurable into a painful torment.

I found this image on the Sweet Note image board.

His chiropractor would not approve

I like the bowed shape the guy is making here. The vertical rope, with him curving back to receive the flogger creates a nicely composed scene. I’m not sure if it was originally in black and white, but it certainly helps the shot, with the two of them silhouetted against the dappled tree.

However, after tweaking my back last year, I can’t look at these kind of shots without wincing. I’ve got to think that the reverse flex is really hard on the lower disks. At first I thought it was just how he’d chosen to stand. But as I study it now I’m wondering if there are stinging nettles in front of him. If so, that’s a particularly devious predicament bondage set-up.

I found this on the Domenique Von Sternenberg tumblr.

Big brother is watching you

Anyone writing a sex blog has to consider the issues of privacy and anonymity. Just how much do you reveal to the world about your life and what risks are you prepared to take with your real identity? A few bloggers choose to share their identity, most hide behind a pseudonym. Similarly when it comes to personal images, a few post faces shots, but most choose to censor to some extent. There’s a tricky balance to strike between sharing interesting information and creating potential problems for daily life outside of kink.

When I started writing this blog I made a conscious decision on where I was going to draw that line. I definitely wanted to share very personal thoughts, activities and images from my life. At the same time I didn’t want this blog popping up on search engines for anyone looking for the ‘real life’ me. As a result, while I’m safe from family members or employees googling me, anyone who knows me and happened to browse this blog would probably identify me fairly quickly. I think a combination of the about page, the personal snippets that sneak into posts and the body shots of my sessions would be enough for that. I think it’s fairly unlikely to happen, and it wouldn’t be the end of the world if it did, but it’s definitely a possibility that lurks uncomfortably in the back of my brain.

I was therefore intrigued to see a letter to Dan Savage in a recent column touching on this very issue.

How are you supposed to react to the discovery—entirely accidental—that your youngest brother has a “femdom” relationship with his wife? I stumbled over my brother’s “anonymous” sex blog. It goes into detail about the “domestic discipline” she subjects him to: humiliation, spanking, “ruined orgasms” (whatever that is!), cuckolding. There are no names, but there are pictures. Their faces are blurred out, but I recognize their living room, their bedroom, the necklace my sister-in-law wears, my brother’s chin and hair.

The actual blog isn’t mentioned, but I couldn’t help wondering if it belonged to any of my readers. Or even if it was one of the blogs on my blogroll. If you’re a femdom blogger reading this and have an older brother who has suddenly started behaving oddly and will not meet your eye, then you may have a very awkward conversation in your future. That is if he doesn’t follow Dan’s advice to keep his mouth shut.

There is of course the issue of exactly how the older brother ‘stumbled’ on their sex blog. It’s not the kind of thing one would typically come across via normal aimless browsing. From the letter he seems a little confused about what a ruined orgasm is, so on the off-chance he also inadvertently stumbles onto this blog, I thought I’d help him out. The images below are from animated gifs showing a trio of nicely ruined orgasms. Click through to see the animations on tumblr.

Smirk

This shot makes me very happy. I really can’t think of any description of her expression other than ‘smirk’. She’s obviously thinking “I’m fucking him up the ass and you’re photographing it. How great is that?” She has the best grin in the world.

I found this on the pegtastic tumblr.

Rectum? Damn near killed him!

An attractive Asian mistress standing over a wax splattered slave isn’t a particularly unusual femdom shot. Having the slave bound with heavy ropes to a couple of ornate side tables is a little rarer. Sticking what looks like a lit firework in a delicate part of the slaves anatomy is pretty much unique in my extensive porn surfing experience. Of course I now standby for people to bombard me links to the numerous firework BDSM tumblrs that are no doubt out there. FemdomFireworkFetish.tumblr.com perhaps? Or maybe CherryBombCherryPoppers.tumblr.com?

Despite the post title I think it might actually be stuck in his urethra, although it’s kind of hard to see. I’m also a little puzzled what she’s doing with the string she’s holding. Is that a ‘pull in case of emergency’ cord? Or is she simply using it to steer the spray of fire?

I’ve never experienced anything quite as dramatic as this, although I did enjoy sparklers in the cell popping session I did last year. In that case Lady Lydia passed them over my torso from an inch or two away. They were very pretty and gave a nice prickling pain effect as the sparks splashed against the skin.

I found this on the SweetNote femdom image board.

Short and sweet

After all the verbiage in the last three posts I thought something simple and to the point was called for today. I don’t know the original artist for this image or anything about it. I just like it. She manages to look both a little tentative and yet still commanding all at the same time.

I found this on the lifes beauty (aka django mango) tumblr. If anyone does have any background on the image or can attribute it for me then please leave a comment and I’ll update the post.