Tag: Fm

Cosmo Moment

Cosmopolitan Magazine has an article out celebrating femdom and male submission as the ‘hot new thing.’ It always makes me happy to see positive femdom coverage in mainstream media. Destigmatizing it for women who might want to give it a try is great. At the same time, these kind of articles tend to have their fair share of eye rolling comments and this is no exception.

I was particularly amused by this part…

For many, there isn’t a traditionally sexual element — Sarah’s submissives, for example, have their genitals locked in chastity cages.

I mean I guess it’s not traditional to lock your dick up, but it’s sure as hell a sexual element. Chastity is all about sex, even if there’s no actual sex being had.

The other annoying part of the article is the references to the ‘default’ of male domination and this new ‘trend’ changing things up. When I think of actual BDSM and kinky content creators over the years, femdom has always been a huge part of it. The centralizing of men in the default dominant role in kink came from societies stereotypes, filtering from there into conventional porn, not the other way around. As one of the submissives interview in the article puts it…

maybe we’re all more open about where the baseline of kinky sexuality has always been

The artwork is by the great Eric Stanton. A man celebrating femdom decades before American society decided it was safe for women to be in charge of their own credit.

Happy 2026

Crazy to think we’ve reached 2026. That seems like the kind of date I’d see in a Sci-Fi novel not on a calendar. Shame it has turned out to be the dystopian kind of Sci-Fi.

Anyway, let’s not end this crazy year on a down note. Hope everyone has a great 2026, with as much kink as you body and spirit can safely handle. However you plan to celebrate the new year – whether it’s out to a party or, like this lady, spending a night in with a glass of wine and a good book – I wish you well. May the new year bring good things.

I found this on tumblr. Google once again failed me on reverse image searching, but I’m pretty sure that’s Mistress Charlotte Douleur. She’s a London based pro-domme.

Fake Cock

I don’t feature a lot of ruined orgasm material here. That’s not because I don’t think it’s hot. It’s actually a kink I love and have played with in sessions. The problem is that it works better as a video or animated gif, and I don’t want to put those bandwidth hogs on my frontpage.

However, I’m making an exception for this post. Partly because I think it’s fairly clear what’s going on here even with a still image. Mostly because I think it’s unusual, interesting and sexy. You can check out the full video clip via this Reddit post. It’s by Ruby Ripple and features her jerking off a parallel fake cock while the real one aimlessly spasms and jerks around alongside it. It reminds me of the fake hand experiment, just with less hammers and more jizz.

You can find more from Ruby via her Reddit posts and her Fans sites.

A good night’s sleep

I always appreciate a seriously kinky scene rendered in an unusual or unexpected style. This reminds me of the kind of illustration you’d find in an old children’s book. Something involving magical rings or secret doorways. It’s an Edwardian tale of a plucky girl, her emotionally distant Uncle, the stern but caring housekeeper and, of course, the special friend she keeps locked under her bed.

I’d love to know who created it, but Google seems to be determined to ruin their image search with AI. In quick succession it gave me 4 entirely different suggestions for the artist name, all of whom are well known artists but whose styles are absolutely nothing like this. It claimed it was the cover of a particular children’s book, which it’s not, and named the wrong illustrator for that book. At one point it even said the piece was called ‘The Cage’ but then changed it’s mind and said it was unknow. Just endless useless hallucinations.

If you can help me attribute it then please leave a comment. I’m suspicious it has been cropped or edited at some point to remove the name.

Mistress Clause

Tis the season for kinky artists to give us Christmas themed smut. In this case it’s Jo (featured previously here) with a big old candy cane for Santa. I like the fact Santa has kept his festive socks on and Mistress Clause has some cookies close at hand. Presumably in order to keep her energy levels up.

You can find more from Jo on their Bluesky, Patreon and Reddit. Or just check out their collection of links here.

Edging

This comic – by Luck of the Draw – made be smile. However, at the risk of being pedantic about a comic, there is a significant flaw in the premise. As I covered in my last post, arranging to meet a pro-domme for the first time is not a trivial thing. Anyone shooting Dawn a 1 line email asking her to come by and edge them on Monday afternoon is going to be disappointed.

I guess the reverse situation would be worse. Imagine expecting a sultry domme with a party sized jar of lube and opening the door to a sweaty guy sporting a weed wacker. That’d be a libido killer. Unless of course, you’re into that kind of thing.

You can find more from Luck of the Draw at her Patreon, her Bluesky and over on Reddit.

Travelling

I’m taking a few days vacation. Posting may therefore be a little erratic. I shall endeavour not to get horribly behind my post queue.

I felt like I deserved some time in the sun away from both work and the Seattle gloom. It’s pretty grey this time of year. First week is relaxing with friends, second week is just me and a chance for some kink. Of course, if my work looked anything like this then I’d probably never leave the office.

15th (ish) Year Anniversary

I just realized that this blog has reached its 15 year anniversary. In fact it reached it back in September and I totally missed it. Happy belated anniversary to me and it.

Looking back to a post I made for the 10 year milestone, I’m amused to note that I was hoping to be retired by now and have freed up time for more personal projects. Unfortunately, shortly after writing that post, I did pretty much the opposite of retiring and joined an early stage tech startup. Not a move I’d recommend for anyone looking to wind down their work life. That has really killed my free time for the last few years and definitely impacted my blogging. Hopefully, between now and the 20 year version of this post, I can actually retire and reclaim some time for kink, writing and travel. Future me – don’t fuck this up.

An anniversary is typically celebrated with cake and candles. I don’t have any cake to share, but here’s some candles. Luckily for the gentleman concerned, not 15 of them.

Sadly I don’t have the original source for this image. Image search tells me it’s pretty old – at least 9 years. There is a Marina B. photographer online, but her work seems far more family oriented than this. If anyone has an attribution then please let me know via a comment.

Happy Thanksgiving

It’s the end of November, which means only one thing in the US – Thanksgiving. That means blogs like this one are obliged to make stuffing related posts. I think that’s actually one of the amendments to the constitution. So here we go, with a young farmhand putting one of those hands to good use.

For those based in the US that celebrate the holiday, I hope you have a good one. For everyone, at least it’s almost the weekend.