Tag: Fm

Home Again

I’m back in Seattle after a fun few days in San Francisco. In a future post I’ll hopefully have some photos to share from the two sessions I did with Domina Yuki.

While they were great sessions, they were less intense than some of the past play we’ve had together (for example here and here). That was at my request. I’ve found that my pain tolerance varies inversely with my general stress level. If I’m stressed then more of my mental and physical capacity is sucked up by that, leaving less for handling kinky pain or torments. With a crazy job, some interment insomnia and the election fallout I’m definitely not at my mental best. That meant steering clear of heavy corporal play or intense CBT on this trip.

One kinky thing that I do find aligns well with stress is bondage. It’s nice to be able to relax and zone out while getting wrapped up. The shot below is a lovely example. This isn’t from my sessions, but was sourced via Trinity’s Bsky feed. You can find the original post here.

Whatever I Want

My vacation has been a lot of fun. I’m always worried about getting sick – which seems to happen on about 50% of my trips – but so far I’ve dodged any bugs. Also eaten a lot of good food and had a fabulous session with Domina Yuki. Much teasing, tickling, paddling and pinching was involved.

More kinky fun is lined up for tomorrow before I return to Seattle. In the meantime, I’m going to continue my theme of picking up new and interesting things from Bluesky. This is by the artist mge2x5 taken from a thread of their work they posted here. It shows a nice sentiment that I think gives all subs a happy shiver whenever they hear it.

Floral

Continuing the theme of finds from Bluesky – this lovely image comes courtesy of Sacred Sadism via Your Master Gardener. Although I have zero interest in gardening I always find these kind of shots very appealing. I think it’s the combination of objectification combined with being made into something desirable and aesthetically pleasing. I suspect for a lot of male submissives that’s not a common feeling.

Blue Skies Ahead

A funny thing has happened over the last week. There has been a flood of people – including a lot of sex workers – to the Bluesky platform. Just a few posts ago I was fretting over my usage of Twitter. Now it seems my problem might be solved. The vast majority of people I follow there are all actively migrating to the new, cooler place to be.

There have been attempts to replace Twitter in the past of course. Switter and Mastodon never really caught on. Threads got users but is incredibly unfriendly to adult content. The combination of Musk wrecking Twitter and Bluesky creating a very close equivalent seems like it might actually overcome the tricky network effects of moving people between platforms. It even got the menswear guy.

One tip for new users: If you don’t like the app, then use the web interface. The app on the iPad is terrible – just a port of the phone version with a tiny viewport – but the web version works great.

If you’re creating a new account and looking for people to follow there are a ton of starter guides floating around. For example, here, here, here and here. You can also just go look at who others follow. My profile is here and as you might expect, there’s a lot of kinky people in my follow list. Also, as Miss Pearl points out, it’s a great opportunity to find new people to follow.

I’m sure it’ll have a bunch of teething issues and technical glitches given the flood of new users. It’s a small company and there will be growing pains. However, I’d rather have a vibrant and adult friendly community with the odd glitch than the right wing cesspool that Musk seems determined to create.

Here’s some sexy media content from Bluesky. Specifically, the account of Goddess Ivy Harte, as posted here.

The Twitter Dilemma

Well that fucking sucked. A truly miserable election outcome. Competent women are out and chaotic lunatics in. After living in the US almost 25 years I’m now seriously wondering if it’s time to head back to the UK.

In the meantime I have a Twitter dilemma to consider. I dislike Musk almost as much as his new political friends. And browsing social media is definitely not good for my mental health. However, Twitter is the one mainline social media site that allows adult content and that sex workers can still use. I get a lot of blog content from it and there are lots of great dommes still tweeting. So by following them and staying on Twitter, am I supporting sex workers or supporting Musk?

Here’s a nice example of the quality content that can still be found on Twitter. It’s not all racists, spambots and Trump fans. This was posted here by the Lady Lux. She’s a Dutch pro-domme whose professional site can found here. I’m sure a lot of us could use a hug in bondage now.

Problematic Pegging

Two interesting pegging images here to compare. I stumbled across the second one while trying to track down the artist for the first. I liked the playfulness of the first image and I’m always a fan of showing dommes having fun. Despite that, something did feel very slightly off about it. Wasn’t sure what.

The second image looks to come from the same source, but is clearly AI. The table legs don’t make any sense, there’s a weird corner to the table and he appears to have 6 toes. So rather than an artist I guess I should have been looking for a prompt creator and a really big data center.

I often track down unidentified artwork by spotting different identified works that are from the same creator. Interesting that the same approach can be taken for AI.

Monsieur Hire

Today’s post is a deep cut, triggered by reading of the death of the French actor Michel Blanc. He had a long career as a French writer, actor and director, but wasn’t well known outside that country. I only know him from the lead role in the 1989 movie that titles this post – Monsieur Hire.

He plays a lonely, middle aged man who spies on his young attractive neighbor (Sandrine Bonnaire). She catches him in the act but, rather than be angry, she is intrigued and becomes friendly with him. Matters are complicated by her boyfriend – a violent petty criminal – and an unsolved murder in their building.

I wouldn’t say it’s a femdom movie per se. There’s no explicit domination or kink. But I think it would appeal to the femdom fan. While he is clearly infatuated with her, it’s less clear what her motivations are and how she really feels about him. The movie turns around that ambiguity.

It looks like it’s available for rent/purchase via a few different stream services (e.g. Prime and Apple TV). Worth a watch if you like independent films.

Nipplegasm

I’m not sure if Nipplegasm is a real word, but I’m willing to argue it should be. As this Guardian article explains, nipple orgasms are a thing.

One  big part of my kinky journey has been learning to develop erogenous zones and in particular the nipples. Previously I treated them as pointless fleshy chest blobs. Now, after years of incorporating them into kinky play, they’re magic buttons of pleasure. I’m not sure I’ve ever had a pure nipple orgasm, but they’re certainly a big part of my play. Worth working on if you’ve not yet done so.

This drawing is by the artist Minahon. You can find their twitter here.