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Kinky Kitty

What makes people submissive and/or masochistic has been long debated. Is it genetics, environment or some combination of the two? Now some Czech scientists have a new theory – cats.

As this article describes, kitty poop can contain a parasite called Toxoplasma gondii. If that makes it into the human body, its effect is to screw around with the fear and sex related circuits of the brain. That in turn can lead people to seek out more scary and sexually risky things. So one day you’re emptying the cat litter box, and the next you’re hanging upside down while a lady in a catsuit beats you with a rubber hose.

However, before you start blaming all the freaky stuff you’ve done in the last few years on Mr Snuggles, I should point out the original paper suggests that- “Toxoplasma probably only slightly increases the tendencies of infected subjects to be sexually aroused by BDSM stimuli”. So it’s only a very small part of a much bigger and more complex picture.

A post about cats seemed the perfect one to feature this lovely image. Scratching is such a sexy and intimate way to inflict pain. Kitten ears aren’t strictly needed, but a nice bonus.

I’m not sure where this image is from. There’s a watermark, but even magnified I can’t figure out what it says. As usual, please leave a comment if you can help me attribute it.

Bigger is better

Some days I struggle to think of a good post topic. On other days they pretty much write themselves. Today is one of the latter cases. It was pretty much impossible for me not to feature this story: Women prefer slightly larger penises.

The good news for all you small penis humiliation fetishists out there is that the desirable length is 6.3″ (16cm), while the national average is only 5.2″ (13cm). That means 97% of men have a dick smaller than the desirable size. So you might have thought she was just roleplaying when she said how small and unsatisfying you were, but actually she was just being honest with you. How hot is that!

For those not into being humiliated about their genitals, and not in the top 3%, take heart from the fact that the survey was about preferred rather than minim size. And that survey didn’t ask women to rank the importance of size against other male attributes. So look on the bright side. There are no doubt dozens of other equally important metrics for you to be measured as totally inadequate against. Don’t get too hung-up on this particular one, when you’re probably also failing against lots of others that are just as important.

It’s hard to know exactly what the lady below is thinking about the erection before her. Possibly – “I need to go find my tape measure before I can decide if this is hot or not”.

I think this is by the artist J. Wayne Higgins based on this tumblr post.

Dominatrix Drive

Most countries are actively anti sex work. If it’s not actually illegal then, at the very least, it’s denigrated and hidden away. Politicians typically work to make life harder for sex workers – when they’re not secretly visiting them of course.

I was therefore happy to see the German city of Hamburg taking quite an unusual step. They’re going recognize a famous local sex worker by naming a road after her. Domenica Niehoff initially started as a prostitute and then opened a studio as a dominatrix. At the same time she campaigned for legalization of sex work, as well as founding an organization to help young workers and drug addicts (from her wikipedia page). I’m not going to hold my breath for the US to do something similar, but it’s nice to see some parts of the world getting it right.

Judging by the background this was shot in England. Maybe Cynthia Payne Plaza? I believe this is from the CFNM TV site.

Priorities

A week or more back I put up a couple of posts on how to initially communicate with a dominant woman. Although strictly speaking I didn’t really do anything, other than posts some links to words from smarter people than myself. One post was on communication in a professional context and one was on initial communication in a lifestyle/regular context.

On the face of it the advice given in those two contexts is quite different. Much like an opening email to a doctor or a lawyer is very different to the opening email to a potential romantic partner. However, there was one commonality that struck me: In both cases kink and sex came a distant second. For a professional the first thing is figuring out are you a sane, reasonable person, with a sensible request, who isn’t going to waste the dommes time. For a lifestyle interaction, the first thing is much like regular dating. i.e. Will you add something positive to the domme’s life? What do you bring to the table? Are you interested in the her thoughts/opinions/feelings? Is their chemistry?

So I guess the lesson here is that if you want to get kinky with someone, start by deprioritizing kink. It’s a bit like wanting to have kids. That might be important to you, but if that’s the first and primary topic of conversation with any potential partner, most people are going to run the other way.

I’ve no idea what image best fits a post about not talking about kink. So here’s a somewhat random image I liked from the show The Americans.

americans I found this on the Submissive Proud tumblr.

Big Bang

Personally I’ve never been a fan of the sitcom ‘Big Bang Theory’. Despite the title it lacks sufficient geek humor for me. However, if you are a fan, and ever fancied the idea of Johnny Galecki and Kaley Cuoco in fetish gear, then today is your lucky day. Thanks to a very short dream sequence scene you get to see them in what they call a sex dungeon. I’m actually impressed with the set design involved. In the short video clip it looks pretty well equipped, using furniture they must have borrowed from a real play space.

bigbang This image was tweeted by Kaley Cuoco during the shooting.

Losers are losers

I found this recent study on online social dynamics fascinating. Researchers looked at people playing an online videogame (Halo 3) and measured success against their behavior across the genders. It turned out the men were generally complimentary to other male players. Successful men were also complimentary to female players. However, unsuccessful men tended to be nasty and rude to female players. So they were losers in all sense of the word.

This researchers conclusion was that a change in existing social dynamics – in this case an influx of new female players into a previously male dominated area – was a bigger threat to those near the bottom than those near the top. The lower status players had more to lose and hence reacted in an angrier fashion to those they perceive as responsible. This is a conclusion that fits with a lot of my personal observations of life. In a work environment it’s always the confident and expert individuals who are most open to being challenged and debating alternatives. People who are less sure of themselves see each challenge as a direct threat and react accordingly. One could probably do a similar analysis about economics, social classes and the current politics of America.

In the wider world it’s hard to know what the answer to this problem is. Anger from losing out when it comes to economics or social influence can be understandable. But when it comes to online interaction, whether it’s gaming, discussion forums or social media, there’s no excuse for being a douche. If you can’t not be angry then walk away. And if you see someone behaving obnoxiously then call them on it.

gaming This is by the artist Travis Estrella from his tumblr 1000 Pencils.

Doing it right

Excuse me while I indulge in another celebrity post. This time it’s Kendall Jenner in an outfit that makes for a nice contrast to Megyn’s one in yesterday’s post.

The fashion pages horribly overuse the term dominatrix when it comes to outfits. If any female celebrity steps out in any random black dress or sightly racy boots they call it dominatrix inspired (for example). However, I have to give Kendall Jenner credit here, this is a pretty good domme get-up. She would not look out of place in a dungeon attaching nipple clamps to horny sweaty men.

Of course that’s not say that you need to dress in leather or latex to have kinky fun or top someone. But I do think if newspapers are going to push the cliche of the dominatrix and her outfits, they should at least reserve it for people who have made some effort in that direction.

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Image is from this Daily Mail article.

Megyn

I’m generally not a fan of Megyn Kelly. She has had some good moments in the current election – like this highly entertaining one with Newt Gingrich – but in general she seems to only adopt a progressive viewpoint when it’s something that directly affects her. If it’s some other targeted group, then she hews to a far more right wing viewpoint.

That said, I really do like this shot of her. She has a very forceful look. I’m sure I shouldn’t be sexually fantasizing about a Fox News anchor, but I can’t help thinking of some great kinky fiction I could write about it.

I picture a naive liberal intern coming to work at Fox. He’s from a small town, nervous in the big city and awed by the people he meets. He can’t find a place to stay and so Megan takes pity on him and lends him a room in her palatial home. He’s a farm lad, useful with his hands, and offers to do a few chores around the place in return. It all starts out well enough, but Megan is becoming increasingly frustrated with the sexist and patronizing attitudes of her Fox co-workers. She starts to take it out on him, and the more she’s annoyed by Sean Hannity, the more she enjoys taking it out on our hero. As her career blooms, the cruelty increases and his life disintegrates. Ultimately she celebrates landing a new multi million dollar contract by imprisoning him in the basement and teaching him what trickle down economics is really about.

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No on Prop 60

A few days ago I wrote that I tried to avoid politics popping up too often on this blog. It turns out I might have lied about that, as I’m about to do another political post. For a change it’s not presidential politics, but local politics. Specifically, Californian politics in the form of proposition 60.

This proposed measure might have achieved something unique in American politics. It mandates that all adult performers would have to wear condoms when filming scenes and, in a country divided on so many other issues, has succeeded in uniting people. Specifically, in uniting people against it. As Casey Calvert points out in this excellent article, both the Californian Republican and the Californian Democratic party are opposed to it. As are adult performers, most major state newspapers, the Libertarian party, Aids Project LA, Equality California, the Transgender Law Center and the San Francisco Aids Foundation. When something has that eclectic a collection of opponents, you know something must be up.

There are a lot of messed up things about the proposed law, but one of the worst seems to be that anyone can sue a producer for a violation. And, given that many performers are also producers (particularly in the femdom genre), that casts a very wide net. Essentially any random weirdo could demand the personal information of anyone they can claim is violating the law. On top of that, if they can win their case, they get 25% of the penalty. Given all the movies already floating around that don’t use condoms, the frequent cross-over between producer/performer, the number of lawyers and weirdo’s in California, and the financial incentives involved, it seems like a recipe for disaster. And that’s not even getting into the issues of practicality and personal rights that Tasha Reign covers in this article.

As a Washington resident I don’t get to vote on this, but I’d urge all my Californian readers to vote no. In the meantime, I’ll use the excuse of mentioning Casey Calvert, to feature this rather lovely shot of her and Ariel X.

caseycalvert This is from the Foot Worship site.

So right, and yet so so wrong

I’ve been trying to avoid writing lots of posts on politics and the election. I have featured the occasional one or two, but I figure that people see enough elsewhere without it showing up here.

However, these comments today by Rush Limbaugh are too perfect and too applicable to this blog to ignore. In talking about Trump’s groping scandals and penchant for sexual assault, he said the following.

RUSH LIMBAUGH: You know what the magic word, the only thing that matters in American sexual mores today is? One thing. You can do anything, the left will promote and understand and tolerate anything, as long as there is one element. Do you know what it is? Consent. If there is consent on both or all three or all four, however many are involved in the sex act, it’s perfectly fine. Whatever it is. But if the left ever senses and smells that there’s no consent in part of the equation then here come the rape police. But consent is the magic key to the left.

This is so simultaneously correct and incorrect it seems to defy fundamental laws of physics. It’s a bit like the double slit experiment. Much as a photon can be both a wave and a particle, Rush can simultaneously highlight the importance of consent in sexual interaction while arguing against it. Although given a photon has zero resting mass, that’s an analogy that doesn’t stretch much further.

Presumably in his mind it’s better for a man to rape a woman in a good, healthy, as God intended, missionary position kind of way than for two (or three) dudes (or ladies) to fool around together consensually. I’ve no idea what kind of life experiences it takes to lead you to that kind of opinion, but I would be fascinated to know. It can’t be anything remotely normal or healthy. Somebody should also tell him that the ‘rape police’ are actually just the ‘police’.

I’ll leave you with an image I’m sure Rush would not approve of. Admittedly it does contain the morally approved count of 2 people of differing genders, but that doesn’t look like a conventional sex act. God created woman as a helper, not to ride man around like a beast. No matter how much fun it looks.

ride Based on this Italian Marie Claire article, I believe this image is from the site c.a.p. 74024.

Oh, and that double meaning in the post title? Totally intended.