Mistress – Page 15 – Femdom Resource

Fun toy

I discovered this amazing claw glove via a post on Selina Minx’s tumblr. While I’ve not played with this exact example (from Stronghold Leather), I have had many enjoyable experiences with similar toys. It’s a great way to blend sensuality with sadism. Apply most of the pressure with the hand, and it wakes the skin up with a caress and a light tingle. Shift the pressure to the claws, and it can raise painful red lines in its path. A flutter of the fingers is an exciting tickle. A vigorous stabbing tap dance across the body is a surefire way to generate a scream or two. The fact it feels like an extension of the dominants body makes it far more intimate and sensual than the usual spiky toys.

I sadly don’t have any images of this particular glove in use, but the second image is a nice example of some claws creating a reaction. The painful caress is something that pushes many of my buttons.

The first image is from Stronghold Leather. The second is Lexi Sindel from Femdom Empire.

More than just a waste product.

Via the eLust bulletin that pops up on various blogs periodically, I stumbled across this article on a couple having fun with golden showers. I enjoyed the sense of playfulness and curiosity that the author brought to both the scene and the article.

As far as activities go, I think piss play is a great illustration of just how complex kink can be. The act of urinating on someone can be sexualized in so many different ways. It can be degrading and humiliating, or it can be an act of worship. It can create great intimacy, or it can be objectifying. It can be wet messy fun, or an intensely fetishized bodily function. People attach an awful lot of meaning to what’s basically a way to eject waste water. For an edgy kinky activity it’s also surprisingly well known in the mainstream. I’d guess the percentage of people that know the term ‘golden shower’ is very high, while the percentage that have tried it is very low. That tells you something about the complexity of its appeal.

I’ll finish with a shot of a couple having fun with some pee of their own. It’s taken from a Japanese femdom series that has being floating around on the internet for years (I found this instance on the Wet Beehive tumblr). It looks like they’re in some sort of kitchen. I can only hope for their sake that a restaurant critic didn’t wander by during the shoot. I’ve got to think that you’d get at least one Michelin star knocked off for piss play in the kitchen.

Study in contrasts

I like this image, but I’m not sure why. I’m never a big fan of kinky images set in derelict urban environments. It seems such an impractical place to play, and I’ve no fantasies around getting tetanus shots. This combination of wrist rope bondage and a potentially suspended position (if he slips) also doesn’t look too clever. Even if this is really safer than it looks, I’d hate to think of anyone with limited BDSM experience trying to emulate it.

All that said, I think it does work well as an image. I’d guess it’s the contrast between Domina Liza’s very tailored and smart appearance, the obvious decay of the space and his naked, stretched and vulnerable pose.

Domina Liza is a UK based pro-domme. You can find out more about her at her main site. I found the image via the Dominalova tumblr.

Ante up

I played poker with a few friends tonight. It’s not a particularly serious game, and the stakes are low, but we’ve occasionally joked about throwing car keys into the pot when the action gets heated. Unfortunately nobody has ever brought along a naked slave girl to wager. I wonder what the matching bet here would be? Throwing in a slave’s chastity keys perhaps? It certainly doesn’t look like there’s enough money on the table. Personally I’d be pretty nervous betting against the seated lady. She looks the type who’d take her poker game a touch more seriously than we do.

I believe (based on the original tumblr caption) this is by the photographer Quae Vide (also here), although I can’t a copy it on that site. I originally found it via the Growl Bad Kitty tumblr. I think it’d make a great image to illustrate or inspire a kinky short story.

Spiky

I’m safely back in Seattle. A couple of games of Civ Revolution and many glasses of red wine kept me entertained while traversing the continent. Often on these kind of flights I’m nursing some bruises or tender spots from a session. Dommes seem to take an inordinate delight in making the hell of air travel even more uncomfortable for me. It’s almost as if they’re some kind of sadists. Fortunately, despite a couple of very enjoyable sessions with Miss Troy Orleans on the prior days, I didn’t have to contend with that particular issue this time.

I haven’t yet had time to track down some good post topics, so I’ll take the easy route and point at some interesting content elsewhere. D has a nice post up on using a dermaroller that caught my eye. I always enjoy discovering a new pervertible and this one looks like a lot of fun. Blending sensation play and pain is always a favorite of mine. The old school approach to this is the Wartenberg wheel, which might not be as intense or as versatile as a dermaroller, but does look beautiful. This is Mistress Varla using one in a K is for Kink shoot. I found it on Dishevelled Domina’s tumblr.

Heading home

Today is my last full day in NYC. I’ve got one more lunch lined up at a great restaurant, and then it’ll be 6 hours of reading books and starting at the back of an airplane seat. On the plus side, going home will hopefully allow me to get back to proper blogging rather than simply throwing up a few quick sentences and an entertaining image. And talking of which, here’s today’s dose of whatever caught my eye on tumblr. It shows a nice moment of tenderness together with an interesting alternative use for nipple clamps. I’m sure that right hand of hers is a guarantee of absolute attention from him.

I found this on the My Inner Domme tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution.

Multitasking

Here’s a man making himself useful. He’s holding her beer, cleaning her feet and providing a comfortable seat. If he could just hold that remote for her with his other hand and flip channels on request, he’d be perfect. As it is, she seems to be happy enough with the services on offer.

I found this on Freya’s Fancy tumblr. It’s originally from the Men are Slaves site.

Self-defense

This image caught my eye for the positioning of the hands. Him trying to protect himself and her trying to pull his hands away for a clear shot. It captures nicely that moment of balance where he wants to do what he’s told, but the instinctual need to protect a hurt area interferes.

This is originally from the Young Dommes site. I found it on the equally deep in your eyes tumblr.

Squeeze!

I’m having too much fun in NYC to blog properly. I’ll therefore stick to simply posting images I like. This one has a nice trio of facial expressions. It features Lexi Sindel and Lea Lexis and is from Femdom Empire. Personally while I like the C part of CBT, I’m not big on the B. That long drawn out ache is tough to deal with. I’d guess this guy is going to be living with the results of that squeeze for a while.

I found this on the Alternative Femdom tumblr.

Random datapoints

The relative proportions of dominants to submissives, and the splits along the gender lines, are a well debated topic. Not only are the ratios for active kinksters up for question, but there’s also the issue of how many potential kinky people there are, or even what the percentages would look like if society was less screwed up. It’s a topic I’ve commented on in the past.

It’s also a topic that’s horribly lacking in hard data, and I’m afraid I’m not about to fix that problem. However, I did do a small experiment recently that’s related and I thought kind of interesting. The methodology was pretty simple. I went to the CollarMe site, randomly looked at profiles (with the widest possible selection criteria), and counted the proportions I saw. It actually started as some random browing over a coffee, but after a few minutes I got curious about what I was seeing, and started a tally chart. To keep it simple I just counted straight singles who didn’t switch.

The end results, before I got bored counting, were: Male Dominants = 40. Female Submissives = 22. Male Submissives = 23. Female Dominants = 7. Of those 7 female dominants, the number who were pro-dommes = 6. Leaving me with a grand total of 1 non-professional female dominant.

Now that doesn’t tell us anything about the ratios in the real world. It’s just a small sample of the people who choose to advertise on a particular site. But I was interested in how accurately it matched my intuition of what the numbers would be. I expected male dominants to be the largest group, submissives to be fairly evenly split along gender lines, and female dominants to be rare. I just wasn’t expecting them to be that rare. The contrast of 40:1 across the gender divide is striking.

I have to admit it wasn’t always easy to differentiate the professionals from the lifestyle ads. A couple of what I classified as professional ads didn’t mention payment. However, when I see numerous well lit/composed photographs of an attractive lady modelling several different exciting leather outfits, the cynic in me tends to assume she’s a pro. The non-professional dominants are normally dealing with enough dick pic shots as it is, they don’t need to encourage the hairy knuckle brigade.

While I’m on the subject of exciting leather outfits modeled by professionals – and as an aside let’s just admit I’m a genius at subtle segues to my post images – here’s Dominatrix Ella Kros in a rather striking black ensemble.

If you’re in either Tel-Aviv or London and would like to session with Ella Kros then her contact page is here.