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Kiss Kiss Slap Whap

While I’d describe myself as both a submissive and a masochist, I’d always put my masochism before my submission. The D/s and power exchange components are a critical part of a scene for me, but it’s the pain that brings those elements into focus. I’m certainly not a service submissive. If you want something cleaned or tidied then I’ll be happy to hire you a housekeeper. I have better (for me) things to do.

As such, I’ve never made body worship a critical part of scenes I’ve done. This isn’t to say I don’t enjoy kissing a dominant woman’s feet, or ass, or indeed any part of her body that I’m allowed to touch. It can be a very pleasant experience, and one that helps achieve a certain initial head space. But it always struck me as a kind of BDSM foreplay. Nice to do if the domme wants to take the scene in that direction, but really just a happy bonus to the main event.

However, when playing with Domina Yuki last week, I discovered a quite new aspect of worship that made me view it in a very different light. We’d been doing some fairly intense pain play, whipping my back and then heavily torturing my nipples. As a result of this I was fairly deep in subspace, and feeling that wash of positive emotions I often get towards a dominant in that situation – gratitude, affection, caring, closeness, protection, etc. In the past this has often led me to thank the dominant, typically immediately after she’s done something particularly vicious to me. This has not been a rote thank-you, demanded as part of the scene, but an instinctive one, originating from my desire to acknowledge the emotions I’m feeling.

In this particular scenario, while experiencing these similar emotions, Mistress Yuki demanded that I kiss her ass. Suddenly, an act that was previously playful and erotic, had been transformed into something that was far more powerful. It created a physical manifestation of what I was feeling, and gave me an outlet for my emotions. Nothing at that moment was more important than those kisses and what they represented. She managed to create a perfect moment, intimacy mixed with submission, eroticism mixed with catharsis. I kissed and was profoundly grateful to do so.

A trip to see Domina Yuki

A couple of months ago I posted some shots of an interrogation scene featuring Domina Yuki. At the time I commented I was heading down to the bay area later in the year and was hoping to get a chance to see her in person. Well that chance arrived last week, and I had a couple of hugely enjoyable sessions in her San Francisco play space. Given we were just getting to know each other, and exploring numerous activities, we didn’t stop for lots of photographs. However, we did break once to snap a shot of a piercing she particularly enjoyed. I’ll warn you ahead of time – it’s a close-up of a genital piercing, with the skin folded in kind of an unusual way. Should that sound like something you might want to look at, the link is here.

Of course I can’t let a post referencing the beautiful Domina Yuki go by with a close-up of my cock as the only photograph around. That would be a missed opportunity of almost criminal proportions. So here she is in an image I lifted from her tumblr site.

I wrote up a review of my sessions over at the Max Fisch forums. And should you be interested in seeing her yourself, her session request form is here.

Happy Anticipation?

I always enjoy a happy looking natural domme. There’s nothing more exciting to me than a real sadist who gets off on what she’s doing. But I do hope in this image it’s a happiness born of anticipation, rather than an after the fact celebration. His ass looks like it’s had a nice warm-up, but it is far too unmarked and welt free to have fully experienced that cane she’s holding.

I found this on the SirCane tumblr site, which features caning and paddling in all gender combinations.

Ruined Orgasm Clips

I came across these on the cocosel tumblr site. They’re short clips from RobandJill.com, showing a nice mixture or teasing and ruined orgasms.

A standard clip of a woman masturbating a man has relatively little interest to me. It’s simply one of a million porn shots floating around out there. But by taking something away, having her stop at the critical point, it suddenly becomes very compelling.

There’s something very animalistic about the immediate lead up to orgasm for a man. Beyond a magic tipping point all the muscles just start doing their own thing, and everything automatically runs to a finish, with the higher brain functions just along for the ride. I think it’s this very primal response that makes a ruined orgasm so exciting. A little like breathplay, it’s messing with some very deep in-built mental wiring.

Whap!

I have a love hate relationship with CBT. Specifically I hate the B and love the C. The cock seems to have very proportional pain sensors, so it’s possible to build the sensations in a manageable way. In contrast the balls go through nothing…nothing…nothing….oh my god that hurts….please please stop.

This is a very compelling image. The latex catsuit is hot. The dynamic nature of the shot, with the descending crop, is great. And the bruised swollen balls, held in place by a humbler, are very attractive (in a strange BDSM sense). The only thing I don’t like is when I project myself into this situation. Because then I picture myself screaming like a stuck pig. And that’s minus several million points on the submissive scoring scale.

Too Fabulous?

Mistress Servalan recently posed a question I never expected to see from a pro-domme: Do I look too good in this shot?

The crux of the issue was truth in advertising. Should she pick the absolutely best shot of herself in the expectation it’ll attract more clients? Or should she pick more average shots in order to set realistic expectations for when people meet her in the less than perfect reality that exists outside the photographers studio?

The question itself struck me as a mildly interesting one. But I was even more interested it what it said about the person asking it. In a marketplace where stolen photographs and heavy photoshopping is common, here’s someone who is concerned she might appear dishonest by posting a genuine unedited photograph. That’s the kind of person I’d feel safe in entrusting with my physical welfare in intense situations (if only I lived somewhere vaguely close to Sidney, Australia).

Of course, after all this build up, I feel posting the image in question is only fair. My personal opinion is that yes, she does look absolutely fabulous, but it’s perfectly fair to post it on her site. Any idiot who’d walk away from a session with her is probably someone she can do without.

The anonymous submissive

This is a continuation of the F/f theme from my previous post. However, where the previous image was all about the D/s connection, and the eyes of the submissive, this image is all about the objectification of the submissive. There’s no face, just a blank mask. She’s even been disconnected from her own body by the heavy wooden collar, which objectifies the area of torture even further.

I’m not sure if this is a candid behind the scenes shot, where the domme has gone to get water for both of them during a break. Or if this is an in-scene shot, showing the domme going to grab a refreshing drink of water while she enjoys watching the submissive squirm and suffer. Or perhaps the best option of all, it is a timout for the domme and camera crew, but nobody has bothered to tell the submissive that. She’s forced to maintain her posture and twitch with the current while listening to her mistress take five and chat with the crew.

Note: On an entirely unrelated topic, I’m on vacation for a few days in San Francisco. I’ll try and post regularly, but apologies in advance if updates are a little more erratic than usual.

This image has floated around several tumblr sites, but it’s obviously originally from the very accurately named wired pussy.

Submissive Eyes

In past posts I’ve featured images that highlighted the beautiful eyes of some dominant women (for example here, here and here). This particular image caught my attention because of the submissive’s eyes. Over years of viewing BDSM porn I’ve seen a lot of different expressions on the faces of submissives – pleading, anger, suffering, humiliation, boredom, etc. This is one of the rare images that for me captures a sense of subspace. Her expression is slightly glazed and her eyes are wide, but not in any kind of shock or surprise. She’s connecting with the dominant, staring back at her, but with no sense of challenge or defiance. Her expression seems to capture a moment of acceptance, a complete transfer of power to the dominant. From a personal perspective, those kind of moments are the most satisfying and emotionally moving of any session I do.

I found this image on the Kneel Beg Crawl tumblr site. It was originally shot by Ryan St. Germain (although I can’t find it on his site anywhere). I believe the dominant is Maitresse Madeline (but I’m not 100% sure).

Housekeeping Issues

I spotted these two images on the Slaves of the Goddess tumblr site. They were in separate posts but they look like images taken from the same sequence from the under-feet.com site.

The first one struck me as kind of cute. She’s elegantly attired and is presumably returning after a day or night out with friends or possibly lovers. He’s eagerly awaiting her return at the door, knees getting sore on the hard floor and his jaw beginning to ache from holding the crop. There’s a nice owner/attentive pet vibe that comes off the image.

The second one, presumably taken a few minutes later, is not quite so cute. I’m assuming something in his housekeeping routine didn’t quite make the grade. I have heard that the old approach of ‘rub their nose in it’ isn’t a effective training technique for dogs. I’m guessing that’s a snippet of information that may have passed her by.

Poetry in motion. Pain on arrival.

This image first caught my eye for its composition. I think it’s beautiful balanced, with the angled and marked slave, the descending whip, the straight whip arm and the side-on posture of the mistress. I’m not entirely sure about that purple and black latex number that she’s sporting, but Cybill Troy typically looks great in pretty much anything.

However, once I’d got past the composition of the image and started examining the action itself, the masochist in me was both impressed and slightly scared. That’s a fairly serious single tail she’s applying at some speed to his cock and balls. Personally, I like being on the receiving end of a single tail. It can be a powerful instrument in a physical and psychological sense, but I can’t imagine how much it’d hurt to get one at speed across the head of the cock. Fortunately, thanks to this image, I no longer have to imagine what the after effects would look like. That has got to smart.

Images are taken from this scene on the K is for Kink site.