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Careful What You Wish For

The Guardian just carried a fine example of one of my favorite kinds of stories: Husband persuades a reluctant wife to open the marriage up to others via poly or swinging. Wife discovers she loves it and is desired by others. Husband discovers that middle aged average guys are not a hot property and now wants to walk the decision back. It’s a story as old as time.

I’ve lost track of how many variations of this plotline I’ve seen in agony columns and online forums. You’d think the frequency with which they appear would cause men to slow down, but apparently there is an inexhaustible supply of horny optimists out there.

It’s a great shame more guys aren’t into the cuckolding kink. If you can’t pull a new lover yourself, you might as well enjoy the fact your partner has. Life really should be better organized.

I believe this is originally from Divine Bitches.

Kinky Dating

The New York Times recently published an article on the Feeld dating app and its CEO Ms. Kirova. I’d not heard of it before, but apparently its becoming popular in kinky circles.

Feeld, which started as a dating app for couples and singles called 3nder in 2014, has, under Ms. Kirova’s leadership, positioned itself as a go-to for nonmonogamous, sex-positive and kinky people of all sexual orientations.

It’s also acquired a reputation as a space that fosters directness, something of a rarity in the dating-app world.

Its userbase is relatively small compared to the giants like Tinder and Grindr but, based on the article at least, it seems to be doing a passable job of encouraging clear communication while not turning into a cesspool of toxic content and sex crazed jerks. Although, sadly, there’s always going to be a non-trivial contingent of those in any online space (as the article highlights).  Be interested to hear if any of my readers have tried it.

Of course the time honored ways to meet a partner will never go entirely out of fashion. The beautiful image below is a wedding photograph for @nivalislava. According to the twitter thread I sourced it from they originally met at college. It’s fetish rather than femdom, but I love it just the same.

Bridge Variation

I’m not sure if this’d be a good or bad pose for my wonky lower back, but I’d  be willing to give it a shot. My yoga teacher has done a lot of bridge variations with me, but sadly none have featured genital bondage and electroshock therapy.

This was posted by the fabulous Elise Graves. Funnily enough, I remember doing a scene with her in Seattle a few years back where she grabbed my genitals and  pulled hard to ‘encourage’ me into a bridge pose. Clearly it’s a position she enjoys inflicting. I don’t remember getting quite the same back arch as @UtmostRestraint has managed here.

You can see a lot more from Elise on her Bondage Liberation Site.

Swinging in the Desert

Twitter remains a great place to stumble on new and interesting content, despite Elon’s efforts to screw it up. For example, I present the spectacular shots below that were posted by Temptress Pixie.  I love the drama of these. Dramatic setting can often clash or detract from kinky shots, but in these the brutality of the setting complements the scene beautifully. You can see the original full resolution shots, along with additional photographs, in this and this tweet.

Pony Fun

Fans of Pony Play might want to check out the stories of I. Binder, some of which are available on Gagged Utopia. The site seems broken in a bunch of places, but you can see a number of them listed under the PonyPlay tag here. For example, this, this, this and this. Looks like there’s also some on Amazon if you wish to purchase them.

I’m not sure it’d be a kink I’d want to indulge during an actual session. Too old and too many wonky back muscles for pulling people around. However, the fantasy is nice and the I. Binder stories are very well written. They got me interested in a kink that had never really clicked with me before.

I sourced this image from Madam is All tumblr. Reverse image searching didn’t give me any leads, but I believe that’s Mistress Trinity, an NYC based pro-domme.  I previously featured an image that looks to be from the same shoot here.

A Fine Tradition

October brings the return of a fine tradition to the femdom community. No, not Locktober. I’m talking about the Femdom Ball in London as organized by the Nubian Matriarch.

I’ve covered it in the past (posts for 2017 and 2019) but this year the pictures from it have been particularly striking. Not sure if they upped the professional photography coverage or everyone was just being particularly fabulous. Either way I’ve been enjoying the images and thought I’d share 10 of my favorites here. Wherever possible I’ve tried to provide links to professional sites rather than just social media.

Finally, here’s a couple of group shots to finish with, taken from this tweet and this one. Looks like a really amazing event!

Dating by Meta

Social media is pretty bad at the best of times. However, that’s never stopped the social media companies doing the damnedest  to make it worse. Facebook used to be poster child for this, but Musk and Twitter have recently usurped them in doubling down on dumb ideas. In a valiant effort to reclaim the crown, Meta recently launched a Facebook/Instagram AI dating coach called Carter. It’s just what you always wanted – a dating coach from a bunch of nerds that learnt all it knows from cesspit of social media feeds.

Of course, given it comes from the famously puritanical Meta, it’s into kink shaming. It throws up a red flag if you want to talk about kinks and fetishes. The only exception, according to this Gizmodo article, is foot fetishism. So either the Meta folk behind it are really into feet or they’re incompetent prudes who forget to censor one of the most common kinks.

I’m afraid I don’t have a source for this image.

Teaching an Old Pony New Tricks

This striking image is unusual in a few different ways. Heavy bondage, forniphilia, objectification, breathplay and electroplay aren’t uncommon on their own, but I’m not sure I’ve ever seen them combined quite like this. There’s even some candles, making waxplay another possibility. The wrapped submissive figure makes for an eye catching table center piece.

The other unusual thing about this image is who it features. This is Mistress Michelle Lacy with DrPonyBatBond. If those name seem familiar, then it might be because they’ve featured here in past posts. DrPonyBatBond has commissioned a lot of great artists over the years to portray him and Mistress Lacy in pony play scenes. Past examples include this, this and this. I don’t think I’ve ever seen them in a non-artwork, non-pony image before.

You can see the original full size image here on Michelle Lacy’s twitter feed. Her professional site can be found here.

I’m sadly not aware of a definitive source for all artwork DrPonyBatBond commissioned in the past. That’s a shame, as there was a lot of great work there.

Properly Rested

Getting sick and sessioning (or not) reminded me of the time back in 2014 where I unsuccessfully tried to combine the two. The idea was to use the session high to carry me through the unpleasantness of whatever bug I had. That turned out not to be a good plan. You’ve only so much energy, so you can either power your immune system or your masochism, but not both.

It’s surprising just how much energy it takes to session. For most of mine I’m barely moving while the domme does all the work of poking, slapping, prodding, etc. Yet the stress and physical reactions still take a lot out of me. The nervous system and body are constantly being make to react and respond.

Most general guides to kinky play and pro-domme sessions will suggest ensuring that you’re properly rested, hydrated and fed. That can seem like boilerplate instructions, particularly when most activities seem low physical effort, but I think it can really make a difference to the post-session glow. Go in with low energy or low capacity and the subsequent crash can be hard.

Of course some sessions can be more exhausting than others. For example, if your domme turns up with a saddle in hand, it probably doesn’t matter how well rested you are. It’s going to be a long day.