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More Milking

My previous post on the Tremblr device reminded me that I’d previously posted a link to a review of the Serious Kit milker. However, hunting through my old posts didn’t turn it up, so I’m guessing it was lost in the great crash of ’22.

For completeness let me therefore share it again. It’s a detailed video review by Audrey Fatale and can be found here on YouTube. Well worth checking out if you’re thinking of splurging (in all senses of that word) for such a device.

This is the lovely Mistress Fatale, sporting another of her fiendish medical devices. This shot – sourced from her twitter feed – seemed appropriately symmetrically with the previous one of Domina M. Two amazing dommes sporting classic medical whites and a hint of a smile.

Mistress Fatale is a Melbourne based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and twitter feed here.

Tremblr Review

If you’re interested in milking machines and forced orgasms then you might want to check out this review of F-Machine’s Tremblr by Domina M. She’s given it a pretty lengthy test over a 3 year period and seems to be generally impressed. It’s an expensive bit of kit at almost 500 Euros, but that seems comparable to competition like the Venus 2000 and cheaper than the Serious Kit Milker.

This is Domina M in vintage nurse whites, sourced from her twitter feed. Whatever type fluid she need to get out of or into you, I think you can be confident she’ll have the right tools for the job.

Pet Play

This NY Post story and this associated YouTube video introduced me to a new type of pet play – highly realistic and expensive animal suits. The one featured in the story came in at $14,000. You can see more on the owner’s twitter account. As far as I can tell it’s not a kinky thing for him, just a type of roleplay or cosplay. Although where this cosplayer leads, I’m sure inspired kinksters will be sure to follow.

In the meantime, if you’re into the not realistic pups, but do prefer the kinky alternatives, then you might want to check out Mockingbird Leather. They produce some lovely looking pet crawler sets like the one below.

This is from their twitter feed and available to purchase at what seems a very reasonable price.

The Smothering Dream

This image might not be quite what you’d expect for that title on this blog. It’s by Chinese photographer Yushi Li and is from a series she’s entitled “Paintings, Dreams and Love”. It was created in reference to a Dutch painting from 1888 entitled The Roses of Heliogabalus.

While the smothering might not be the type normally featured here, I do love the image. It has a particularly dream like quality to it. Yushi Li created the series in response to the eroticism of classical paintings, typically created by men and objectifying women. She places herself in the image for a good reason…

After some mistook her work as being shot by a male photographer, she began inserting herself into the photos — fully clothed alongside naked counterparts, and often the only person looking directly at the camera.

“Instead of being a passive, ‘looked-at’ thing, I want to be the one who is in control, who is creating the story, who is expressing my fantasy,” said Li.

You can see more images from the artist at her main site.

Artificial Leather

I continue to be intrigued by the progress of AI image creation. My anecdotal observation is that erotic image creation is lagging behind the best general examples right now, probably because the main tool creators are keen to avoid the legal/PR controversies that explicit imagery is likely to lead to.

That said, there are some good kinky examples around. For example, I like the shot below, published here on the Strict Dresscode Enforced account. You still might guess it was AI – the background is kind of wonky and the leather a bit too shiny – but despite that it’s a really well done example. There’s enough detail and nice touches that my brain doesn’t instantly reject it as unreal.

As I wrote before, I think kinky creators have a natural advantage here over regular porn. While straight porn is hard to mistake for anything else, kinky porn can sometimes look like something from a mainstream movie. This shot could be femdom or it could be a scene from the latest Netflix thriller. That ambiguity should allow kinky content creators access to the latest and greatest tools without running into censorship issues.

Sade

Anyone interested in the history of BDSM and located near Barcelona may want to check out a new exhibition at the CCCB – Sade: Freedom or Evil. As the name suggests it’s about the Marquis De Sade, the eponymous root of sadism. For those not in the area there’s a good review of it in the Guardian.

The exhibition features not just his work but also modern artists, including Maplethorpe, Dali and Susan Meiselas photographs of Pandora’s Box. It all sounds very interesting, which is more than I can say for Sade’s actual writing. That always struck me as repetitive and frequently nauseating. I can appreciate extreme kinky fiction, but there’s a level or brutality in his writing that verges more on serial killer fiction than erotica.

I’ll finish with a photograph of a very different type of Sade. This is Ms Sade, who used to work as a pro-domme in NYC. It’s one of my lasting regrets that I never got to play with her before she retired. She was quite the artist herself.

Domme Barbie

The Barbie movie opens this weekend. For a movie about a child’s toy, it seems to have taken on an outsized cultural significance. Part of that is doubtless down to its juxtaposition with Oppenheimer, part down its very well chosen stars in Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling.

While the Barbie aesthetic doesn’t often cross over into BDSM, there’s certainly a lot of traffic the other way. There are countless Goth Barbie creations, with wardrobe and accessory sets straight out of the nearest dungeon. I particularly liked the one below, shared by Mistress Chloe.

Fixing Things

After my previous post on what not to do in a session, I thought I’d follow it with a more positive one. Namely, if things do go wrong, what are some good approaches to fix the situation.

Before doing that, I’ll add two important qualifiers. Firstly, these aren’t my brilliant ideas. These are what I’ve observed creative and talented dommes do in my sessions with them. Secondly, I’m purely talking about mechanical issues here. When the battery dies, the body won’t bend or the rope just won’t cooperate. Not issues in the scene dynamic or emotions. Those are a far trickier set of problems that are above my paygrade.

Those qualifiers out the way, here’s three tricks I’ve seen successfully employed when a domme’s plan A has failed…

Playfully blame the submissive and use that to pivot the activity. A tongue in cheek – “Well look what you’ve done now!” – remark when the clip leaps off for the third time can a great excuse to set-up a new activity. After all, if I can’t keep those clamps on my nipples, it’s only fair she kicks me in the balls a few times. Most people don’t like being blamed unfairly, but a playful funishment for something that’s obviously not the submissives fault can be a nice way to shift gears and get away from the problem.
Shift into problem solving mode, making the submissive simply part of the puzzle to be cracked. The objectification part of this can be very hot. Suddenly there’s not a one-on-one dynamic. It’s just a domme figuring out how to make some recalcitrant equipment do the right thing. I’m no more or less important than the hard points, ropes or carabiners.
Ditch the problematic activity, shift gears to something totally different and loudly announce that fact. Most submissives will be so excited at the prospect of the new thing, they’ll totally forget whatever wasn’t working. If a domme announces she’s going to stop trying to get her humbler to fit me and instead is going to sit on my face, I’m not going to be lying there, struggling for breath and thinking to myself – “I wish we were still fiddling around the wingnuts on that humber. That was so much more fun than this.”

Speaking of face sitting, here’s some courtesy of the Mistress Land site. I don’t know what activity they were doing 10 minutes prior to this, but I think it’s a safe bet that he’s no longer thinking about it.

When a Scene goes Wrong

Kink Academy has a decent article here on what to do – or not do – when a scene goes wrong. The basic message is communicate, don’t blame and don’t forget the aftercare. All solid suggestions.

One ‘don’t’ that I’d add to that list, particularly for dommes, is don’t get angry. Faux anger in the context of a roleplay is obviously fine. I’m talking about losing your cool because the equipment isn’t working, or the subs body will not cooperate with the position or you can’t get the rope just the way you want it. I totally understand the desire to get mad in these situations. I curse like a sailor if some fiddly thing I’m trying to do isn’t working out. However, in a scene that’s all about the giving and taking of control, a domme that loses her own self-control is a red flag for me. I want her to be in charge, not her temper. If she can’t control that, then I don’t feel comfortable with her controlling me.

While I’m sure many dommes would love to grab particularly annoying submissives by the throat, this isn’t a recommended approach to resolving issues in a scene. I dug this image up via on an old tumblr archive, but some research took me to it’s source – a staging of Märta Tikkanen’s book ‘Men cannot be raped’.

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