Tag: Photograph

Life’s Rich Tapestry

Warning: A sad blog post ahead. Not this specific on. I mean this one from Mistress Simone. It’s on her experiences with her submissives that have passed away. A thought provoking and moving post.

I was going to follow it up by commenting on how complex the pro-domme and client relationship is. But that’s not entirely true. I’d hate to put off nervous potential clients by over over-emphasizing that aspect of the dynamic.

They can be very simple. A mutually beneficial but limited interaction where someone scratches a kinky itch and someone else earnings a living. They can be delightful but ephemeral. The stars align, it’s magical, and then you never manage to meet again. They can be boring and unfulfilling. I’ve had a sessions – admittedly just a few out of many hundreds – that I thought were just meh. The chemistry isn’t there and you have to move on. And occasionally, as Mistress Simone describes, they can be deep, long lasting and complex. Like most relationships, you never know what you’ll find until you try.

This is Mistress Simone as featured on her professional site. She’s a Chicago and Saint Loius based pro-domme. You can find more of her thoughts via her twitter,  blog and prodcast.

Cabinet of Curiosities

I love this shot of shelves of shiny toys posted by Ms Estelle Leon. It has a touch of sci-fi, a suggestion of a medical museum and most than a dash of a David Cronenberg film set.

It’s also fun to pick out which ones I’ve played with and which remain still to be sampled. Versions of most of the pinchy, bindy or inserty things have been on or in me at some point. The Kali’s teeth device in the bottom right gives me particularly happy memories of playing with Domina Yuki. My most significant omission is probably the various chastity devices. Still yet to try playing with one of those.

Ms Estelle Leon is a Melbourne based professional dominatrix. You can find her primary site here and her twitter here.

Fun for all Concerned

There’s one particular type of femdom shot I never enjoy. It’s the ones where it looks like the domme isn’t having any fun. I don’t mean shots where the domme looks angry or displeased. Getting mad at someone – even if its only roleplaying – can be cathartic. I mean ones where it’s hard to imagine what the domme is getting out of the scene.

Foot worship shots can be some of the worst for this. A respectful kiss or a shoe shine scene can be sexy. Even face tramping has appeal from a masochist/sadist perspective. But there’s a lot of shots out there where the primary adjectives that spring to my mind are slobbery, sticky and bored.

Here’s a great counter-example of a foot worship scene done right. Everyone looks like they’re getting something out of it. There’s even some grapes on the side for her to snack on while getting her feet massaged and cleaned. It’s all very thoughtful.

I’ve afraid I don’t know who this is or who created it. If you can help with an attribution, please let me know via a comment.

Update: Thanks to two helpful commenters, I’m attributing this to Rina Trevi. I haven’t found the original version to prove it 100%, but this seems correct.  She’s an Austin based vulnerability coach. You can find her Twitter here and professional site here.

Beauty and the Beast

At a quick glance I thought this image belonged to the genre: “Hot domme in fetish gears hangs out in gritty urban environment to create interesting study in contrasts.” It’s not a major kinky genre, but there are a few examples around. For example, this one from the late great Mistress Adrienne.

However, on looking more closely, there’s a pretty clear sign it’s not your average urban environment. That hooded naked man locked away in the pen for one. There’s something particularly sexy about over the top bondage. Adding extra control when it’s not needed makes it so much hotter. In this case to go along with the bars on the door there’s the thick chain hooked outside, the leather hood and the locked hands in mittens. Lovely.

The hot domme in question here is Mistress Trinity accompanied by Heavy, sourced via this tweet. Unfortunately, the space is at Studio Avalon, which AFAIK closed in 2020.

Updated thanks to a helpful comment: The space is probably Residenz Avalon, rather than the studio. Unfortunately, it’s also no longer around. You can see a video from what used to be here.

Perverted Pup

I’ve a bit late to the table with this Onion article from 2013: Masochist Dog Enjoys Being Walked Around On Leash While Naked. However, it made me smile and I figure there’s no time limit on humor.

According to neighbors living near local French bulldog Ruggles, the humiliation-loving canine apparently derives intense pleasure from being stark naked, clipped to a movement-constricting leash, and paraded around in public.

This gentleman clearly shares some of Ruggles perversions. Hopefully, he at least doesn’t leave his walker little presents on the grass outside.


I found this via the Madame is All tumblr. A bit of digging around led me to the original source – Troupe of Slaves and specifically this section.

The Goons

If you’ve hung out on Femdom social media, particularly around online or clips only dommes, you’ve probably heard the term gooning. I’d always assumed it was just another phrase for edging and something exclusively kink / femdom related. Either that or a 1950’s British comedy show. It’s easy to get the two mixed up.

However, according to this Vice article, it’s much broader than that, encompassing mainstream porn as well. Men – and it always seems to be men – setup Goon caves complete with multiple screens and endless streaming porn. The article quotes a clips4sale representative calling it the first major new fetish of the 2020’s.

I definitely understand the appeal of the edge. Denial can be delicious, even if it’s self-denial. Not so sure about the idea of a goon cave, although I guess it’s no sillier than a space called a dungeon filled with equipment modelled after ancient torture devices.

Of course, some people lean more heavily into the denial than others. Take this lady for example.

All I could think of when I saw this was ‘Deserves got nothing to do with it.’ Captioning courtesy of the always entertaining Servitor.

Hooded Prisoner

Continuing the theme of masks and hoods in femdom shots, here’s another nice example. I think this works because everything fits with the dynamic of the scene. The cuffs, the hood and the background all suggest a prison setting. It’s an up close and personal interrogation and she’s probably not on familiar terms with the Geneva convention.

After a bit of hunting around I believe this is from the Paraphilia51 clips site.

Roped and Masked

One of the common problems of femdom porn is the use of silly hoods for submissives. When used appropriately hoods can be super hot thanks to their objectifying nature. However, they’re often just simple balaclavas or loose gimp masks being used to hide the identity of the amateur/volunteer submissive. See my past two posts for some thoughts on that topic.

Here’s a good example of how hotness can be preserved while still masking identity. I’ve actually no idea if that was part of the goal here, or if this setup was purely about the look and sensory experience. Either way, it’s a very sexy shot that shows faceless submissive aren’t mutually exclusive with  sensual imagery. The heavy knot where his mouth is makes for a particularly nice touch.

This was created by the professional rigger and domme Mari Cherry, based out of San Francisco. I sourced it from this tweet. You can find her primary site for booking sessions here.

More on Paying the Talent

My last post linked to a thread on paying (or not) male submissives performing in femdom porn. In digging through the replies I’ve been bemused by some of the responses from dommes. A non-trivial number have a vehement reaction against it. An almost visceral level of disgust to the very idea. For example, I give you this thread or  this one or replies to it like this one.

To be clear, I think it’s fine to use whatever business model works for you, provided it’s legal and consensual. Not all forms of compensation are monetary. If there are submissives who want to film for free, or even pay for the privilege, and customers willing to buy the resulting content, then have had it! The output might not be what I want to buy, for reasons I outlined in the previous post, but there are plenty of other potential customers out there.

What I think is weird is professionals getting upset at the idea of other professionals. Twitter is full of content producers posting about what hard work it is to make great kinky content. There’s a lot of emphasis on the fact that it takes much time and effort to get right, significant skills are involved and that it’s not sexy fun times for those involved. So why not a professional submissive? Everyone knows that male talent in regular porn gets paid. Same story for female talent in all forms of porn. So why the reaction to the very idea of paying male talent in kinky porn? There might be plenty of volunteers for the sub role, but that fact often shows in the final content. You get what you pay for. Or, in this case, don’t pay for.

This is two professionals – Beretta James and Dominic Pacifico – shooting for Divine Bitches. The kink.com company definitely had their problems, but they did at least pay their talent.

Paying the Talent

Deviant Kade kicked off an interesting discussion with the tweet below. You can browse the thread here along with the quote tweets.

When I see Dommes make slaves pay to be on film, I die a little inside.
If you are using subs for your business they should be paid for their time and energy to make you content. Don’t be greedy. Share, and your subs will give you better content when they feel appreciated.

Reading the replies it’s surprising how many different approaches there are. Some dommes charge the sub, some don’t charge but also don’t pay, some only film with personal subs or trusted clients, some do hire professionals and pay them, etc.

For me the biggest issue with non-professional submissives is the weird pairs it can often lead to. There’ll be a young and gorgeous domme in great shape playing with a balding overweight dude whose twice her age. It takes me out of the dynamic, because I keep wondering why these two would ever be together. I want to watch a fantasy of femdom – not something that feels like a pro-domme / client session.

Of course there are ways to make that kind of disparate pairing work: A butler and a rich young mistress. A twisted daddy / cruel daughter scene. A sugar babe gone bad. The sadistic nurse and her helpless older patient. Unfortunately, all too often simply looks like an older man paying a hot domme to do mean things. Which is fun when I’m the older man in question, but less fun to watch.

This is Mistress T and Deviant Kade goofing about after filming a scene at Femdom Empire. According to Mistress T in the blog post I sourced it from – “He’s one of the best, if not THE best ‘son’ I’ve filmed with for my family fantasy scenes.”