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Getting Picked, a How To Guide

Miss Pearl (via Bluesky) pointed me towards this excellent Reddit  post. It’s a guide for what a submissive needs to do in order to get picked by a domme for kinky shenanigans. The advice is practical and to the point. I particularly like this bit…

A long lasting relationship is built on two people knowing the flaws, weaknesses, needs, wants, prejudices and shames of one another and loving each other anyway, in spite of and perhaps because of them. But you’re not looking to build a long lasting relationship, you’re looking to get picked, and that means you need to look at yourself critically, identify any undesirable quirks, needs or idiosyncrasies and remove them: with scalpel, Brillo pad or peroxide until you’re a perfect, digestible sphere.

Let’s be honest. Who hasn’t always wanted to hone themselves into a perfect, digestible sphere? Mmm … Spheres.

I’m sure if you carefully follow the posts advice you’ll soon be under your very own leather clad kinky Goddess. Probably. Possibly.

Long in the tooth kinksters such as myself may recognize this as an image from the 90’s and Cruella magazine.

Accessorizing

What caught my eye in this image wasn’t the latex, bondage and milking device, yummy though all those things are. It wasn’t even Lady Delphine’s shiny and beautiful bottom or cascading red hair. What caught me eye was the crutches and eye chart on the wall. I can’t imagine they’d ever be useful for a scene, but they do add the appropriate ambience. It’s always nice to see the extra little touches that people bring to a playspace.

This was sourced via Lady Delphine’s Bluesky feed. She’s a Toronto based pro-domme. If you’re interested in experiencing her healing hands yourself, then her professional site is here.

I Want Your Sex

A film featuring Olivia Wilde as a domme who pegs, spanks and bullies her junior assistant sounds like a winner. That’s the premise of the erotic comedy ‘I Want Your Sex’ which recently premiered at the Sundance festival. Unfortunately, the reviews so far (Daily Beast here and Guardian here) are mid to poor, which is a shame. Still, any movie that features Wilde as a sociopath in revealing outfits of leather, latex, high heels and chainmail (as the Daily Beast puts it) can’t be all bad. Maybe worth a stream once it makes it to a wider distribution.

This is Olivia Wilde attending the Sundance Premier.

Pillar Bondage

This beautifully composed image comes courtesy of Contessa Klaudia Keys. It’s not the most complicated bondage, but it’s visually very satisfying. There’s something quite objectifying about being bound to a building pillar like this. iIt makes him part of the room.

Contessa Klaudia Keys is a Montreal based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Bluesky feed here.

Hostage Situation

In theory this might make a good candidate for my occasional ‘Fetish or Fashion?‘ series. Unfortunately, I’ve no idea which of those it is. I found it on tumblr and reverse image search has (as usual these days) failed me. Google’s stupid AI system claimed the man was Kevin Costner at the Golden Globes, so that’s clearly a few billion dollars well spent there.

Personally, I’d guess fashion. It strikes me as the kind of thing someone like Helmut Newton might shoot for a fashion magazine, but I’ve no way of telling for sure. He’s wearing a tuxedo but with a black tie rather than a bow tie, so that seems like a bit of a fashion faux pas. Perhaps that’s why she has tied him down. Is she explaining how to dress properly for a formal event?

Taint Zapper

A device for administering electrical shocks to a man’s taint is par for the course on this site. Just another Tuesday.

However, the one featured in this Verge article is a little different. Allegedly it’s not designed as a BDSM toy at all. Instead it’s intended to help men avoid premature ejaculation. I guess it’s the high tech equivalent of thinking of cricket/baseball scores. A distracting zap at the right moment to take your mind off other more pleasant things. Apparently it can also enhance orgasms. As a fan of electrical play and getting zapped in delicate spots, I’m not at all surprised by that.

Mistress Matisse had a bit of fun with it in a post to Bluesky. She thinks they could have saved years of research and millions of dollars by just asking a domme about Tens units. However, to be fair, it seems a lot of the time and cost was down to the FDA demanding it pass their complicated tests for clearance. That’s something BSDM toys don’t have to worry about (yet).

This is a shot of Princess Donna using a slightly less sophisticated electrical device. While I’m sure it’ll be distracting and definitely prevent premature ejaculation, I doubt the FDA would approve. It’s obviously from the Men In Pain site.

If you’re interested in the device featured in the Verge article then I believe this is their website.

Alternative Playspace

The image below isn’t a trendy new loft in Soho but the new gorgeous new playspace of Mistress Adreena Angela. It’s cool, sleek and unlike any professional playspace I’ve seen before. There is a sturdy eyelet set into the beam, but other than that there’s nothing to raise the eyebrows of an unsuspected guest. Or at least not until you look at this second shot, which does have a kinky accessory in play.

I’ve mentioned before that I enjoy playing in alternative spaces to dungeons. Anyone can get their kinky freak on in a dark dungeon space surrounded by BDSM equipment. It feels more taboo and illicit to do it in a space that lacks that vibe. I suspect playing here would create a similar frisson.

I was lucky enough to play with Mistress Adreena a few years back. I’ll definitely be aiming to do so again in this new space next time I’m in London.

Mistress Adreena is a London based pro-domme and you can find her professional site here. These images were sourced via a Twitter post.

Moving from the bad place

Circe has provided some useful suggestions for encouraging people to move from the bad place (aka Twitter) to Bluesky. There’s a list for sex workers and one for clients. Worth sharing if you’re on social media.

I have to admit I find it frustrating when people complain a bunch about Trump, Musk and the current political climate, but then exclusively post on Musk’s Twitter. I get posting to both if your livelihood depends on Twitter views, but at least provide the same content on Bluesky.

I do still occasionally scan Twitter, given that a lot of dommes continue to use it exclusively. But I refuse to post, hit like or otherwise engage with it. I’ve struggled with my linking policy. I hate sending anyone there but I also hate not attributing content. My compromise is to try and find any alternative link I can provide, whether that’s Bluesky, Instagram, Reddit or whatever. Only if there’s literally no alternative will I link. If a content creator is exclusively sharing content there, I figure I either need to live with that link or not share the content.

Circe is a professional girlfriend based in London. You can find her Bluesky here and her professional site here. While she’s not a domme, I figure a lovely image of a gorgeous woman is never unwelcome. The visual stories she has on her site are unusual and beautiful. Well worth checking out.

The right amount of comfy

There’s something particularly hot about a small beaten up bed in a big cage like this. If a cell looks too comfy then it gives off the wrong vibe. But if it looks too minimal then it runs into my inner realist. I know my 50 year old back and knees couldn’t survive on a cold concrete floor with just a thin blanket for company. This kind of bed strikes just the right note of rickety uncomfortableness. Plus, those metal legs give nice attachment points for the chains.

I located this via tumblr. The domme is obviously named Healah Sin. However, her website is defunct and I can’t find any active social media presence. So I’m guessing she’s retired.

Happy 2026

Crazy to think we’ve reached 2026. That seems like the kind of date I’d see in a Sci-Fi novel not on a calendar. Shame it has turned out to be the dystopian kind of Sci-Fi.

Anyway, let’s not end this crazy year on a down note. Hope everyone has a great 2026, with as much kink as you body and spirit can safely handle. However you plan to celebrate the new year – whether it’s out to a party or, like this lady, spending a night in with a glass of wine and a good book – I wish you well. May the new year bring good things.

I found this on tumblr. Google once again failed me on reverse image searching, but I’m pretty sure that’s Mistress Charlotte Douleur. She’s a London based pro-domme.