Happy New Year!

Wishing all my reader an amazing and kinky 2025. If you’re the kind of person to make resolutions for the New Year, then I hope they prove productive and achievable.

Personally, I’m hoping to travel and play more this year. I made that pledge last year and was partially successful. I did get down to LA and SF, and I did get to play once again with the fabulous Domina Yuki. However, I didn’t get back to Chicago or NYC and, if I’m honest, I still didn’t session as much as I’d aimed to. So, still more work to do there.

It’d be fun to pick a new activity to try, but I think that depends so much on who I play with. Certain scenes lend themselves to certain dommes. Maybe I can just aim to try at least one new thing and figure out what that should be when I figure out a session schedule. Puppy play maybe? That’d be a new one.

I’m afraid I’ve been unable to track down the source for this.

The Pain Lab

The post title sounds like the playspace of a particularly high tech and sadistic Domme. That sounds even more believable when I tell you that the lab in question features a fantasy VR world that can inflict pain via electric shocks. Sadly, as this Guardian article describes, it’s not staffed by leather clad sadists but by scientific researchers in Oxford. The professor in charge there has the following to say about pain.

It’s also fundamental to the notion of who we are. Nothing else ties you to your own body, to the present moment. I’d argue that pain is the requirement that precipitated the evolution of movement. Even an amoeba knows the most important thing is not to get squashed.” Like amoebae, humans spend pretty much every waking moment trying not to get squashed or hurt either.

I think that means that the masochists among us are evolving faster than everyone else. It’s not a weird kinky sex thing – it’s a project of self-improvement. I look forward to growing some handy extra appendages next time I get some needles shoved through a delicate body part.

Here’s a medical professional looking like she’s well equipped to push the scientific boundaries of pain research. With your help of course.

I believe this is Vivian Rose in a fetish shoot for Gagged Fantasy.

Encouragement

I was amused to read in this comment that ‘forced bi’ is being replaced by ‘encouraged bi’ on clips sites. Apparently  forcing is another one of those things the payment processors frown upon.

As silly changes go, it’s not the worst one they could have done. After all, there are lots of ways to encourage someone. I’ve always found a whip provides an excellent means of encouragement. Particularly if it’s used in conjunction with bondage, just to ensure the submissive sticks around for the maximum amount of encouragement possible. Just be careful the submissive doesn’t feel so encouraged he has to pass out.

Of course, some dommes don’t have to resort to such crude means. With the right kind of positive attitude, a kind word might be all that’s needed.

Captioned image courtesy of the ever imaginative Servitor over at Contemplating the Divine.

Traditional Roles

Continuing the theme of kinks of the year: Vice has an article based on Pornhub’s end of year summary. Unlike the Clips 4 Sales report, chastity and cuckolding are nowhere to be seen. Instead it’s the usual porn categories you’d expect. This part of the Vice article did make me laugh…

Stepmom is on there because the weird trend of people wanting to have sex with people related to them by marriage has not subsided just yet, but according to the rankings, it is down two spots from last year. Let’s hope it keeps plunging until we scrub our pornography of any kind of familial relation.

Not sure that marital relationship kink is the real target here. Stepmom is only there because credit card processors force creators to use that as a substitute for the more boundary pushing ‘mom’. No doubt the squeamish article writer would be even more perturbed by that fact.

The other thing that caught me eye was the fact people are searching for ‘tradwife’ content. This is based on the trend of women pretending to be very traditional 50’s housewives in social media videos. I say pretending because it all seems highly performative and somewhat fetishistic. It’s roleplaying by people who are either already wealthy or are making money as influencers. You know, just like typical 50’s housewives did.

I’m not sure what tradwife porn would look like. Missionary position in a dark room? That’s after spending all day making your own lube from scratch of course.

Of course, I’m not against a little traditional roleplay now and again. It’s just a lot more fun to switch it up a bit.

This is from the ‘In a Parallel Universe’ series by Eli Rezkallah.

That Time Again

It’s that time of year again. The lights are on the trees, Celine is blasting in the stores and clip sites are coming out with their end of year kinky reports. It’s a time honored tactic for attracting clicks and associated articles, and I’m happy to join that party.

The Clips 4 Sale site has announced their fetish of the year and it’s Chastity. That’s kind of funny for a clips site that’s all about getting off. The runners up are Gooning and Cuckolding. There’s a certain theme developing with those three – tease, denial, voyeurism and control. I wonder what that says about the state of the world?

This shot is from Mrs Steelwerks.

Two Sessions with Domina Yuki

As I covered in previous posts, I was down in San Francisco before Thanksgiving and had the opportunity to play with Domina Yuki once again. In past years a week’s vacation would have been an excuse to cram in multiple sessions with multiple different dommes. These days I tend to be more restrained (ahem), playing with people I already know and have history with. Given I first played with Domina Yuki back in 2011, we’ve no shortage of history.

This time we coordinated a couple of sessions, with a rest day in-between. I find that approach works well, as it gives chance to reestablish a connection and make any adjustments between sessions that might be desired. I also love the rest day, as it combines the buzz from the first session with the anticipation of the second.

Domina Yuki was kind enough to snap some pictures, which I thought I’d share links to here.

This set-up has me on the floor, chained to a padded board, with my legs suspended from a pulley system. It’s a position that gives the submissive a lovely view of the domme towering over him. Unfortunately, it also places the soles of the submissive’s feet in a very vulnerable position, which Domina Yuki was quick to take advantage of. I’m not sure what was worse – the tickling she administered or these spiky clamps!

This scene has me in a different type of suspension, with belts around my legs and waist being used used to hold me off the floor. It’s a clever set-up, as its fairly quick to establish but still gives that unique sensation you get from hanging from a hardpoint in the ceiling. It also leaves you very vulnerable and open to whatever the domme might choose to do.

The featured shot below shows a sequence we did on a padded table. Domina Yuki built a lot of layers of sensation here, featuring leather mittens, plastic wrap, chains, needles and a ball crusher. Out of shot there’s also a head stabilizing device, held in place with leather straps. You can see a top down view here. The plastic wrap and the chains are a nice combination. You get tightness and immobility from the first, drama and fun clinking noises from the second. While the needles in the cock look dramatic, it’s the nipple clamps that really hurt here.

Finally, here’s a shot of a bondage scene in a chair. There’s more plastic wrap involved, along with a leather posture collar, blindfold and long bondage gloves. I always love to be sat on in these situations. It’s both sensual and objectifying. Of course, there’s a price to be paid for the sexy bits. That price is the ouchy bits. Which are still sexy in their own special way.

My thanks to Domina Yuki for creating these fabulous sessions and taking the time to record them for posterity. Writing this post triggered many memories of our past play and left with me with a warm happy glow.

Sadistic Florist

This beautiful shot comes courtesy of Mistress Estelle Leon via Bluesky. It looks like what’d happen if Dexter decided to flower arranging. As I mentioned in an earlier post, this combination of objectification and being aesthetically pleasing is one I love. You can see more shots from the series in her original post.

Mistress Estelle Leon is a pro-domme based in Melbourne, Australia. You can find her professional site here.

2024’s Lamp Entry

We’re almost at the end of  the year and I just realized I’ve yet to feature a 2024 lamp entry. For those of you that have no idea what I’m talking about, I am of course referring to my intermittent by long running series on submissives as lamps. The first entry was back in 2011, with periodic updates over the years. The 6th and most recent was back in 2023. So let’s illuminate the winter months of ’24 with a new entry.

This one comes courtesy of Miss Ruby Alexia. I guess technically the submissive is standing in the lamp, rather than actually pretending to be one, but I think the judges will still count it.

Home Again

I’m back in Seattle after a fun few days in San Francisco. In a future post I’ll hopefully have some photos to share from the two sessions I did with Domina Yuki.

While they were great sessions, they were less intense than some of the past play we’ve had together (for example here and here). That was at my request. I’ve found that my pain tolerance varies inversely with my general stress level. If I’m stressed then more of my mental and physical capacity is sucked up by that, leaving less for handling kinky pain or torments. With a crazy job, some interment insomnia and the election fallout I’m definitely not at my mental best. That meant steering clear of heavy corporal play or intense CBT on this trip.

One kinky thing that I do find aligns well with stress is bondage. It’s nice to be able to relax and zone out while getting wrapped up. The shot below is a lovely example. This isn’t from my sessions, but was sourced via Trinity’s Bsky feed. You can find the original post here.

Floral

Continuing the theme of finds from Bluesky – this lovely image comes courtesy of Sacred Sadism via Your Master Gardener. Although I have zero interest in gardening I always find these kind of shots very appealing. I think it’s the combination of objectification combined with being made into something desirable and aesthetically pleasing. I suspect for a lot of male submissives that’s not a common feeling.