The beauty of dominant women
If you’re NYC based and interested in kink workshops then you might want to check out the Taillor Collective. There’s a good article on them in The Cut which goes into particular detail on their pegging workshop. It looks like they also run Femdom parties if you’re less into lessons and more into playing.
This isn’t an image from one of their parties. It’s a somewhat random strap-on shot I found via a tumblr. No idea of the source but I like the apparent candid nature of it.
I’m beginning to think that somebody over at the Guardian has a bit of a thing for feet. After the previous post’s story on Lily Allen selling foot pictures they’ve now published this one on journalist Zing Tsjeng’s experience on being featured on Wikifeet. I’m all for kink related stories, but two foot fetish stories in a week? Surely not a coincidence.
Personally, I think the best part about foot worship is the resulting view. And while I’ve nothing against the naked foot, I always find them sexier wrapped in leather and grinding on some delicate part of me.
I believe the domme on the left is Anita Blare. I don’t have an attribution for the domme on the right. If you can help me with that then feel free to leave a comment.
I’m not sure how I feel about this story about Lily Allen selling foot pictures on OnlyFans. On on one hand destigmatizing foot fetishes and selling erotic content is a good thing. On the other, the history of celebrities getting involved in sites like OnlyFans is not a good one. I suspect she’s doing it mostly as a joke, which doesn’t bode well. And the numbers the article throws around for the potential income are very silly.
The good news is that whatever celebrities do, there’s no danger of the web running out of pictures of feet anytime soon.
I was amused by this Guardian story about the ruckus triggered by a female-only exhibition in Tasmania. The artist Kirsha Kaechele opened a ‘Ladies Lounge which included, as part of the artist’s intent, men’s experiences of exclusion’. Some man got butthurt about not being allowed in, sued for access and won. Kirsha therefore decided to hang a couple of the Picasso’s from the exhibit in the ladies loo. It’s a nice response, which could only be improved if she also hung reproductions of the paintings from the museum giftshop in the man’s loo. You can read an interview with Kirsha here.
The bit that caught me eye for the purposes of this blog was…
The Ladies Lounge, which opened in 2020, saw women who entered the space pampered by male butlers and served champagne while surrounded by some of the museum’s finest pieces of art.
Sounds lovely. I can only hope she advertised appropriately for the butlers. I’m sure there would have been plenty of men willing to do it for free.
This was sourced from the Madam Is All tumblr. I believe that’s English domme Miss Suzanna Maxwell.
Writing my previous post on HOM reminded me of the site The Rialto Report. If you’re interested in the golden era of adult movies and magazines it’s a fascinating resource. It has a lot of really detailed and well researched articles on many performers and producers from the 70’s and 80’s.
Sadly, the vast majority of it is regular porn, with not a lot of kink or fetish. However, there are a few exceptions. I featured it in this post which links to an article on an early femdom producer and this one on a classic fetish fashion designer. There’s also articles and interviews with well known stars whose careers took them across a wide variety of genres and kinks. For example, Porsche Lynn was a famous adult movie star before opening the dungeon she continues to run today. She’s interviewed across a two part podcast here and here. There’s also an interview with the fabulous Nina Hartley, who has not only created a huge amount of adult content but is also a free speech and industry spokesperson.
This is Nina in a shoot for the Whipped Ass site.
The Chicago Reader has a short but interesting article on HOM (aka House of Milan) and one of its founders – Barbara Behr. It’s a flashback to a pre-internet age, where kinky porn was rare and existed very much in the shadows.
House of Milan was on of the ‘big’ three publishers of bondage material from the mid 70’s through to mid 90’s. I put ‘big’ in quotation marks because all three – HOM, Harmony Concepts, Calstar – were tiny and very niche by modern standards. It’s an era I’ve heard referred to as The Golden Age of Bondage Productions, which strikes me as a very misleading title. It suggests a lot of great material was being produced, where the reality was that the bondage was often poor and the shots of low quality. Operating on the fringes of legality with limited sales channels and minimal competition doesn’t typically lead to a high quality product.
That said, I do find the era and the people who worked in it fascinating. A lot of the artists have since become recognized, but the models, editors and photographers are a lot harder to track down. I featured a post on John Blakemore back in 2012 and I’m happy to add this one on Barbara. She worked as an editor, organizer and general manager for HOM, and involved a lot of other women in the business before sadly passing away in the 90’s.
Most of the content produced was M/f, but there was the occasional femdom. For example, this magazine, which was edited by Barbara and published in 1983.
It’s always fun when your kinks sneak up on you. I had that experience today in Whole Foods. After recovering from my bout of Covid I needed to restock my cupboards. I was therefore squeezing fruit and weighing vegetables in the produce section when I was passed by a female store employee in a long rubber apron. Totally conventional outfit for someone whose job is dealing with moist and sticky products and 100%Â practical. However, some tiny bit of my brain still went “Oooh! Long rubber apron. That’s kind of hot.”
Admittedly, I had been stuck in my condo for a week alone, so it’s possible I was slightly sensory deprived. She was also kind of cute. But that was an observation made only after the industrial green apron had kicked into life some kinky braincells. It’s always fun to be reminded of how weird you can be whilst trying to pick between bunches of cilantro.
This is Domina Juniper Dolor, sporting the kind of apron you’re very unlikely to find in your local grocery store. She’s a Bay area based pro-domme and this was sourced via her twitter feed.
DomCon LA just wrapped up and – as is their tradition – there was a big group shot of all the dommes. Or at least all those who were comfortable appearing on camera. The copy below is shrunk to fit my format, but you can see the original fullsize version by sweet girl julia here.
I’ve featured these shots before (e.g. 2019 here) and I always enjoy them. It reminds me of what a big wide world it is and how many kinky people are out there. Although I spend a lot of time in online kinky spaces (twitter, tumblr, blogs like this, pro-domme sites, etc.) I still tend to see a lot of the same faces and names. It’s only natural – the human brain can only handle so many connections. Seeing a shot like this, where I recognize very few people, is a good reminder of the bigger picture.
Originally posted in this tweet. If you’d like to support the photographer of all these shots over the years then the tweet also has her cashapp info.
The Queen femdom archetype is the fourth and final one defined by Mistress Damiana Chi. It’s probably the one with the biggest gap between it’s depiction online in pro-domme advertising and its actual usage.
Online it’s a fantasy depicted everywhere – the regal and superior domme who is so much better than all you lowly servant types. In a pro-domme sessions it would seem harder to work with. It needs a servant type dynamic, where seems easier in a more organic lifestyle set-up. The mainstream depiction of pro-domme lifestyle – where they lounge around sneering at dutiful minions as they clean their house and peel grapes – rarely seems to work out in reality.
This regal figure is Mistress Luna May. She’s a pro-domme based in Heidelberg, Germany. You can find her professional site here and her twitter feed here.
Our exploration of femdom archetypes brings us to the third on the list – the mommy domme.
Arguably this is the most ambiguous one. The most obvious characteristics it brings to mind are nurturing, controlling and infantilizing. Someone who knows what’s best for you and won’t let you stray far from that path. However, the modern mommy domme kink has become a much more widespread phenomena than it used to be, with a wide range of play styles. It’s not just about ABDL and bedtime spankings. Now they can also be mean, manipulating, authoritarian, jealous and sexual. I think it’s a case where there’s both an archetype and a powerful taboo roleplay, which can intersect in complicated ways.
I’m not entirely sure where I found this image, but it definitely gave me mommy domme vibes.