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More virtuality

Following up to yesterday’s post, I’ve a few random additional thoughts and links on the idea of VR and femdom.

For more background on kink.com’s attempts in this space, there’s a short behind the scenes film from Divine Bitches here. Unfortunately, it doesn’t give you much idea about the final results. Even the performers seem uncertain about the whole thing. There’s also a company working on a 3D interactive femdom experience. No offense to anyone working on that, but I think it demonstrates my point that we’re still a couple of hardware generations away from anything realistic.

The tech guy in me is thinking that we need a standard for control channel metadata, outside the video/audio experience. Imagine a POV scene that had additional information to control things like vibrating butt plugs and electrified cock rings. I’ve had some amazing experiences lying down while the domme stood or leaned over me and did evil things to my genital region. With VR, teledildonics and the appropriate control data standards that would seem to be an experience that could be mimicked to some extent. Of course the problem with standards is that they’re so good, everyone wants to have one.

I also think there’s some interesting scope to play with VR in real life scenes. Sensory deprivation and sensory overload has always been part of the BDSM tool chest, although mostly focused on touch. When it comes to vision the options have been limited just to deprivation until now. A VR headset might create alternatives to do heavy layering of visual and auditory systems while adding or removing sensations elsewhere. It removes an element of the interaction in the scene, but so does a blindfold or earplugs, and they’re common toys people use.

POV Here’s another extreme image of the kind that would work well in VR for fans of high heels and POV femdom porn.

Discovered Femdom

My post from a few days ago, featuring an image that wasn’t actually femdom in the original context, got me thinking about similar images. I mentally categorize this type of material as ‘discovered’ femdom, in the sense that it’s discovered by the viewer rather than (necessarily) intended by the original artist. I’ve posted these kind of images in the past, for example here, here and here. They’re images that will appeal in different ways to different people. Not all submissives may get the same dominant vibe from them that I do. And non-submissives may like them for entirely different reasons.

While it’s hard to put into words exactly what makes one image work and another not, I have noticed two common components. One is very direct eye contact. Another is a composition that places the camera at a slightly lower vantage point than normal. That these two components work so well shouldn’t be surprising to me. I also find it very appealing when a mistress leans over and makes eye contact while torturing me. That pushes me very quickly into a submissive space. Clearly there’s something pretty fundamental about those components, so fundamental in fact that they even work when present in non-obvious femdom contexts.

I wonder if it’s something to do with childhood. That was a time when I literally looked up to every female authority figure. And adults always tends to engage very directly and stare straight at children when talking to them, something that doesn’t typically happen between two adults. I had a very normal and relatively liberal childhood. It seems pretty disgusting and discomforting to think back to the relationship between my mother (or my aunt or my nursery teacher or whoever) and the infant paltego and connect that to my kinky sexuality now. I’ve certainly no desire to do age related role-play. But the deep seated appeal of the stare from above has to come from somewhere and that seems to be as good a place as any.

Just as a random aside, I wonder if the growth in gay marriage and same sex households with adopted kids will make research in this area easier? Looking at the differences in the percentages of men attracted to female dominance from m+m, f+m and f+f parents would be interesting. Of course controlling for others factors is highly non-trivial.

This image is a particularly clever example of one making effective use of both components. Using the mirror it manages to create eye contact, a upwards POV type shot and a great view of her beautiful behind. Not sure what it does for anyone else out there, but it sure works for me.

Torture by jpg

I’ve never considered myself a switch. While in my daily interactions I’m a pretty forward and forceful guy, I’m 100% submissive masochist when it comes to my personal and sexual life. However, I think just for a few brief moments here I have the chance to play sadist and torture some of my submissive readers.

Take a long look at this image. Now, aren’t your eyes constantly drawn to that little drop of moisture? Don’t you feel an overpower urge to lick it off? Can’t you just imagine running your tongue along her ass and up to that delicate liquid bead?

I think this image is the still equivalent of those animated gifs where the submissive is teased on a never ending loop (for example this one). I can’t stare at it too long without feeling horny and tense.

I found it on the Someday Afternoon tumblr site. It’s originally from the FTV Girls site.

Site Updates

I’ve added four new blogs to my blogroll: Tales of a Domme by Dishevelled Domina, The Edge of Vanilla by Tom Allen, Delving into Deviance by Dev and She Rules the Rooster by lovetosubmit. Regular readers may remember the first three of these blogs being referenced in an earlier post discussing the devaluation of submissive men.

I’ve also added five new tumblr sites to my image page: Domenique von Sternenberg, Domme and Pet in Love, Femdom Marriage, Yes Mistress (aka dominance and submission) and Intellectually Frustrated (aka Mistress A).

To complement this update, and in the manner of a fine dining restaurant, I thought I’d offer up a duo of femdom images. On the top we have a classical presentation, eschewing fetish ingredients in favor of a traditional composition with a hairbrush, short skirt and stern look. It was sourced originally from Strict Miss and arrives on our menu via Femdom Marriage. In contrast below that we have a very different approach, packed with strong femdom flavors and layered with many rich fetish textures. It finds itself on the menu courtesy of Mistress Domenique von Sternenberg.

Scenic viewpoint, next exit.

I was browsing Mistress A’s rather interesting tumblr site, when this particular image stopped me dead in my browsing tracks. Not because it’s a particularly amazingly hot image, although I do like it in a general sense. But because it’s exactly the view I had of proceedings on Friday night. I was a little distracted at the time by a metal sound that was being periodically inserted and removed. Plus, a TENS unit that was delivering shocks via the sound and some conductive pads stuck to my balls. There were also some nipple clamps involved somewhere. Oh, and a bunch of rope bondage as well. But when I did manage to grab some moments to focus on the world around me, this was the exact view I was admiring.

I was a little into subspace, which makes it kind of hard to form coherent thoughts. There were also a fair few painful things happening, which doesn’t help the intellectual process. Despite that, I do remember thinking “I’m the luckiest man in the world. There is nowhere else I’d rather be right now.” The whole scene gave me a sense of happiness and well being that stayed with me all through the next day. And just the act of typing this, and thinking back to that moment, makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside.

This little piggy shot all the others in the head

Anyone who has seen this From Dusk Till Dawn scene would suspect Quentin Tarantino of foot fetish and submissive tendencies. Most men when given control of a scene featuring themselves with Salma Hayek in a strip club would not naturally gravitate to a ‘foot jammed in mouth’ sequence (readers of this blog possibly excepted).

Well after a recent kiss-and-tell email, the suspicion has been transformed into something a little closer to fact.

As I’m trying to rapidly think of ways I can agent myself out of this deal, I hear what is without a doubt, the strangest question in the history of my life.

Quentin Tarantino asks, “Can I suck on your toes while I jerk off?”

What. The. Fuck.

Many of you may have seen this coming, as his foot fetish is WELL documented, but for some of us who spend more time watching Kate Hudson than we do Quentin Tarantino, this was a huge shock.

It has to be said that the writer doesn’t exactly cover herself in glory in her telling of the tale. Kissing and telling is never cool, and boasting about how lazy you are in bed, that you sneak through people’s belongings when given the chance, and belittling the guy you’ve been making out with, doesn’t really improve the situation. At the same time, my sympathy for Quentin is limited. Random girls you hookup with at a party are not bound by an NDA.

This is very definitely not the lady in question. It’s from the New Boot Black’s Oubliette, my immediate go to tumblr site for foot fetish shots.

Bang. Bang. You’re dead.

Gun play is (fortunately) not one of my many kinks. I was never exposed to guns as I was growing up, and never developed any kind of connection to them. They’re just not part of the culture in England in the same way as they are in the US.

As a kinky activity gun play seems to lack any kind of graduated scale. At least with something like breath play, which can also have a strong sense of drama and mortal danger, there’s varying degrees of intensity. Guns aren’t that scary, right up to the moment you’re dead. At which point it’s a little late for a safeword.

Despite all that, I kind of like this image, although I’m not completely sure why. The beautiful skin tone and sheen of sweat certainly helps. Not to mention her striking lips. But there’s also something iconic about that stance that appeals.

I found this on the gorean kajirus tumblr site.

Site Updates

I’ve made a number of updates to the site.

Over on the Femdom Image page I’ve added five new links: dommepics, Awesome Femdom, Erotic Haecceities, Her Dominion and Chastity Tigger. I also deleted a couple of sites that appeared to be dead.

On the Femdom Fiction page I added two new links. One to to Understories, a collection of BDSM themed stories, and one to the descriptively named Erotic Mind-Control Story Archive.

Finally, I’ve added a link to Mistress Milliscent’s blog over to the right on my pro-domme blogroll. She’s from the same part of the world I’m in (Seattle area), and writes on a wide variety of topics, not just the standard kink themes common on other pro-domme blogs.

Image is originally from Noemis World, but found on the humbly titled Awesome Femdom tumblr site. If you’re into feet or foot worship then you might like this particular tumblr, as its femdom material is heavily skewed in that direction.

Pucker up

Here’s another example of an image where it’s the backward glance over the shoulder that makes it work for me. The rest of the view is fairly spectacular of course. But despite that beautiful perspective, it’s her expression that elevates the image. It’s a playful, teasing look, but with a degree of condescension about it. She’s amused at the effect she having, and aware of the control it gives her. “Go ahead,” I can imagine her saying, “stop staring, lean forward and pucker up those lips…”

I found this image on the Library Vixen tumblr site.