Ruined Orgasm – Femdom Resource

Ruining is all the fun

Fans of ruined orgasms and milking play might enjoy these two tumblrs: Forced to Cum and Eternally Edged. The animated gif is almost the perfect format for presenting these kind of teasing shots, and both of them feature them heavily. I don’t want to have a huge animated image on my front page, but click through on the still below to see one particularly entertaining example. I love their gleeful looks.

This is captured from a movie by Christina Qccp (the lady clapping in the back). If you want to see more from her then she has a professional website and a movie site with loads of bondage and ruined orgasms shots.

The .GIFYS

Somebody had the bright idea to put up a web site to award the best animated gifs for the year. It’s not exactly the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences, and quite honestly I think you can find funnier animated gifs in 10 minutes of tumblr browsing, but it was enough to get featured on what passes for news coverage these days.

The awards feature a number of categories (animals, news, sports, the unavoidable cats), but the glaring omission is sex. Looped animated gifs are perfect for sex clips and somebody needs to step up asap with the animated adult GIFYS.

I maintain a tumblr for femdom gifs, mostly to avoid paying the bandwidth costs of featuring them here. If I was looking for an adult GIFYS nomination, I’d start with the one below (click the image to see it). The look on her face at the end is priceless (and sexy). It’s a condescending stare of “Really? Did you have to? What a mess….”

Bitesize animations

The last few posts have all been kind of wordy, so here’s one with a visual focus. It’s a collection of fun animations hosted on tumblr. Simply click on each image to jump through to the relevant post and enjoy the animated gif.

Me, me, me also …

Mistress T’s blog is always entertaining to read, but her last couple of posts have been particularly intriguing. The first was a list of qualities she looked for in a potential mate and an invitation for any guys who matched up to email her. This struck me as a post likely to attract both attention and a wide range of responses. As Mistress Eleise de Lacy recently wrote and I’ve posted on in the past, the online dating story for dominant women is not a pretty one. I’m sure that it’s only a small fraction of men that ruin it for the rest of us. However, with 3 billion men in the world, even if only 1% are interested in dominant women, and only 1% of those are idiots, that’s still 300,000 socially challenged males to deal with.

I was fully expecting to see a follow-up post where Mistress T tried to inject a little reality into the responses. Something along the lines of – “200 lbs and 5’5″ does not equal fairly fit. Please stop sending me cock shots. A job as drummer for a Winger cover band does not equally financially secure, particularly if you’re still living in your parent’s basement. I am very sure that the act of fucking you will not suddenly turn me monogamous. And seriously, enough with the cock shots.”

Sure enough, there was a follow-up post, which mentioned the record amount of feedback the original post generated. However,what really amazed me was that some guys thought the criteria she laid out was too strict. I’m slightly surprised that anyone would think that, as it’s a very reasonable list of requirements. I’m even more surprised that some guys would be self-critical enough to understand that they didn’t make the bar. After all doesn’t everyone think they’re smart, witty and great in bed? I mean I know I am, but a lot of other guys can be strangely delusional about stuff like that, poor chaps.

Sadly I live in Seattle, which looks close to Vancouver if you use an atlas and squint, but in reality is a few hours away via the joy of Interstate 5. On the plus side, this post does give me an excuse to feature a few pictures of Mistress T. The first two I picked for her very entertaining expressions. The last because she looks wonderful in it and it’s nice to feature something non-explicit or kinky now and again. You can see a lot more of her at her main site.

Oh, and the post title? Taken from this appropriate scene, in one of my favorite movies. Andie Macdowell is a tough woman to please.

Crazy ninja skills

Here’s a shot captured at the perfect moment. What I particularly like is her look of concentration and the position of her hands. I feel like she has just pulled off the five point palm exploding penis technique. I’m not sure what crazy kinky mountain dwelling mistress would teach this, but I would love to see the training montage for it.

I found this on the Submissive Me tumblr. From doing a reverse image search I believe the original source is LilusHandjobs site. Check it out if you want to buy the video version.

Big brother is watching you

Anyone writing a sex blog has to consider the issues of privacy and anonymity. Just how much do you reveal to the world about your life and what risks are you prepared to take with your real identity? A few bloggers choose to share their identity, most hide behind a pseudonym. Similarly when it comes to personal images, a few post faces shots, but most choose to censor to some extent. There’s a tricky balance to strike between sharing interesting information and creating potential problems for daily life outside of kink.

When I started writing this blog I made a conscious decision on where I was going to draw that line. I definitely wanted to share very personal thoughts, activities and images from my life. At the same time I didn’t want this blog popping up on search engines for anyone looking for the ‘real life’ me. As a result, while I’m safe from family members or employees googling me, anyone who knows me and happened to browse this blog would probably identify me fairly quickly. I think a combination of the about page, the personal snippets that sneak into posts and the body shots of my sessions would be enough for that. I think it’s fairly unlikely to happen, and it wouldn’t be the end of the world if it did, but it’s definitely a possibility that lurks uncomfortably in the back of my brain.

I was therefore intrigued to see a letter to Dan Savage in a recent column touching on this very issue.

How are you supposed to react to the discovery—entirely accidental—that your youngest brother has a “femdom” relationship with his wife? I stumbled over my brother’s “anonymous” sex blog. It goes into detail about the “domestic discipline” she subjects him to: humiliation, spanking, “ruined orgasms” (whatever that is!), cuckolding. There are no names, but there are pictures. Their faces are blurred out, but I recognize their living room, their bedroom, the necklace my sister-in-law wears, my brother’s chin and hair.

The actual blog isn’t mentioned, but I couldn’t help wondering if it belonged to any of my readers. Or even if it was one of the blogs on my blogroll. If you’re a femdom blogger reading this and have an older brother who has suddenly started behaving oddly and will not meet your eye, then you may have a very awkward conversation in your future. That is if he doesn’t follow Dan’s advice to keep his mouth shut.

There is of course the issue of exactly how the older brother ‘stumbled’ on their sex blog. It’s not the kind of thing one would typically come across via normal aimless browsing. From the letter he seems a little confused about what a ruined orgasm is, so on the off-chance he also inadvertently stumbles onto this blog, I thought I’d help him out. The images below are from animated gifs showing a trio of nicely ruined orgasms. Click through to see the animations on tumblr.

Endless orgasms

Sorry, but this post doesn’t describe any secret techniques for achieving them. Instead it’s a collection of looped animations featuring milking, teasing and ruined orgasms. I’m not a fan of having the flicker of animations on my front page, so click on the pictures to see the animated versions in their tumblr postings.

The money shot

Here’s another appealing trio of images. The final one is the money shot, both in the traditional porn movie sense, and in the more specific femdom sense. You can see the original full size version of it over at the Femdom Proper tumblr site.

There’s a lot to like in that final image. Obviously there’s the beauty of a ruined orgasm caught at the critical moment. There’s her hand gripping his balls, squeezing as necessary to blend a little pain into the mix. There’s the comfortable like a cat position she’s adopted, curled up on the chair while he stands naked beside it. And finally, there’s the expression on her face. She looks intrigued, amused and satisfied by the effect she’s achieved.

I’m afraid I don’t have an original source for these images. If anyone knows then leave a comment I’ll update the post appropriately.

The conundrum of animated gifs

I’m typically not a fan of animated gifs on my front page. The constant flickering motion is distracting and aesthetically displeasing. They also make the page slow to load and burn big chunks of my bandwidth. However, they can also be kind of fun. They’re ideally suited for endless teasing shots where final satisfaction is never quite achieved.

To square this particular circle I’m going to publish static stills that link to the relevant tumbr posts with the full gif. So just click on the images below to see the animated originals. I particularly like the middle/left shot with the dripping cock. She looks delighted with her leaky toy.

Ruined Orgasm Clips

I came across these on the cocosel tumblr site. They’re short clips from RobandJill.com, showing a nice mixture or teasing and ruined orgasms.

A standard clip of a woman masturbating a man has relatively little interest to me. It’s simply one of a million porn shots floating around out there. But by taking something away, having her stop at the critical point, it suddenly becomes very compelling.

There’s something very animalistic about the immediate lead up to orgasm for a man. Beyond a magic tipping point all the muscles just start doing their own thing, and everything automatically runs to a finish, with the higher brain functions just along for the ride. I think it’s this very primal response that makes a ruined orgasm so exciting. A little like breathplay, it’s messing with some very deep in-built mental wiring.